I cannot believe that it’s been a year since I lost my anonymity. This time last year, I was putting finishing touches on my January 1st post that revealed my face, pictures that I was not crazy about because I hated my hair. How time has gone by. It’s been a very, very fast year, and naturally, I have learned a lot of crazy things. Below are just a few in random order:
1. Making plans is a lot easier than executing them, but executing them is very possible.
2. A person will only treat you as good or as bad as you let them.
3. People respect you a lot more when you don’t need them.
4. Relationships do not have to be half as hard as we make them.
5. If you don’t like something or someone, change it (or them).
6. Being a victim to your situation is a very debilitating illness.
7. It’s actually possible for a pastor to be full of shit.
8. Our [Nigerian] culture is killing us.
9. A lot of us [Nigerians] have the attitude and mentality of a pauper.
10. I am only able to love those who love me.
11. I don’t understand unconditional love.
12. We always have a choice.
13. Family does not mean friend[ship].
14. My Christianity is in my heart.
15. Sometimes we fear becoming something so much that we end up becoming it.
16. My mother is an angel.
17. Igwe has surpassed my expectations of him. And my expectations were very high.
18. God is so, so, so good. And I don’t know why.
19. It is true that girls get excited about nothing — and then they marry it.
20. Had I married any of them, my life would have been fucked up.
21. I enjoy cooking. Sometimes. I think.
22. My interests are growing and evolving.
23. Sometimes you outgrow people.
24. My dreams are vast.
25. And this is an important one: My love for bread has been rekindled (not that it ever died).
These are just some of the lessons I learned in 2012. Tomorrow, I’ll tell you about some of my plans for 2013. I don’t remember if I have ever done that before – I mean mention my plans publicly. Later today, Igwe and I will be Downtown Baltimore ushering the New Year in, by God’s grace. We’ll stand outside with fellow Americans and freeze our asses off while we watch fireworks and marvel at their beauty, like we have never seen them before. At midnight, we will do like we did this year: hold hands and pray. Goodbye 2012.
What lessons have you learned? I’d like to learn from you, too.
Was going to list out all the ones I agree with but I don’t have the energy to retype more than half of your blog post. Happy new year dear.
By the way I had a dream about you haha… 🙂
What?!?!?!?! No way!! You gotta tell me what the dream was about. I like knowing these sort of things. And I wish you had typed out the ones you agree with me on. I wanna know, darn it!
Luv d ‘hold hands nd pray together’ part…wish I cld do same wt ma fiancee bt we r in different cities cz of work.
Happy new year in advance.
Awwww. That sucks. Not to worry, it’ll change. These are some of the sacrifices we have to make in life to get what we want. Happy New Year 🙂
⌣»̶·̵̭̌·̵̭̌✽̤̈̊Ŧђɑ̤̥̈̊п̥̥̲̣̣̣kƨ̣̣̣̇̇̇̇✽̤̈̊·̵̭̌·̵̭̌«̶⌣ vera,I pray to get ur kinda ‘unaware nd lovely’ marriage proposal,maybe we cld hold hands nd pray tgeda in 2014.*winks*
Nneky,
LOL. Well, then, I pray that you get your heart’s desire(s). We can definitely hold hands and pray. Thank you so much 🙂
Vera,
You hit the nail!!!! #19 & #20 made me finger snap, cry, and etc! and #23 (*in my bmore voice* gurrrlllaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh aint that the truth)
But I learned:
#1. You can’t please everyone. Do your best and as long as your ok with, move the hell on.
#2. Do your best in everything!
#3. If your not happy about a situation or a person. Change it or remove that person from your life
#4. Not every advice that comes your way is for you
#5 Know your worth and someone down the line will appreciate it and treat you like you deserve
#6 YOLO….. you only live once…so Live. Love. Laugh
#7. Past mistakes are PAST mistakes. Learn from it, dont beat yourself up about it, and don’t repeat it.
#8. Trust your instincts
#9. Never apologize for going out of your comfort zone…that is how you grow….
#10. Your walk with God is different from other walks. Treat God like a full-time job and you’ll get full time benefits…
#11 Try something new
#12 Dont cheat yourself thinking you are incapable.
#13 Be graceful & respect others
ok im done…
Lola, I lovvvve your list. I think number one and number ten are my favorite. It really is missile to please everyone, and I am not even gonna try. I’ll put myself first before I consider others, too. I cannot die for anyone Biko. And yes, everyone’s walk with God is different. Christianity is a very personal race, like marriage. You shouldn’t try to do what everyone else is doing; you have to create your own relationship with God, and let Him be the Guide.
I think we are on the same wavelength here… it’s comforting. Especially in regards to numbers 22 and 24.
I had to go back and read numbers 22 and 24. Yes, indeed! There is so much I wanna do that I don’t even discuss with people. I just imagine it all in my head.
Number 18, reallllyyy love that..God has been soo good i can’t explain it and it tops my list for the year…i also loved the fact that you guys had to pray together and all ….well i ddnt have that opportunity cos I got ‘brutally hit’ (if you know what i mean) towards the end of the year but its alright i’m still standing,thankfully!
These are my thoughts for 2012:
1. God has been so so good!
2. I am NOT perfect, i make mistakes..so does everyone!..the world is not written in black and white is it??
3. Nothing ventured, nothing gained
4. Breakfast is extremely necessary, its a good way to kickstart the day.
5. The trick is to keep looking forward…life goes on, it has to.
6. Give yourself a treat once in while.
7.learn to let things go…still learning though!
8. i also learned to treat others wit kindness and respect…”what you give is what you get’ right?
9. Sometimes just have to take or better still ‘grab’ what you want instead of waiting around.
10. The truth is not everybody likes you…infact people hate your guts!
ermmm…ok, that’s about it i guess