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April 1, 2024

2023 Was On Autopilot + Mental Health Support

Funmie says I need therapy. She's probably right. I should probably be exploring mental health support. So much has happened in the past few years, but losing my mom tops them all. My mom passed away in April 2022, and then, the rest of the year just became busy with other changes and realities in my life. Planning a funeral, for example, was a reality I was not ready to face. I did not think I was old enough or experienced enough to be burying a parent. But I did. Exploring mental health Read More

April 24, 2023

It’s Been A Year Since My Mom Transitioned

We all die, right? I mean, we all know that eventually, we all die. We do not leave here alive. We are born, we live, and then, we die. Or in my dad's favorite words, "we perish." I don't like perish by the way. We're not fruits. As of the typing of this post, it's a few days to the anniversary of my mom's transition. I'm sitting in a booth in Panera Bread, people-watching and thinking. There was a little white boy in the booth in front of me. I'd peg him to be about a year and a half old. He Read More

February 13, 2023

Conversations With God About My Dating Life

Dating can be one kind. Sometimes, it feels like a cool breeze on a hot summer day, and sometimes, it feels like learning the anatomy of a dinosaur in Mandarin.As it came to pass, I was actively trying and failing to learn the anatomy of a dinosaur in Mandarin. The harder I tried, the harder I failed. When complaining and crying myself to sleep made no difference, I resorted to talking to God, and He actually talked back. "Dear God," I cried, "I just want love. I want a man of integrity. I want Read More

May 26, 2022

I Lost My Mom

I cannot tell you how much time I spent agonizing over the title of this post. This post that I promised to publish last week Monday but failed to do, and it was not for lack of trying. This post that I do not want to write and cannot believe that I'm writing. In my head, if I write it, I will make it true. Yet, it's been one month since I last spoke to my mom, and I have never gone this long without speaking to my mom. I have never even gone for up to a week without talking to her. So, it must Read More

February 7, 2022

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