…If I imagine my HUSBAND making love to me (as opposed to just plain ol’ imagination of some man that has not “made an honest woman out of me”)? Walahi, I imagine this thing in my head all the time. I actually make a conscious effort to picture the ring on his finger because I need to convince God – and myself, of course – that I am not just …. what’s the word? Fornicating!!! Yeah, isn’t this called fornication of the mind?? Well, it’s only fornication when you’re imagining someone that isn’t your husband. That’s my story, and I’m sticking to it.
I know what you’re thinking: “But Vera, you’re not married!” Ehen. If I’m not married nko? How is that one your business?? If you can dream it, you can be it. So I have been imagining myself married. Soon I will be married. As you all know, part of being married includes ehm… ehm… going to Jerusalem all willy nilly, so I have been picturing that also. Honestly, he has a ring in my mind. He’s my husband in my mind.
If you’re thinking the word I think you’re thinking, then please stop it right this minute. I am NOT masturbating. I repeat: I AM NOT MASTURBATING!!!!!!!!! I am simply imagining what will be. What is so wrong about that? Doggone it! He has a wedding band on….and so do I. I need someone to just validate me and tell me that it’s okay. Tell me I’m right. It might be in my head, but I think I hear God laughing right now. He just said, “This girl is straight trippin!'”
Lemme tell you how this “married love making” starts. It starts after the wedding, in the limo, on our way to the reception hall. With the bridesmaids in the car, we’ll be all up on each other. Then my bridesmaids will get pissed and irritated, step out of the limo, and take a cab to the reception venue. Actually, it’s a lot more fun in my imagination when they each mount an okada., hair flying in the air, and then all jacked up by the time they reach the reception hall … tears in the eyes from the wind… maybe their dresses will get ripped too ….. but I digress. So when they get off the limo, hubby and I go to Jerusalem. Bingo!
Then at the reception hall, we have to change into our traditional outfits. We tell everyone to get the heck out of the room and give us some time to “talk.” So yeah, we go to Jerusalem again. Thennnnnn after the reception, we continue wherever we spend the night. But see, the entire time, we’re married. We have been pronounced husband and wife. This can’t possibly be fornication of the mind, can’t it??
Say it isn’t so!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I’m off to imagine stuff.
I hope ur radio show is going on well
vera, is this post tryna suggest sum'in? has mr shoes proposed?
Personally, I see it as fantasizin. Not like u're conjuring up these images/scenarios for lustful purposes. Or are you? Remember it's always about the heart…if your spirit(not yourself o) is convicting you then you should probably pray about it.
Now I think this is a psycho case…VERA PLSSSSSSSSSSS STOP or I will call 911…biko!
LMAO….VERA!!!!!!!!!!!!
ARE YOU GETTTING MARRIED?!!!!!!!!!!
So like, if this man with the wedding band is mr. shoes, then you will need to Stop, because then thats fantazising and Wrong. hehehehe……eveil laughter. and remind me NOT to agree to bridesmaidship for your wedding.
It is not fornication jare. Shebi you are married as long as its in your mind sha.
Is there something you want to tell me Vera? Anywasy you know who to call to get that prenup! Haha we have to protect that intellectual property and the very fertile mind that is yours. Even if ahem mr we know who provides a few laughs!
LMAO! Vera has kilt me oh!
Say what you will oh, its fornication. Reminds me of those who justify their kpanshing with "in my mind we are married".LOL…go and with your bad self and fantasize freely jare, lol
it is not fornication but hallucinatory-delusional verbalizations…you need sex to good get your mind aright!
Veraaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!
Vera!!!!!!!!!!!, u are amazing!!!!, imagine such wild thoughts. Na wa for u oh….lol. I dont know what to say, but according to the bible it sure is fornication if u are not married oh!. You can imagine being married without thinking of sex can't u??, sex isn't the only thing married pple do abi?
U are funny!!
I agree with 48; u r indeed fantasizing, which in a way isn't wrong, but there's a thin line between that and fornicating in ur mind, so be careful not to cross it…plus, if he has proposed (and a very big yaaay! and congrats to that)it might be a good idea not to delay the wedding; make it sharpish!
lol @ ur "evil desire" 4 ur bridesmaids…okada? lol…n 2 send ur guests outta d reception hall so u can do? haba! easy done it Vera…LOL.
Going to Jerusalem… A new one for my dictionary.
lol, Going to Jerusalem now means having sex? thanks for the update!
you are doing nothing wrong my dear..lol
and apologiez for not being able to follow your show, I really want to but I'll be in bed by that time. I also wanted to hear the recap but so much crazy stuff has happened lately I haven't ahd the time.
LOL..I love your blog!!! But don't worry..No one's perfect, I have those imaginations once in a while…God knows our hearts! Cuz it sure isnt easy…the waiting game…Be strong! And by God's grace you'll get married soon so your imagination can rest a lil…:-)
Ehen?
So this oneis allowed ehn?
Interesting…..
mehn vera seriously ehn..i dont know how u think of all this hard, head cracking questions to ask o….oh well im sure its wat u radio hosts do!
lol..at the post…its hilarious o!!
nd is it still fornication???
dat one me i dont kno…but since u have chosen to answer the question that u asked us, urself…den we call it a day..
Yinkuslolo: Hahaaha. First of all, I never mentioned Mr. Shoes in this post. Secondly, no, he has not proposed. Why would he? Did I ever say we're dating? LOL! Radio show is going great.
48: Yes, fantasizing is the word. I really am not conjuring them up for lustful purposes. Love making is not the only image I conjure up. I also conjure up children, vacations, etc. I don't know if my spirit is convicting me, but I will surely pray about it.
Sassy Trends: LOL!!! See me see wahala ooo. You'll call 911 on top of my own fantasy? Wetin now? Hahaha.
Temite: So if it's Mr. Shoes, I should stop??? I don't understand. But why??? To be completely honest, this is something I've been doing for years, but the husband is usually faceless. These days, he has a face. I haven't said it's Mr. Shoes ooo! LOL. Anyway, I will definitely NOT be reminding you not to accept my bridesmaidship. Wetin sef??
Luscious Ron: Walahi, something dey worry all of una. I know I did not mention Mr. Shoes oooo! Why is everyone putting him inside this post? LOL. Anyway, we'll definitely be drawing up that prenup pronto! We have to protect all my assets (including the $165 I currently have in my savings account). LOL.
TayneMent: Stop this thing you're doing. I am not fornicating! Do you understand what I am saying? This one is not kpanshing… this is just ehm… dreaming and thinking and wishing and praying and hoping and fantasizing. Not fornication. Respect yasef oo
Baroque: You no well @ all. I'm tryna stay away from fornication of the mind, and you're luring me to the actual fornication. Stop it ooo! I don't need good sex. I'm okay with my bucket of ice cream! lol
Purple Streak: LOL. Yes, my dear… wetin I do?
Beulah: Ehm… yes, I agree, but it's hard to think about marriage without thinking about sex. I do think of other things though – like wearing matching outfits, eating from the same plate, going on vacays, having kids (which often leads to the process of making said kids… lol).
Anoda Phase: I am not engaged ooo! So having the wedding "sharpish" is not even an option – unless I intend on engaging and marrying myself. As much as I like being a trend setter, this is one trend I do not wanna set. That said, I'll try not to cry the line. Sheesh. LOL @ my plans 4 the bridesmaids. I wouldn't exactly call them evil. LOL
Cerberus: I'm glad you learn something every time. Now, aren't
you glad you came to Verastic dot com? LOL. Hahaha.
Adaeze: My dear, I've heard a few people referring to sex as going to Jerusalem, so I decided to join them too. I'm not doing anything bad (by fantasizing) abi? Thank you oh! LOL. Per the radio, it's okay, love. Join me when you can.
Blowing Blessings: Thanks, love!!! I'm glad you love my blog. Please come back… pretty please!!! God knows our hearts abi? Okay. As soon as I post these replies, I will get down on my knees and pray. There is so much I need to pray for/about
Brokeass: LOL. You sound like you're about to go and start doing something right now.
Gee: Hehehehe. Did I really answer the question?? I wouldn't say that I did. I still don't know. I know what I want the answer to be cause I really, really enjoy my fantasies. I fantasize about a lot oh (career, travelling, children, school, life in general). Oh, boy!!
Sebi na Jerusalem una dey go, abi? No problem… Holy place na holy place. And then d 2 both of u don join 2geder with no asunder on top – AH AH!!! U dey jo. Don mind d conscious wey dey catch person 😉
You are already a fornicator by just thinking about it. Infact, seeing as that is the case. you might as well go ahead and do the real thing.
Verah! Verah! If you like gather your 'children' around the bed while you and your 'husband' are in jerusalem,it is still lustful thinking(not really fornication.) Well if anybody questions you, tell them its just a 'healthy preparation', after all u fantasize about other things.
P.s. You didnt mention my name in d last2posts when you were appreciating ppl that sent messages 🙁
I cant help it, i'm Nigerian,i love recognition.
P.p.s: Is d show only thur.3pm,naija time?
No mind anybody jare, you are just imagining how perfect it would be with your husband. Imagine away.
As a (wo)man thinketh …
Besides, if you dont imagine it now, how will you know it when you see the real thing?
N.I.M.M.O
Ibilola: Hahahahahahaha. You're a mad chic for real. Which kin yeye advise be this one? Stop it ooo!
Nice Anon: Ahhh! Why now? Why are you doing that to me? You should tell me that I am not a fornicator. I am not having these imaginations for lustful purposes – I think, but rather for the sake of preparation.
'Dufa: I didn't recognize you for real? My dear, I'm terribly sorry. I ought to write things down instead of just rambling off from memory. LOL @ gathering my children around while I'm going to Jerusalem. Well, whatever!! Hahaha. Yesterday was the only Thursay show I had (and will ever have). It's gonna be on Saturdays (3 PM Naija time). Check the schedule up there by the right.
Temmy Tayo: Hahaha. Mr. Shoes told you what?? Come oh… mind yourself. lol. If you can go on 21 days fasting for me, please do. I might need 40 days sef with the way I'm going.
so what u're saying is that its okay to think about having sex with ur husband when married but not ok when single? And that becos its only married folks that have sexual urges? I mean, i don't get.
Chei! See dis girl. Oya, quick quick tell mr shoes to hurry up and propose so you guys can get busy.
If i say u are dumb now, they will say i'm insulting my friend. I will continue to pray for u cos u've lost it.
My first time here and i'm loving it to pieces!!!
why the Jerusalem expression? interesting.
Jokes apart, i really don't think it is fornication, these thoughts are common when u are close to marriage.
congrats sista.
lmao!!! you r just too much. i would think things like that are in the fineprints…Omo,true talk, i think u need some jare. lmao