Random skinny model I found on Google
I don’t usually write much about body size, but there’s always a first time. I remember a while ago I was following a sort of drama between a fashion blogger and some of her readers. She was mad because she had put up a picture of herself wearing a nice pencil skirt and a top. A lot of the people that commented mentioned how beautiful she was because she had shed a few pounds, she looked slimmer.
So what’s the problem, you ask? The problem was that she did not actually lose weight. Oh, by the way, she is a “plus size” fashion blogger. The picture was just one of those pictures where she looked smaller. It happens to everyone, I think. There are some pictures where you look like you got bigger, and in some pictures, you look smaller.
The thing is, whenever you look like you got smaller, people say things like, “Looking good,” or “Keep it up,” or “omg, you lost weight. You look hot!” One has to wonder, does that mean you don’t look hot without losing weight? Does being smaller always mean looking better? Are there people who possibly look better bigger? Are there people who are naturally skinny or not skinny – no matter what they eat?
For all the not-so-skinny people who read this blog, if you could, would you do something to alter your size and be smaller? Do you think you’d look a lot better if you were smaller? Does a smaller weight and/or size always equal health? Or is it possible to be not skinny and still healthy? And vice versa – skinny and not healthy?
With the exception of health, why is everyone preaching a smaller frame? Tell me.
Hmmm… point. For instance, after Jennifer Hudson shed all that weight, I personally thought she looked so much better with the weight. People said it’s because it’s new. I just needed to get used to seeing her like that. How long has it been now? Saw her on TV the other day…. she still has a big head!
She still looks better with the weight. But I guess healthier is better. My point? That rule doesn’t apply for all
I completely agree with you. Her head right now is not proportioned with the rest of her body…to say the least. I think she should have left the weight loss at size 8….just my opinion though. I firmly believe that not everyone is meant to be skinny. Genetics does place a big role on weight. There are some people that some might consider overweight, or even obese, but can do more activities than “skinny people.” As long as you are healthy that’s all that matters.
Its the media and social *norm* that we have construed for ourselves.
Yea, I’ll prolly feel sexier with a smaller midline and a bigger butt.
But mehn, this is what nature (or nurture…lol) has given to me.
I’m learning to enjoy it daily and to make the little changes I can and to wear the appropriate clothings to suit my body type.
U think I am not beaurifullll, truth be told, your opinion doesn’t mean much to me.
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I agree with this because for the longest time I was so unhappy with my body just because I didn’t have the slim figure everyone around me seemed to have but I have recently decided that I have to appreciate the body that i have and actually am a lot more happier and confident in my dressing but I still have moments when I think oh this part of my body could be smaller. But that’s perfectly natural
Like reinvented said there definitely is not a one size fits all… Personally I feel healthier and more beautiful in a wt that is healthy. I have gone from healthy to a non healthy weight in my life so I know. Being overweight or obese doesn’t mean you r not beautiful and if we are being honest most people look better with a healthy weight. I definitely prefer having a healthy bmi and I haven’t seen one person with a healthy bmi that looked better over weight or obese. Personally I feel better when I am a healthier weight, that’s me but I definitely can’t put a canopy on all sizes. Some bigger girls me included sometimes have a complex and tend to say things like well I am beautiful and my wt doesn’t matter. When inside they wished they could change it. My thing is if you don’t like what you see work to change it, a happier you is definitely a healthier you.. Ok I’ve said too much ciao.
Gbam! Bang on!
The entertainment industry and social media have their idea on beauty meaning skinny; but being skinny does equate healthy. As long as the person is healthy in proportion to their height and weight, that’s all that matters. Everyone should strive to eat healthy, exercise (big or small & not just to loose weight) and be confident in their own size.
I think there is an ideal weight for everyone where your features pop out. There is also an ideal weight where you are healthy and not carrying around unneeded fat. The key is finding a balance between both.
However, some people look good at every weight level. For me, I am bigger than I should be …. and I have now noticed that my once prominent cheekbones are disappearing. When I smile, it looks more like a contortion than a smile. My cheeks, my lips, my nostrils —– all merge into each other when I smile.
Some people look horrendous when skinny. An example to me is Jennifer Hudson. Sure she was overweight and that was unhealthy ….. but she could have stopped at cute instead of going all the way to bones, bones, bones. She doesn’t look good too skinny.
…and the same problem repeats itself in the comment section of Verastic.com
Beautiful to me, is different from beautiful to someone else. BEAUTY is INDIVIDUALIZED.
who are “we’ to say that Jennifer Hudson is no longer beautiful or that she doesn’t look good because she lost too much weight.
She wanted to loose weight, she put her mind to it (pluss a lot of monetary incentives for her) and she did it.
yea, we might not agree with her choices… but really? she isn’t beautiful because she went from “Thick” to “Thin” ??????
What differentiates us then from the media?
whether we like it or not, we are individuals with different opinions on beauty … which is exactly what is playing out here and which is why I said one needs to finds a balance between being healthy and looking good (to yourself) . That Jennifer Hudson doesn’t look too good skinny (to me) is to buttress the point that it’s crazy using an ideal media size as a yardstick for beauty cos you might still fail in the eyes of the media judges and yes, individuals.
I never said she isn’t beautiful because she went from thick to thin … in fact I particularly referenced that she was overweight and unhealthy.
Verastic…. u sef! see the picture u come use, biko, if you know the girl, abeg recommend Calabar fattening room for her…that one don pass ‘win-the-war’ shape oh…LOL