I have to preface this post by first saying that I am not a fan of the [former] Olori of Ife. And this is all because of that time she came to America to talk nonsense about gender equality. Yes, I’m still mad about that.
According to her, gender equality is the number one cause of divorce in Nigeria. Honestly, now that her marriage is over, the Petty Betty in me wants to ask her if gender equality was the reason her marriage ended. But I won’t ask – mostly because I cannot even reach her. But Olori, if you are ever in Maryland again, let’s talk! *WINK*
Picture source: her Instagram
All that being said, her marriage to the Ooni of Ife has unfortunately ended. But as usual, some Nigerians have automatically dashed the blame to her – you know, with her being a woman and all. Or to put it in Nigerian lingo, some Nigerians are already fingering the Olori of Ife. Some might argue that I mean this literally.
Anyway, the fingerers accusers say that the marriage ended because she was previously married three times. I don’t know how true it is, but the story out there in the virtual streets is that she was first married to the former Governor of Jigawa State, Saminu Turaki. And when that marriage crashed, she got married to former Deputy Senate Majority Leader, Abdul Ningi. And when that ended, she got married to a Dubai billionaire, named Eli Khoury and changed her name to Sonia. Allegedly, as of 2015, she was still married to him, and in 2016, she got married to the Ooni of Ife.
Now, if this is all true, the only thing it proves is that the Olori of Ife likes powerful, wealthy men, and clearly, they like her back. If you have a failed marriage or relationship, it is only wise to look within yourself to see how you contributed to the demise of the relationship, so that next time, it will not happen again. If you have had two or three or four marriages end, then you really need to look at yourself to figure out what you are doing wrong.
However, the problem with this particular relationship is that some people have jumped to a conclusion and assumed that she is at fault because she has been married more than once. These people are not considering the fact that the Ooni himself was previously married (or maybe even still legally married) before he married her.
Instead of pointing fingers at the Olori of Ife because she has a vagina between her legs and is not allowed to do what men have been doing and are still doing, here are 10 reasons why you shouldn’t blame her (in the form of questions):
1. According to what we were told, the Ooni of Ife married the Olori of Ife because the ifa gods chose her for him. Were the gods not aware that she was previously married? And if it did not matter then, why does it matter now?
2. Did the ifa gods really, really pick this woman? Or did someone pick her?
3. Why is the Ooni’s previous marriage inconsequential here?
4. Did the Olori of Ife walk out of the marriage? Or was she sent out?
5. Why did the Ooni’s first marriage allegedly end?
6. Would it matter if it was the Ooni who had been previously married to three powerful, wealthy women?
7. Why is the Ooni silent?
8. Will the ifa gods pick another wife for him? If so, did they make a mistake in picking this woman for the Ooni?
9. What is next for the Ooni of Ife and the Olori of Ife? Or should I say who is next for them? And by the way, this woman is beautiful. No wonder everyone wants to wife her.
10. And most importantly for me, is she ready to change her mouth about her stand on gender equality being the number one cause of divorce in Nigeria? Because I know for damn sure that that is not what she was fighting for when her marriage ended.
Speaking of fights, I see that she has social causes where she’s traveling around and fighting against cancer and domestic violence and what not, so I suppose that she will not have to be beside herself with nothing to do, now that her marriage to the Ooni is over.
The Incredible Lesson I Have Learned From This Fiasco:
I have seen many, many posts on social media about the Olori’s multiple experiences in the institution of marriage. Many Nigerians have bashed and insulted her, but I have to admit that many Nigerians have also defended and supported her. The support has been unlike that time Chimamanda dared to be a pregnant feminist – because apparently, those two things are mutually exclusive. The lesson here, therefore, is that Nigerians would rather you be a community wife than be a feminist married to one man AND pregnant for that one man.
Okay. Got it.
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erm, you expect a statement from the Ooni?
Yes, because isn’t a king supposed to be answerable to his people. I personally do not care if he gives a statement or not, but from what I’m told, it is disgraceful for a king to be divorced, and his Olori is out there giving statements, so I’m thinking he might want to defend his honor. But I couldn’t care less if he doesn’t.
I believe you know the position Ooni represent in Yoruba land. Whatever the case maybe he answers to no one and I want to believe she is aware of this before going ahead.
I feel she is fortunate that the present Ooni is learned and considerate otherwise things might have being different. I hope she goes her way and stay quiet also
The Ooni answers to no one? What about his people, the Yoruba people he is called to lead and serve? Anyway, I love your name, and that is all that matters. Lol. Thank you!
O well…..Life goes on. Olori wuraola had lots of enemies even before she got maried to the ooni of ife and they probably happy now that she is no longer his olori.
That’s always the case. Unfortunately for her haters, she’ll probably get her 5th husband soon.
The day she expressed her views on gender equality I knew she had subconsciously dug her grave ,you can’t eat your cake and have it . The sooner people start respecting the view that man and woman are equal then we can progress in growth and development. The only fact I know is that men are generally stronger than women physically. But in any other aspect we have the same ability. We should all learn to treat eachother with mutual love and respect.
Geraldine, I agree with you! Maybe she thought she was “honoring” her husband by saying that the genders were not equal, but she didn’t know she was doing herself. Oh, well.
Wow! The lady is hot cake o! Three abi four different marriages to prominent men and I can’t even get a date??π. But after all is said and done, what next? The thing about beauty is you gotta package it with some heavier stuff like virtue and Godly character etc. I wish her luck, I know she won’t stay single for long…ππ’
Loooool at not being able to get a boyfriend. Well, maybe you need to ask her to show you her moves. Lol.
Its funny how bloggers stay in their house and know whats happening in someones marriage?
Yes. Hilarious.
I support some of your views/ let me say most of it on this matter… How ever the Ooni stool is quite sacred and not to be toiled with, I’m even surprised he did a civilised thing by allowing her go… cos I know of some traditional connotations into marrying or being steppped on by a Yoruba Traditional ruler, now not talk more of marrying…
I was irritated as well about that speech of hers because I felt it didn’t show a person with her own opinions, so I felt she played a sour one… However we are Africans you know Women always take the brunt of anything not especially with these hear say histories we have heard about her…
I didn’t know the gods too now lie… but I guess it’s not my place! We humans are trying to play God for God is what I see in this Situation but in all Marriage its no child’s game n both parties involved need to own up to their deeds n they can’t explain or owe any one the truth but themselves… The Ooni’s stool means he would never talk about this… Only if civilisation is now also sipping into the tier one kingship…. I wish both of them the best but this isn’t bossip/ Linda Ikeji kinda story where it continues in sequels…
My dear, the whole thing is just really messy. I get that the king will probably not speak on the issue, but I guess I was just being too “untraditional” by expecting some kind of word from him to at least clear his name. I wonder if he has a new bae.