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July 27, 2020

Can Women Be Divorced And Happy?

Can women actually be divorced and happy? For some reason, being divorced and happy, especially for a woman, seems like it's mutually exclusive. I will not make the claim that all women are divorced and happy, but I can confidently say that any woman who gets divorced for the right reasons can be - and most likely is - divorced and happy. Our culture abhors divorce. Our culture also abhors a free-thinking, independent woman because she is seen as rebellious and unsubmissive. You already know my Read More

July 23, 2020

How To Use Your Talents For God

How does one use their talents for God? Do you know? I have personally struggled with this one since I became aware of it. I was born and raised a Christian, so for me, the bible has answers to everything. Honestly, sometimes, the bible leaves me with more questions than answers and I don't know if it's because I'm being too logical or if my faith is even smaller than a mustard seed. Still, I have always pondered: how do you use tour talents for God? What is Talent anyway? The dictionary Read More

July 20, 2020

6 Questions I Stopped Asking After My Marriage Ended

It probably goes without saying that after my marriage ended, my views evolved or completely changed on a lot of things. On last week's episode of the I Am African Podcast, I asked my guest, Ruth Marimo, how anyone could cope with not being included or invited after they make a drastic change in their lives. She told me that while one will lose some loved ones, that one will also gain new, relevant people. She proceeded to ask me if I had met more divorced people or people with marital Read More

July 13, 2020

Emotional Resilience: How To Deal With Not Being Included

"Vera, you're so strong!" I've practically heard this for as long as I can remember. I heard it most when I left my marriage. People congratulated me for being so strong, for having the audacity to walk out of a marriage that was trampling me and robbing me of my peace. I did not understand why I was being congratulated. Should one not always leave a situation that is bad for them? But that's by the way. To be strong, one has to be emotionally resilient. Some people are strong because Read More

July 9, 2020

Things You Should Say During Great Sex

So, the other day, I was scrolling through Facebook when I came across a post in a Facebook group that caught my attention. It was a lighthearted, funny post by a woman asking us (fellow women) the crazy things we had uttered out of our mouths during great sex. So, of course, I proceeded to read, and I was consequently entertained, humored, and eventually, distraught. I'll explain. The other day on the podcast, I mentioned simple things that I have never done but would like to do. Well, a few of Read More

July 6, 2020

A Conversation With An Openly-Gay Nigerian Man

I fantasized about my podcast for months. Technically, years. Ever since my live show, The Verastic Show stopped airing, I started thinking of other ways to have those conversations again, but it was the past several months that I really saw my podcast clearly. I knew what I wanted: I wanted to have authentic conversations --- like the one I had with this openly-gay Nigerian man. "I believe in asking the difficult questions, starting the uncomfortable conversations, proposing outside-the-box Read More

June 29, 2020

How Not To Say Yes When You Really Mean No

Even now, I'm wondering if How Not To Say Yes When You Really Mean No is the appropriate title for this. But it's too late to change it. The podcast has been recorded, edited, and published. Perhaps, what I really should have named it is How Not To Spend Your Energy On Things You Really Don't Want. Either way, I suppose there's still an element of saying yes or no to something. Listen and tell me your thoughts! You can also listen at any and all of the following Read More

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