How My Marriage Ended Archives

October 26, 2020

It’s The Anniversary Of My Divorce!

I was on the phone with Uju a few days ago, and we were discussing something when I mentioned that it was almost a year since my divorce became final. And then it occurred to me that my divorce was final in October 2019 and we were now in October 2020. So that was when I looked through my 2019 calendar and lo and behold, the anniversary of my divorce was in 24 hours! - Saturday, October 24th, 2020. Let me tell you about this day, one year ago. On Wednesday, October 23rd, 2019, I was at work when Read More

July 27, 2020

Can Women Be Divorced And Happy?

Can women actually be divorced and happy? For some reason, being divorced and happy, especially for a woman, seems like it's mutually exclusive. I will not make the claim that all women are divorced and happy, but I can confidently say that any woman who gets divorced for the right reasons can be - and most likely is - divorced and happy. Our culture abhors divorce. Our culture also abhors a free-thinking, independent woman because she is seen as rebellious and unsubmissive. You already know my Read More

July 20, 2020

6 Questions I Stopped Asking After My Marriage Ended

It probably goes without saying that after my marriage ended, my views evolved or completely changed on a lot of things. On last week's episode of the I Am African Podcast, I asked my guest, Ruth Marimo, how anyone could cope with not being included or invited after they make a drastic change in their lives. She told me that while one will lose some loved ones, that one will also gain new, relevant people. She proceeded to ask me if I had met more divorced people or people with marital Read More

April 22, 2020

What To Do When Your Partner Hits You

When I was single and imagining life as a married woman, I thought of many things my husband could potentially do wrong - like cheating on me - but I never really considered domestic violence, nor did I ever wonder what to do when your partner hits you. I knew it was a thing that could happen to people, but it was not a thing that could happen to me. I was too strong, I thought. Too smart, for sure. And who born the maga sef? Besides, I would vet any man before I married him anyway, so I knew I Read More

March 26, 2020

How One Sweet Potato Finished Me Because of My Marriage

Although I have always known it, Funmie also always confirms it. It's the intelligence of my Sweet Potatoes. Una get sense die. And although I cannot prove it, I'd like to take credit for it. No, not taking credit for your intelligence, but taking credit for attracting intelligent readers. Whether you agree with me or not, I have taken this credit, and it helps me sleep better at night. So, when I shared my story about how my marriage ended, I got so many emails. I actually have not stopped Read More

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