In April, I blogged about my fake engagement to Mr. Shoes, and the comments were so numerous that they almost broke down my blog. But what struck me was that some people said they didn’t fall for the lie because the ring just wasn’t big enough for me. Seriously…???
I bring this up now because this past Saturday (July 18th) was hawt on the Verastically Speakin’ Talk Radio as we battled over the price and size of an engagement ring. In spite of having 90 minutes dedicated to the show, we still ran out of time. I apologize to Leggy, Chayoma, and Bumight for not having read their mails. And to think that I even printed them out. 🙁
The call volume was so high that by the time the show was over, I still had so many callers on cue whose calls I could not take. For that, I am also sincerely sorry. The people in the chat room seemed to also be chatting so psychedelically that the darn chat room had to have a psychedelic break down and log us all out. For that, I am also sorry. If you haven’t listened to the show, you can listen to it from my blog by clicking on it. The player is on the right sidebar.
So back to the engagement ring: ehm… exactly how big do you think I want this ring? I think I may have given people the impression that I want the kind of rock that would reflect sunlight into Planet Mars. The size of the rock on the ring below isn’t bad, but it’s fake. Alright fine, maybe it’s a little bit on the small side, but it isn’t entirely bad.
To prove how totally not-into-the-size-and-cost-of-a-ring I am, I went to Tacori dot com, a website I have always loved and admired. Without first looking at the prices, I picked rings based on their style alone (thin, platinum band, not a queer-shaped diamond, etc) – not knowing the cost. I will prove to these people that I am sooooo not too crazy about the cost. I just want it to be my style!
Price of first ring: $6, 300 (Hmm….)
Price of second ring: $6, 600 (Double hmm…)
Price of third ring: $3, 530 (Aha!! Didn’t I tell them I’m understanding…?)
Price of fourth ring: $5, 500 (I was doing good in the third ring; what happened?)
Price of fifth ring: $10, 740 (I give up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)
Well, you know what? Screw it!! What does Tacori know about me? I don’t even like their rings anyway!!! ***Nose growing longer, swallowing big gulp of spit***
I had already started linking the rings to their pictures on the web for you to see how nice and simple they look, but I thought better of it. It won’t be difficult for this post to be misconstrued. I really don’t think a man should spend three months of his salary on a ring because that would be a lotttt of money (unless he has nothing else to do with the money). But I do solemnly believe that a man should know his woman’s style and buy the best [of her style] that he can afford. Shikena. If you’re going to do it, you might as well do it well.
That said, I’m very grateful to everyone who listened, called in (especially the international callers), e-mailed, and chatted away in the chat room. Thank you to those who tweeted and Facebooked too. If I had the money, I’d go Oprah on you all, and buy each of you a car. But for now, I do hope that my sincere gratitude suffices.
Next week Saturday, July 25th 2009 10:00 AM US EST/3:00 PM Naija time, we’ll talking about the importance – or lack of importance – of your partner’s weight, height, and size of certain body parts. There’s a poll on the right sidebar. Help your sister out. And tune in on that day. Go HERE to set a reminder for the show.
Chei. But that my engagement to Mr. Shoes was hawt oo. I almost forgot it didn’t happen sef. Hehehe.
I'm listening to the previous radio show right now and it's pretty interesting.
Funmi is hilarious by the way!
with the prices you've listed, i'm curious, how do those guys who get married whilst still in school do it then?
You can't be serious it was all a HOAX with Mr Shoes! I have already sacrificed a toothless cow and a purple chicken for the success of the main event. You better re-reimburse me o!
Maybe you should do another ring talk — but this time you had better dedicate a WHOLE day! The body 'parts' one sounds interesting. How do we join the chat room? My student budget won't allow me call in anymore!
Na wa o …………….Mrs shoes
Congrats on your engagement, an him be say we have to start planning the 4 destinations ticket…..
keep us posted o!
Na wa o …………….Mrs shoes
Congrats on your engagement, an him be say we have to start planning the 4 destinations ticket…..
keep us posted o!
I am jealous of the chocolate covered strawberies! To the rings well, As long as it's coming from the guy and the ring is beautiful I don't care about the size of the stone.
lol1 that was my fave post! hehe.. Mrs shoes…wink wink!…I was listening, but was too "sick(read hungover" to call! loves it!
see, thats why i'm gettting married 20 times. I'll have enoughmoney after i pawn the rings to live on for retirement..lol
so i told myself i would call in. i had a lot to say… needless to say that didn't happen. i think i will do the reminder thing.. i was previously under the impression i didn't need it 🙁
ok o…its like im the only looner that hasnt listened to this off the hook show…my apologies!!!!
neways..im not a size/cost fan too…i dont believe in spending the cost of a car on only ring..lie lie o…
his love with a nice/beautiful/not crazily expensive ring is enuf!!!!!!!!!!lol
hmmm…and to think i fell so deep for your engagement to mr. shoes….bless my heart! Speaking of rings please, i wdnt mind an expensive ring oo, am worth every bit lol, (wen he feels like leaving me and he thinks of d price hel reconsider ) jokes lol.
V,
those chocolate covered strawberries would be "Oprah" enuf for me!
P.S. my rock has to be bigger than that pic oh! lol!
Weldone with the show Vera…was away on holiday, so I just caught up on d last 2 episodes (dating exes and size of rings) n they were fab…weldone to ur co-host (Ezewanyi?) too…n dat Funmi? funny chic…
Sting: Aww… thanks, love! Don't mind Funmi. She's just a mad chic.
Webround: I have three words in response to your question, "God will provide." 🙂
JS12: A toothless cow and a purple chicken all for me???? What about the triangular egg of an ostrich? Hehehe. Well, you will be reimbursed – by Mr. Shoes himself. I'll put it on his tab, don't worry. As for the chat room, once you click on the title of the show you wanna listen to, it'll automatically sign you in, I believe.
Olufunke: LOL. Four destinations? Mba oo. That might be too small. We'll increase it. There are many countries to fly to, you know. Wait oh… what are you even congratulating him for?
Luscious Ron: U want some of my chocolate strawberries? Oya come and get some. Per the ring, well… whatever works for you both is great.
Ms. O: I'm soooo telling on you. U were too hungover? Hmmph! Thank you for listening anyway.
Sweet Nothin: LOL. This your plan, I don't know ooo. But good luck sha. Hehe.
Reverence: LOL @ being under the impression that you didn't need the reminder. Babe, that has happened to me one too many times, so now, I use reminders.
Gee: Of course, he does not (in fact, should not) have to spend too much money on it. When it gets to a certain point, it becomes too much money to be spent on a ring.
Chocolate and Caramel: Oh, you fell ehn? Hehehe. That's good. Per your reason for the expensive ring, well, I guess that's another way to keep a man. LOL.
Chayoma: Hahaha! In other words, you don't like the rock in the picture ehn??? If the chocolate-covered strawberries are enough for you, then just pray that I get money soonest! 🙂
Just Doyin: Funmi is more mad than she is funny. Hehe. Thanks for listening; I'm glad you liked them both.
Intense discussion overall.. if dem leave some people dem for fight o…
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check this out…tewww HOT!
a ring????…..classy
outrageously expensive????….nah
nice nails
i loved ur radio show..but only 90mins?ughhh..lol
Hmnnn.. loving the radio shows,
funny enuff this is my first time listening..*guilty moi*
lol
xoxo
my dear, i used to be all for big rocks until d d-day!!!!!! MM is clueless abt jewelries, so he told me if i pick up d ring, he'd pay 4 it. So, first of all, we went to this Lebanese store @ Mega Plaza. Nna mehn! Babes, d smallest price they had there was N200,000!!!! & d rock no even big sef! There was another one dat was going for N2.3million, & believe me wen i say dat d size of d diamond no reach d one in ur photo above! Hmmm. Me, i don't know how pple in America make dir money oh, but if i know any chick who allows her honest-earning fiance to buy her such a ring, i will personally slap her! & den tell d man to go find a more reasonable girl to marry, dat dis burden he is abt 2 carry will break dis back.
Again, i don't know how it is done in America, but here those in d wedding business exploit 'big-eyed' brides to put their husbands on high jump. I know how much i haggled wit my wedding vendors. All of them were saying d same old shit 'this is ur wedding! it's a one time event!' So frigging what???? I should go backrupt because it is a one-time event!! Yeah, i had d wedding of my dreams. Yeah, we didn't go over our budget (we spent less dan 2 million for everything), but wen i look back @ it now eh, i wish we had put dat money n d fixed deposit instead! I've been out of work for 4 months now, it'd tough having one income. So, i keep thinking of d huge of money we threw away all n d name of having an unforgettable wedding.
P.S: D only thing i cherish in all d wedding brouhaha is dat i got a beautiful wedding band. A platinum ring dat is so understated dat pple don't notice it unless i point it out 2 dem! My engagement ring was cool too (white gold, 3 diamond thongs, from Diamond-Me). But it got stolen less dan 6 months after i got it. MM promised to get me another one, but dat will b wen we r more stable. Right now, we still dey find our feet.
BTW there's a blue nile ad for rings below your blog…LOL. Blue nile is great (from experience) 🙂
Ehen, wow…I should listen to this interesting topic on Verastic radio soon. That's why men should not propose until they are financially ready, cos whether we like it or not, the engagement saga can actually strain the relationship.
I have truly missed u and ur blog Vera!
Nice to know about Mr. Shoes 🙂
Hope fully the huge rock will be on ur fingers soon…
Off to the radio blog!
Hey Vera, even though I haven't been tunning to the radio's when it's aired I always listen to it on a monday like I did this one. And I really think you guys are doing a fantastic job.. 🙂 and it was good to hear Mr Shoes too on air .. wink wink..
have a rocking week.
lol…rings again?? hope you haven't secretly gotten married oh…off to listen to the radio post…
I personally dont like big rings…just make sure its real!!
lol..
with everything breaking dwon because of the traffic, u're gonna need a vera TV show next
you're begining to sound like an Omosewa, giving links to wedding rings.
Poetry: LOL. True talk. Some people were very passionate about the subject. 🙂
Ms O: You know, I checked the link out the day you left this comment. Now I don't remember what the link was about. Guess I have to check it out again.
Ibiluv: I'm with you on all counts – including the 'nice nails' comment. LOL. Okay, I'll get a hold of myself.
Leggy: LOL! 90 minutes no belleful you? How long do you want it to be?
Sassy Trends: First time??? Oh, no!! We can't have that. Now, please report to my office immediately for some two-mouthed-koboko lashing.
FFF: There are obviously extremes in everything. A woman should not make her husband spend more than he can afford to on anything (especially the ring). A man shouldn't be made to do anything unless he wants to. That's my philosophy sha; can't say it's the golden rule. As long as you and MM are both happy with the choice you made, no1 else should matter. As for the whole wedding thing, I'm not particularly into have a BIG wedding – whatever BIG might mean. What I want is a rich, fun wedding. When I watch my wedding video, I wanna see people I know having the time of their lives. Don't care to have a hall full of strangers that probably don't even know who the bride/groom is. In the meantime, enjoy your wedding video/pictures.
P.S. Saw your comments on Facebook, but figured I'll just reply them here. And ehm thank God you no call oh, ah ah! U wan chase the listeners commot? Hehe. 🙂 J/K. Call in next time, if you can.
Jaycee: See your mouth like "from experience" LOL. Wetin you dey feel like sef? *Eyes turning green from jealousy* I agree with you; the engagement ring saga can strain the relationship.
Princesa: LOL! Babe, I don miss you too oh! I lost my blogroll sef. Used to be over 200; now it's not even up to 100. Tryna find blogs again. How body sha? I'll be sure to extend your words to Mr. Shoes.
Life of a Stranger: Hehehehehe. Thanks, babe!! I understand that not everyone will be able to tune in at the time it's being recorded. Thanks for listening afterward. God bless…
Afrobabe: LOL. Me, secretly get married???? Nah!!!!!!!!! Not a chance. No be you be chief bridesmaid? Hehe.
Afronuts: Vera TV show???? Ah, Amen ooo! From your fingers to the eyes of God. LOL @ sounding like Omosewa. Well, it's my little way of sparkling the bride's heart. That's my story and I'm sticking to it. 🙂
What do u mean afrobabe will the chief bride's maid. Thot you promised me Vera. Sob sob..