It’s hard to not love them. They’re so cute.
By now, everyone is aware of the breaking news that we all knew was going to break: Rihanna is back with Chris Brown. Say it isn’t so! And since this news, every time I see Rihanna’s new photo – like her new cover on Vogue – people make it a point to repeat again how foolish she is for going back to Chris Brown. Like, how could she be so stupid?! A man beat you once; he will do it hundred times over.
See, I don’t know Rihanna and Chris personally – bet you did not know that – and I have no special love for either for them. But somehow, they seem to me to really be in love. I might be wrong. Human beings are so complex that we do crazy shit and never comprehend why we did it. Like why did Ochocinco choose head-butting as his method of showing his wife who is really boss? But I digress.
As a strong advocate of there-is-never-enough-reasons-to-hit-a-woman, I am shocked at myself at what I am about to say. Is it really impossible that when Chris Brown hit Rihanna, it was an honest error in his judgment, that he never meant to inflict any physical pain on her, that he regrets every moment of it, and that it kills him to know that he did what he did? And is it really impossible that Rihanna instigated him and has a part – no matter how small – in getting her face redesigned temporarily?
I am not implying that men should go ahead and hit a woman when provoked, as long as she deserved to be hit. But are these issues always black and white? Yes, of course, Chris Brown should have man’d up and walked away. He should have swallowed hard and used everything he had to just walk away. But what happens when he fails? What happens when he acts like an angry human being with his back against the wall? And then, he fails? I don’t know if Chris Brown will ever hit Rihanna again, but I tend to think that he won’t. I hope I’m right.
And then, there’s the issue of Karrueche. Rihanna is also accused of making him hurt her. I call bullshit on this one. Not that my opinion matters in anyway, but I never thought they’d last forever – not that many celebrities do anyway. She seemed too much like a rebound girl to him, like he was with her to cover up the pain and loneliness of losing Rihanna. I’m sure he liked her. Maybe he even loved her. But she was not Rihanna. That said, it is impossible to steal someone who does not want to be stolen. Rihanna did not steal him, nor did she make him hurt Karrueche. They all deserve happiness.
Some day, I’ll be able to figure out why I have spent an entire post analyzing the love life of three people whom I have never, ever met. For now, just tell me what you think of their relationship. Hey, we can analyze this thing together, because we all know that Chris Brown and Rihanna care what we’re discussing on this Verastic blog.
Could this be love?
Here’s a post that I think successfully looks at it from both sides: http://womenagainstvawa.org/roseanne-barr-on-the-rhianna-chris-brown-affair/
Thanks, Azuka! Will go check it out.
Azuka, I just read it. Very, very interesting! And it does make sense what the author said about women attacking or provoking men too. I don’t know for sure that that is the Rihanna-Chris case, but it does make sense generally.
People recover from all kinds of behavior such as drinking, drugs, etc. Sorry to say, I’ve never heard or seen an abusive partner recover and change. So, unless you can find a treatment center and success rates (if there was a success story, Oprah or Dr. Phil would have featured it on their shows), I’m afraid Rihanna’s future of being abused is guaranteed. And the violence gets increasing brutal and dangerous. She’s now in Phase 1, the honeymoon phase: lovey-dovey, we’re soul mates. Phase 2: tension begins to mount, she won’t be able to do anything right according to him or she’ll catch him flirting or being unfaithful. Phase 3: the violence. And the cycle begins all over again. Rihanna cannot win. I just hope she gets out alive.
Well, for her sake, I hope it doesn’t get to this. And if it does, then I hope she has the strength and wisdom to get out.
It seems like they both love each other, but the court prevented them. I agree, Kae was just a rebounded girl. The chemistry he had with Rihanna was definitely missing. I hope for the best for both. Who are we to judge huh!
xoxo
Stella
Very true. Who are we to judge? I only know what the media has told me. But I wish them both the very best.
This kind of love sha! There is absolutely NO excuse for a man to beat a woman. Remember that song ‘might trick me once, i won’t let you trick me twice’? Now insert ‘beat’ instead of ‘trick’ and you have my answer! I wish them, (especially Rihanna’s face) good luck.
Lol at Rihanna’s face. I hope it never comes to that again. Hopefully, they have resolved whatever is what that caused that incident, and hopefully, they have both learned from their mistakes.
i must be the only person that doesn’t buy this while rihanna and chris brown soulmate and forever love thing. But then I’m a cynic so …….
Lol. Well, I don’t know if I’d say they’re soul mates. But they do look good together. Of course, that’s entirely different from being good together, but I wish the, luck.
From what people say about her temper, something probably happened for him to go that crazy but no body will ever know but God. I am a big fan of the both of them. I think Chris probably learned his lesson but sometimes people really bring out the worse in you and also the best in you and that is why you have to be really careful who you hang with. If a woman punches a man then she better be ready for what is to come…I am just saying. But honestly I think Rhianna is the only one that has love in this so called relationship. Chris is in heaven right now, two women still hanging around after they know of each other….mehn I can’t say I blame the guy. He is having a blast.
Lol at him having a blast. I know, right? And it’s true …. a woman shouldn’t hit a man, but if she does, she better be ready to deal with the consequence. Oh, well. Good luck to both of them.