Ideally, love shouldn’t be this difficult and complicated. There should be two people who are in love and marry each other to live happily ever after. But then, sometimes, this is the reality. I’ve given my opinion at the end of this post. When you are done reading, please give the reader your opinion, too.
“Dear Vera. I don’t know what exactly I want but I believe your advice will work. Am in a relationship recently turned sour. We had our introduction in 2011. I love this lady so much but its not mutual. Recently we had a very big brawl, she removed our engagement ring and says she’s no more interested and that her heart is no more in this.
Her parents spoke to us, I got her friends involved, got a whole lotta people involved to strike up the passion yet again, she denied all my advances and recently agreed for us to give it one more shot. Two weeks after, she’s back to the same feeling and she says she just wanna be by herself and to be left for a while. She says most of all she does rather is a chore to her than her enjoying her relationship with me.
We’ve struggled this 4 4years and av been able to deal with my insecurities, jealousness and commanding nature of the man I was before but its still not helping. Now she says we should dissolve this and go our separate ways and that if she feels the same, we can come back together and start all over again. She’s 26 and am 33 years. Vera, I don’t know what to do. I love her so much, having been there right from when she was in lag from 200level till now. What should I do Vera?”
My guy, run! Start looking for a brand new start.
I agree!! Run very fast.
DUDE…. run run run RUN….
P.S – Time heals ALL pains. you will be fine *warm hugs*
P.S.S – women have serious issues sha, see man dey die here and this babe dey do yanga (well, there are always 2 sides to a story, we don’t know hers. )
P.S.S.S – just wondering, does this babe know that you like her this much?
Well, Fufu, in defense of the girl, I give her kudos for even telling him. Some people will go ahead and get married and make their life and their partner’s life very miserable. The hope here is that they both find what they are looking for.
Wow!
Yeap.
There is always two sides to a story. The girl in question might come and do a “dear vera” and show a different side. I think this guy already knows the right thing to do, but might be the work he has put in and pain thats holding him back
Jossy, you’re right. There are always two sides to every story. Well, if the girl returns to do a Dear Vera, that would be very interesting indeed! I guess it’s not so easy for him to let go because he has invested so much: time, money, emotions … But I hope he lets go anyway.
Guy, this one is gone let it go. I don’t know the other side to this story. I’m going to just make an assumption from this point on. He was honest to list some ways in which he has changed but something’s must have transpired and ol’girl don tire. Sometimes, when we turn a new leaf say from cheating or being a controlling person…our sig other might not be willing to wait out your change. She/he might have had enough and she was conflicted to leave because y’all have been introduced.
Take heart Oh! Kudos for being a better man. Maybe this relationship was meant to help you grow into this man. Now go out there, open your heart to love and watch it find you.
Gbam!!! Thank you, Bridges. I totally agree with you. Maybe this relationship was meant to help him grow into the man that he is today. Thanks for commenting.
Vera, you said it all. Let her go.
Thank you, Myne.
This kind post dey vex me, oya go and tie rope on her neck and drag her to the Altar, babe has been gracious enough to tell you that she no wan do again and you are still going on about it, tomorrow you will come back to Vera and start complaining on how your wife is cheating on you or making your life miserable. Dude let her go now, your mate is still out there, the earlier you start searching the better for you.
Agudosi,
Thanks for responding. I can feel your vexation all the way from here. Lol. Well, let’s be easy on Dear Reader. It’s not easy letting go of someone so easily, but I hope and trust that he will make (or has made) the right decision.
There is FIRE on the mountain run run run…that’s my advice for the guy!
Thank you, Ola. I hope he listens.