With the rate of divorces going around, especially ones due to some form of infidelity, I need to come up with a more creative title for this post. I mean, what am I going to call the next divorce post? Another One Bites The Dust … Again The Third Time??? Yeah, I’m just as puzzled as you are.
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| So cute. And yet so …. divorced. |
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| Caption: And this, honey, is how I kiss my other woman. |
Here’s the 411: Tony Parker is a 28 year old athlete and Eva Longoria is a 35 year old actress. They got married in July of 2007. Prior to that, Eva was married to Tyler Christopher from 2002 to 2004. Eva filed for divorce from Tony on November 17th 2010. Tony, on the other hand, also filed from divorce from Eva on November 19th 2010. Eva filed for her divorce in California – due to irreconcilable differences (of course). And Tony filed for his divorce in Texas. The significance? Texas’s divorce is quite short. It may be over in as little as 60 days. Eva is also seeking spousal support from her husband.
Oh, so why are they getting divorced? Eva says she found text messages on Tony’s phone, about 100 text messages that were exchanged in the past month between him and Erin Barry. Who the heck is Erin Barry? Well, she is the wife of Brent Barry. And who is Brent Barry, you ask? He is Tony’s teammate. Well, hot damn!
But that’s not all. Brent and Erin Barry are also in the middle of divorce! Think Tony Parker has anything to do with it? Do I hear someone saying, “Err, duh!” Erin filed for divorce from her husband on October 29th. And here’s the humorous part: her husband’s lawyer is Richard Orsinger, the same lawyer who is representing Tony Parker. Something tells me that Richard Orsinger might soon be getting divorced from the two teammates.
Uhm, drama much??? At this point, I only have one question: what will Tony and Eva – especially Eva – do with the permanent tattoos they have? Eva has the word NINE tattooed on the back of her neck (Tony’s jersey number). And they both have tattoos of their wedding date in Roman Numerals tattooed on their wrists. Oh, and Eva has the letters T.P. (stands for Tony Parker) tattooed somewhere on her body where no one else (apart from her and Tony) can see it.
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| Eva’s NINE tattoo |
Oh, how the mighily-tattoed have fallen!
Well that sucks….the beauty of marriage is not in just the joyous times…it's also in the ability to love your other half regardless of all the shit that goes down
Our generation is forgetting all that in the midst of the dramatic woman-world revolution…and that is what is SAD!…
God help us…and bless our hearts
Apparently he was also sexting a teenager in the UK. I don't get it. Mrs Barry abi Berry was the straw that broke the camel's back.
Tega: Now, now. I don't think it's fair to call it the woman-world revolution. I understand that marriage should be forever, but you know, even though the bible does not "like" divorce, it does make an exception when infidelity is in the picture. That's not to say that a spouse that was cheated on should not or cannot forgive his/her spouse, but with infidelity (and all problems in life), it's much easier avoiding it than fixing it after it's done.
Anonymous: Say what? I didn't know that. Sexting a teen in the U.K? Well, that's really unfortunate.
Silly ollywood people. And when will they ever learn about tattoos- Didnt Roseanne and Tom teach them all a lesson?
Ginger: We expect them to learn, but apparently, it doesn't work out like that. Well, more blog posts for me!
Vera it might seem unfair but I reckon it is true…very!!!
Please don't get me wrong…I'm not saying a woman should be a doormat or anything. I'm just as appalled and would tell off any of my friends who tried to do that But there should be a balance.
Look at the ideas being put out there..no-one wants to try to fix anything anymore. Giving up is the order of the day. And as per your post of the other day…if we got refunds…I swear my ROI would be MASSIVE!…but I don't want that…I want happy, old faces…battle scars of love and all. That's so much better.
The Bible gives an exception for infidelity but counters that exception by laying a curse on whoever marries a separated/divorced partner…that's how badly I reckon God wants couples to sort marital issues out. It is after-all they say for better for worse!
such a hot mess! I really like Eva, and feel so sorry for her…but this tatoo business…agreed, they expect their marriages to last forever, but then, why? why his name/initials/jersey number? why not just an ordinary tatoo that she wouldn't need to get rid of in case of divorce?
That Mrs B, na wah oh…and the Lawyer? lol…
it broke my heart reading this. I thought it was joke at first,but it just keeps getting messy.
Na today? It just sickens me that nobody is willing to take the time to make sure things work – and that includes the one that cannot keep zipped up.
That being said, the sad thing is that the divorced one may change location, job and woman, problem still remains 'cause it originated from you!!! Watch and see (or hear) the "new" relationship will still hit rocks.
My only thoughts on this issue:
…if you are going to get a tattoo while overcome with love, do get a generic tatto i.e. 'sugar' OR 'honey' OR 'sunshine'….*smile*
What was she even thinking?!
I just feel for Eva and the pain she must be going through at the failure of her 2nd marriage..
It's obvious she intended for it to be the last..
Just hope she'd be good.
So another Hollywood couple is divorcing? *YAWN* What's new?
Halle Berry
Eva Longoria Parker
If these women cant keep their men, do the rest of us have any hope?
Eva also endured an affair Tony had very early on their marriage, according to TMZ. Supposedly she stayed because she wanted to give the marriage a chance. It's true that nobody seems to want to work on their marriages anymore, but I think it's unfair that woman are taking the heat for failed marriages. Instead, the focus should be on men honoring their marriage vows. Marriage should never be endured. Good luck, Eva. If it had been me, he would never have gotten that second chance after he so blatantly dishonored the marriage.
Its sad sha. really sad. wish they could work things out.
Is the story that she met/got with Tony while she was STILL married true?? If so that B!tch, Karma, collected huh?
Lilith, no shaking. I wouldn't go that far. Those women are not a yardstick with which we should measure whether we will be successful in our marriages or not. Regular marriages apparently last longer than celeb marriages.
We don't know what Halle's issues are or what her breaking points are. Lets not panic because beautiful women in hollywood are getting divorced.
Tega: Well, I guess it's a double-edged sword. I don't think that people should be quitting their marriage the way they are, especially over trivial issues, but at the same time, infidelity is better not done at all. I don't know for sure if a couple ever fully recovers from infidelity.
Anoda Phase: I guess no one gets married thinking they would ever get divorced. Marriage, is after all, supposed to be forever. That said, there are other visual ways of showing love and commitment other than permanent tattoos. That's the whole point of the wedding bands!
Spesh: No be joke at all oh. This is a serious matter. They are getting divorced, girl!
Anonymous: I couldn't agree more. If Tony decides to stay with his teammate's wife (Erin Barry), he will still do what he did before, but I guess he doesn't know that … YET.
NaijaMum: My dear, I don't know oh! I don't know what they were thinking when they got those tattoos. Why, oh, why must you tattoo a person's name on your body?? Seriously???
2Cute4u: Yeah, I feel sorry for her, too. I feel sorry for Tony also. I know he's being perpetrated as the evil one here, but no one knows what went on inside, so I feel for them both.
Suzanne Brume: LOL! I know, right? Yawn, yawn indeed. Nothing is new, my dear.
LucidLilith: Yes, we do! You know why? Because we have something that they don't have. I don't know what it is yet. But I know we have it. LOL.
Anonymous2: Thank you! I'm right with you on this one. Indeed, people should take the time to work on and fix their marriages, but working on it also includes not screwing it up in the first place. Oh, and I like your words, "Marriage should never be endured."
Koinonia: LOL @ the compulsory counseling. It's definitely a good start. But at the counseling, they need to touch on all the bases.
JobsForNaija: It is sad indeed. It'd be nice if all these marriages could work well.
Anonymous3: Honestly, prior to your comment, I had not heard of Eva getting with Tony while she was married. I thought I read that they were divorced (or at least in the process of divorcing) before she met him? I don't know.
Anonymous: Ehen! Thank you for the positive reinforcement jare. I was sure that we had something more to offer. Now, you've just reminded me what it is. Thanks, babe!
"Our generation is forgetting all that in the midst of the dramatic woman-world revolution…and that is what is SAD!.."
Why, oh why do people think it's ok to say retarded stuff like this out loud – it's frigging 2010, get some enlightenment; Blame all of the world's woes on females or feminism…so ludicrous. There's absolutely nothing wrong with proposing that more couples learn to work through their issues but I just find it quite ludicrous that someone would look past a gargantuan offence like adultery and latch onto lack of patience or "dramatic-woman world revolution" instead.
Vera: She probably didn't get the memo that french men are notorious for not being able to keep it in their pants:( so sad, since they're oh so appealing. Having said that, we're mere mortals, she could hv easily been the one doing the cheating. Getting over stuff like that depends on the ppl involved and whether or not they can forgive enough to move past the trust issues that this kind of thing resurrects. afterall, what's a marriage without trust?
It is more like people are not working on their relationships anymore…it is bad a partner cheats, but most times divorcing them is to give the other party a chance.
@48: I should take offence at your demeaning statement but I can't be arsed. It is what it is…my opinion.
I didn't in anyway blame the world's woes on feminism…that didn't even bloody come up…I did however say in the "midst of"…that been the operative phrase.
Men cheat..it's genetically engineered…(re: your French men men statement..in Naija(Dora that's for you)…these would be the Calabar men)…
However in the world where men are now acknowledging meterosexuality and we women are gradually tending towards 'amazonity'…marriages fail because of the preconceived notion of a higher sense of "self"…leaving behind a very torn fabric and bringing meaninglessness to the very idea of family…that selfishness is not IDEAL.
"What is a marriage without trust?"…Did you really ask that?..it would take a whole post to answer you…Show me a 50yr marriage without its problems (infidelity included)..#nuffsaid
Like I said…Don't be a doormat…Don't be a fool either.
"Men cheat..it's genetically engineered"
The men in your life – especially the ones you care about – need expectations, standards that call them to be better men than what society says they can be. The above statement equates them to lesser primates – animals with no kind of impulse control or moral compasses. Maybe men are more likely to cheat, but I believe more of them would do it less if they believed there was a lot at stake. Hence, no, you shouldnt do "nothing" if your man or husband runs around on you; you should do something. now does that something have to be as drastic as getting a divorce? that's a personal choice. Sounds like Eva condoned cheating before and decided she'd rather be a 2-time divorcee at 35 than deal with it again.
"marriages fail because of the preconceived notion of a higher sense of "self""
lol @ 'pre-conceived' Can I just say if having a better sense of self is messing with anyone's marriage, perhaps there wasn't a marriage to begin with.
I actually thought you were a guy but frankly, i think it bugs me more that a woman thinks like this. Granted, these are your opinions, but it's just straight up gut-wrenching.
I swear by my life and my love for Vera that I shall not cheat on her, nor divorce her for any reason – even if she cheats on me. May God help me. Amen!
Will you marry me, Vera?
Tega and 48: I'll let you both sort out your differences. The comment below (from Anonymous) has officially stolen my attention from you both. LOL.
Anonymous: Mm. Mm. Mm. You sure know how to tickle a girl's fancy. I'm almost ready to accept an e-proposal … from 'Anonymous!' Who art thou?
Some guy you like but haven't met yet – One of the few privileged guys who have seen your pictures…take a guess, Vera!
Here's the giveaway: your Range/Land Rover 201.. dream will become a reality guy.
Will holla at you through Facebook! Will say "hi cutie…"
Anonymous: Ahhhh! So it's you! Just saw your message on Facebook. You're something else. I would never have guessed it was you.
Yeah, Vera, I'm still around.
Working round the clock to get that Land Rover…
See, that standard is too high but not unattainable. I shall drive the car to your lounge when I pay for it in full. I just sent word across to the dealer for a change of model. I put the 2010 model on lay-away a couple of months ago, but now that 2011 is around the corner, I feel the best thing is to get the latest model.
I love you, Vera! *wink*