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May 13, 2020

I Don’t Know If I’ll Ever Remarry

Don't freak out yet, let me explain --- then you can freak out later when you find out why I don't know if I'll ever remarry. As you know, in December 2017, I walked out of marriage, and in 2019, I filed for divorce. My divorce became final in the same year. Actually, I'm currently excitedly counting down to my one-year divorsary. I totally just made that word up. If you haven't yet, you can read the story about how my marriage ended here. It's a long read, but it's worth it. So I've been told Read More

May 11, 2020

Why Women Endure Bad Marriages (I Am African Podcast #10)

Why-Women Stay In Marriages Verastic I Am African Podcast

Last week, I shared my marriage and divorce story again on Facebook, on Ola Bisi's Facebook profile page, as part of her #DivorceNotStigna series. It's a series of stories by women who walked out of their marriage and got divorced after enduring too much. But reading some of the comments, raised another question about why women endure bad marriages. So, of course, I am here to answer. Why Women Endure Bad Marriages You can also listen at any and all of the following Read More

May 4, 2020

But Our African Men Know Better (I Am African Podcast #9)

I Am African Podcast - African Men Know Better - Verastic

Before we go any further, let's just agree that our African men know better. That being said, last month, I wrote a post on this blog, titled, "20 Things Women Are Not Doing in 2020," and while it was so much fun to write, I was once again surprised by how many women related to it. A woman sent me an email to say how she related to so many of these points, but the one that pained her most was number 7, quoted below: Accepting less because our African men don’t know better: We now know that this Read More

April 27, 2020

The Moutain Is Smaller Than It Looks (I Am African Podcast #8)

What I know for sure now is that the mountain is smaller than it looks. Have you ever faced a mountain in your life that you thought was just going to take you out? Yeah, me, too. Sometimes, I sit back and remember when life was much simpler. Like when my biggest problem in life was that I did not own a cell phone. I wished for one so badly. Funny enough, at some point, I owned not just one, but two cell phones. Then I got tired of having two cell phones, and I switched back to Read More

April 22, 2020

What To Do When Your Partner Hits You

When I was single and imagining life as a married woman, I thought of many things my husband could potentially do wrong - like cheating on me - but I never really considered domestic violence, nor did I ever wonder what to do when your partner hits you. I knew it was a thing that could happen to people, but it was not a thing that could happen to me. I was too strong, I thought. Too smart, for sure. And who born the maga sef? Besides, I would vet any man before I married him anyway, so I knew I Read More

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