I cannot tell you how much time I spent agonizing over the title of this post. This post that I promised to publish last week Monday but failed to do, and it was not for lack of trying. This post that I do not want to write and cannot believe that I'm writing. In my head, if I write it, I will make it true. Yet, it's been one month since I last spoke to my mom, and I have never gone this long without speaking to my mom. I have never even gone for up to a week without talking to her. So, it must Read More
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What Black History Month Means When You’re Black (But Also African)
My life officially began in Leningrad, Russia, and you have guessed correctly that there was no Black History Month there. I spent four years of my life in Russia before my parents moved us back to Nigeria. I do not remember much of my life in Russia, but my parents have told me the story several times of how I was once called a monkey because I was black. I do not recall this, so it does not affect me in anyway. I still dream of going back to visit Russia someday. After Russia, I spent some Read More
Today Is My Birthday, And I’m Keeping Calm
I had plans for this birthday. I was going to do a photoshoot, like the sexy one I did in 2020, but maybe less sexy and more creative. Somewhere between COVID and more COVID, it just did not happen. Honestly, I was lazy, and what I wanted to accomplish would have taken me more time than I had. So, here I am with no new [professional] pictures. Normally, I'm turned up about my birthday, but this year, I'm so calm. Too calm even. There's a kind of confidence and optimism that has settled on me, Read More
22 Things You Should Do In 2022
First of all, how are we in 2022? I don't know about you, but I'm still stuck in 2020, right before the lockdown happened. You know, the one that started in the middle of March and was supposed to last for just two weeks but is still going strong almost two years later. Yes, that one. Nevertheless, they said we're in 2022, and the New Year - even if it does not quite feel like one - is a great time to set new goals and dream new dreams. And most importantly, execute said dreams. In light Read More