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Why Busola Dakolo Did Not Speak Up Until Now

Busola Dakolo - Biodun Fatoyinbo - Rape - COZA - Verastic

I have been in hibernation and have not written here for almost five months, but as much as I tried to, I could not ignore Busola Dakolo's story. I actually tried to ignore it, not because I thought it was insignificant, but because I was just too angry and too exhausted and too frustrated that stories like this one continue to come out of Nigeria AND Nigerians continue to react the same way. Also, this is not the first time a woman has spoken against Biodun Fatoyinbo. Who remembers Ese Walter Read More

I’m In Love With A White Man

I’m In Love With A White Man

I absolutely love reading books. I used to be a voracious reader, but I don't have as much time anymore (hello adulthood and motherhood). I still remember when I first came to America and found out that I could borrow an unlimited number of books from the library for free. What! That summer, I read like a mad woman. Of course, mom was happy because her teenage daughter preferred to stay home and read AND it did not cost her any money. She only had to drive me to the library and help me haul my Read More

Let Me Shake This Table: Men Should Marry Wives They Can Afford

Let Me Shake This Table: Men Should Marry Wives They Can Afford

Alternative title: Men Should Marry Women Who Are Within Their Budget. Today's story is inspired by a conversation (read: heated argument) I had with a friend a while ago. I had mentioned to him that a male friend of mine was proposing to his girlfriend and we (friends) were invited and going to witness this proposal. My friend - let's call him Nnamdi - proceeded to tell me how he did not believe that proposals should be this big thing. He said it was the wedding ceremony that needed to be Read More

Let Me Tell You About The Lesbian Who Wants Me

Let Me Tell You About The Lesbian Who Wants Me

True story. My coworker at my former job is a lesbian, and she wants me. Or let me say, she wanted me and still wants me. But I only just found out. I was speaking to another former coworker and we happened to be speaking about this lesbian coworker. Let's call the lesbian coworker Tina because her name starts with a T. When we worked together, I did not know she was a lesbian. She was never the girly girl type, but that doesn't mean much these days. We were never really close, and I did Read More

The Real Reason Nigerian Feminists Are Mad At Falz

The Real Reason Nigerian Feminists Are Mad At Falz

The other day, I was on Nigerian Twitter and reading tweets - mostly from women - that were insulting Nigerian rapper/actor/comedian, Falz. Apparently, he had said something that was demeaning to women. I did not know much, but I dug deeper and found out that it was mostly about Falz's song, "Talk" from his new album, Moral Instruction, in which he said something about women who use their bodies to make money. First of all, watch the video below, and then let's meet again at the bottom of the Read More

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