Top 12 Reasons Why Igbos And Yorubas Should Not Marry

Whether you are aware of it or not, many inter-tribal relationships have died an untimely death because of the tribal differences between the couple. Parents, elders, and friends have rained down fire and brimstone to see to it that this sacrilegious union does not get to the altar. The strong couples come out of it beaten, bruised, but alive nonetheless. The weaker ones — well, they inspire me to write this.

Couples who are NOT the people I'm talking about (but who look good on my blog)

Couples who are NOT the people I’m talking about (but who look good on my blog)

The most popular union seems to be the one between the Igbos and the Yorubas. With this in mind, I have compiled a list, specially for everyone who is currently in such a relationship.  If you have been pressured into breaking up because of tribal differences and you have no idea why you should – or if you should, then I am here to help you make that decision. Please read, digest, and understand the lists below.

Reasons Igbos Should NOT Marry Yorubas:

1. They’re dirty.

2. All they know how to do is party.

3. They eat too much oil.

4. Their women flirt/sleep around too much.

5. Their men will ALWAYS cheat with a Yoruba woman.

6. They are loud and obnoxious. You can hear them from a mile away.

7.  They are wild. They are the real “Akata” people.

8. They are Nigeria’s problem.

9. They don’t understand the Igbo culture.

10.  They do too much juju.

11.  They betrayed the Igbos during the Biafran war.

12. And to top the list, they are not Igbo.

Reasons Yorubas Should NOT Marry Igbos:

1. They’re rude; they have no respect.

2. All they know how to do is chase money.

3. Their pounded yam is as hard as stone.

4. They don’t put enough oil and spice in their food.

5. Their in-laws are wicked! The husband’s family will always maltreat the woman.

6. They cannot speak Yoruba, and even if they can, they do not know our culture.

7. They will sell their brother for money.

8. They won’t let us play our fuji music at home.

9. They’re Nigeria’s problem. They keep trying to divide us.

10. When their women die, their bodies have to be returned to Igbo Land to be buried.

11. They eat human beings.

12. And the mother of all crimes, they are not Yoruba.

Top 12 Reasons You Should NOT Consider Before Getting Married

1. He/she does not appreciate you.

2. He/she has a turbulent past and a shaky present.

3. He/she can never be faithful to you. And you know this.

4. You have nothing in common, except your tribe, of course.

5. Your dreams, values, and aspirations couldn’t be further apart from each other – even if you stretched them thin.

6. He/she just doesn’t get you.

7. He/she knows how to bring out the worst in you.

8. You cannot quite place your finger on it, but you know that something isn’t right with this relationship.

9. You know that you know that you know that you cannot count on him/her to be there when you need him/her.

10. He/she has no ambition whatsoever.

11. Even with a gun to your head, you cannot vouch for him/her.

12. And the least of all, he/she has done nothing to imply that he/she might be remotely in love with you.

Bonus reason: he/she continuously picks his/her friends and family over you.

If you find yourself confused by the tone of this list, go back to the beginning and read it again till the end.  And just like the tributes in The Hunger Games, may the odds be ever in your favor.

Alternatively, you can find a partner who is Chinese-Iraqi, born in India, and fluent in Portuguese  and Italian. There is no list for that. Yet.

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Comments

  1. says

    Lol, this is funny. It’s sad that ppl ACTUALLY buy into this stuff..like people will be telling me “Don’t go and marry Igbo ooo” and will list reasons 1-12 above and expect me to take them seriously, sad. In my opinion, what these lists show is that we are all in fact more alike than we think but rather than embrace that, we like to play up our “differences” to prove that one is better than the other.

  2. ade says

    That’s not true. I’m married to an igbo man and i am yoruba we do argue some times but we understand each other. My inlaws they are the best. So therefore all this 12 reason not to marry igbo is not right.

  3. Nnamdi says

    First of all, you need to have the fear of God before you make any decision in your life especially marriage. If the bible does not say it, dont judge. Follow your heart and stop worrying about what people think, cos those people have bigger problems that you can ever imagine and they dont care about your happiness. Be careful and goodluck.

  4. kay says

    Some truth. But now the weaknesses are out of the bag there is nothing else to fear. God has made us pretty much thesame if we look hard at this list. Bad pple are in every tribe (and family) as well as good. Do some serious soul searching when looking for a partner and then follow your heart when you’ve done your home work well.

  5. Pab says

    OK. Vera, You need to know that some people are so dumb and they’d take this list serious. Maybe you should write another to let them know this is some joke. We need to learn to start writing positive things, be it joke or not. I mean some people are just out there, who will surely start taking this ish serious. Stop misleading people. This is not funny at all..

    • MV3 says

      PAB’lo’, who be the mumu wey go take this list serious? Na wa for some people o! Vera, I dey your side jare, a beg carry go! I love humor, I love laughter, and I am a Christ lover to the core. Being sincere with ourselves, Vera’s humorous list, is actually not far from the truth. While ROTFL(rolling on the floor laughing) with nice tears flowing, I also acknowledge that Vera has just made the stupidity in most (if not all) Nigerian cultures CLEARER, especially with regards to marital choice.

  6. says

    Dear Ade.

    sat·ire noun /ˈsaˌtīr/ satires, plural

    The use of humor, irony, exaggeration, or ridicule to expose and criticize people’s stupidity or vices, particularly in the context of contemporary politics and other topical issues.

    Have a great day and learn to laugh a little. ;)

  7. says

    Dear Zee,

    love (lʌv)

    — vb

    to have a great attachment to and affection for

    *Insert Chopknuckle emoticon here*

    Sincerely,

    You-Know-Who :-D

    Vera Nwannem, Daalu oru nnoo o? I can actually relate to this piece. My ex-boyfriend’s mom played the “omo igbo” card that eventually made us split. To think I learnt to speak yoruba before i could articulate igbo. smh

    I had a good laugh tho.

    • says

      Oooh. I could kiss you right now too. In fact, it has to be a threesome between me, you, and Zee.

      I’m sorry to hear about the breakup. Tribe shouldn’t have gotten in the way, but since it did, there were obviously other underlying problems (see Bonus Reason under “12 Reasons You Should NOT Consider Before Getting Married)

  8. says

    This must be a joke, problems in a relationship is not limited to inter-tribal alone, no two different people are thesame, the mistake we make always is that we often take infatuation or emotional expression for love, if you love a woman or a man, no matter where he or she comes from you will live the rest of your lives together without stress. More importantly, if Christ is the cornerstone of your relationship you can be sure there will be no sweat. i.e Christ+love=everlasting peace.
    Some inter-tribal marriages has been perfect examples of excellent marriage.

  9. shola says

    As a Yoruba man, i want to make it clear that i strongly object to ignorant, mindless and insensitive people insulting my race or faith, for whatever reason, i want to ask if it is a crime to be Yoruba, Igbo or Hausa? I believe the answer is NO, so i ask why some people feel they are something extra-terrestrial.

    In as much as i would like to hold back from joining issues with this alien called VERA EZIMORA and others like her, i have written my reply to her. If Vera has issues with some Yoruba people she knows, then let her settle with them and stop pretending to be giving ill-fated advice to people.

    YORUBA IS A NATION, A RACE

    As a Yoruba man and a Lagosian, i know many Igbos who are happily married to Yoruba women and have children who don’t even have igbo names as their first names but rather are proud to be recorgnised as Yoruba sons and daughters. If Yorubas are as dirty her mind is, she should ask herself why more igbo men are crazy about Yoruba women, but in contrast fewer Yoruba men would like to marry a Igbo woman. I believe she is living in her own captured in-the-bottle mind.

    Top 12 Reasons Why Igbos And Yorubas Should Not Marry
    Written by Vera Ezimora
    Whether you are aware of it or not, many inter-tribal relationships have died an untimely death because of the tribal differences between the couple. Parents, elders, and friends have rained down fire and brimstone to see to it that this sacrilegious union does not get to the altar. The strong couples come out of it beaten, bruised, but alive nonetheless. The weaker ones — well, they inspire me to write this.
    The most popular union seems to be the one between the Igbos and the Yorubas. With this in mind, I have compiled a list, specially for everyone who is currently in such a relationship. If you have been pressured into breaking up because of tribal differences and you have no idea why you should – or if you should, then I am here to help you make that decision. Please read, digest, and understand the lists below.

    Reasons Igbos Should NOT Marry Yorubas:
    1. They’re dirty.
    >>I believe poverty is the main reason why people live dirty and i doubt if the Igbos are immune to same condition/living standard

    2. All they know how to do is party.
    >>This is your believe, because you cannot see beyond her nose, Yorubas socialize and love to have fun

    3. They eat too much oil.
    >> I wonder if this is a crime or just being childish, where did you get your statistics from?

    4. Their women flirt/sleep around too much.
    >>May be in your village or don’t you watch igbo films at least!, you know the answer

    5. Their men will ALWAYS cheat with a Yoruba woman.
    >>I wonder if that is your problem, or are you speaking from experience?

    6. They are loud and obnoxious. You can hear them from a mile away. >>WHAT? You are not honest in your dealings

    7. They are wild. They are the real “Akata”people.
    >>Yes you are right again, twisting the answer

    8. They are Nigeria’s problem.
    >>Yes they invented 419, kidnappings, armed robbery and they are in grater number in foreign jails for drug trafficking to name but a few

    9. They don’t understand the Igbo culture.
    >>What is “Igbo culture?” can you define it yourself

    10. They do too much juju.
    >>Shows your ignorance again, don’t worship stones and woods like the Igbos, but real messengers sent to them by the creator, Ogun, Oya, Ifa, Shango etc were mortal beings, messengers immortalized and honored by their people. As a Muslim, i know that GOD says in the Qu’ran (the holy book of Muslims) “There is no NATION except that we have sent but a WARNER”, it is said that over 140.000 messengers were sent to every nation, but only a handful were given direct scriptures like the Old Testament, The Gospel and Quran.

    11. They betrayed the Igbos during the Biafran war.
    >>And they saved a Nation called Nigeria, what would have been the faith of the ijaws, and other minorities if the Biafrans have had their way, i doubt if ojukwu would have ruled successfully and die in peace. You also will agree with me that you cannot cook on a two-stone stove but three, If not for Yoruba (Awolowo)’s foresight, there would have been no nation called Nigeria today and that saved millions of lives too.

    12. And to top the list, they are not Igbo. >>No comment!

    Reasons Yorubas Should NOT Marry Igbos: >>The rest has no meaning

    • says

      Shola,

      As an Igbo woman, I want to make it clear that your strong objection makes no difference. Whatsoever. None.

      I would have liked to read everything you wrote, but it’s almost midnight here, and babes are sleepy.

      But I see that you only took the time to defend your wonderful Yoruba people. Why didn’t you defend the Igbos, too?

      Tribalist you. And you don’t even know it.

          • Juju says

            Vera, do you think it’s true that Igbo girls always stay with Igbo men and not Yoruba? Your casual dismissal of Shola seems like that.

            Are Igbo men just more naturally handsome?

            They get all the girls in Nigeria.

            • says

              Juju, I definitely don’t think that’s one. For one, you simply cannot use the word “always” when you’re describing human beings. I’m Igbo, and I didn’t stay with my Igbo guy. It had (still has) nothing to do with his tribe. And err, I don’t know much about Igbo dudes always getting the girls. Lol.

    • Tunde says

      Read the whole article before posting rabbish up here. It was supposed to ironical (insert dumbass smiley here). Thats why there’s a Yoruba and Igbo list which are complete mirrors of themselves… Nigerian Education sector is D.E.A.D.. *Drops pen*

      • Jesutogun says

        Seriously it is dead, or maybe these commenters were all science students who didnt do literature.See people serious for Africa!!!!!!!!! O ma gaa o.”SmH cannot describe how i feel at all!

        • MV3 says

          Jesutogun, as a hard core scientist I can assure you that Shola is definitely NOT a scientist. His analyses are utterly baseless and suicidal. No scientist will write an “epistle” without proper investigation, especially when such a write-up will expose the scientist’s weakest point – like being highly tribalistic.;)

          Remember: scientists also inhale a lot of laughing gas in the chemistry lab and we can easily identify our laughing bone in the anatomy lab – lol :D

    • chizzie says

      Shola, I see its the highest level of low IQ you have displayed here. I mean who does that. Am Igbo, with lots of youruba friends. Didn’t you read the part Vera wrote that we eat human or sell our borthers for money. Its a pity you may be a graduate and I wonder how you went through school. I attended a Federal unity school a palce where you have almost all tribes and religons/denomiationd. You are* tot to tolerate all man. So pls, try looking 4 ways to improve your IQ*

    • says

      I think your missing the joke here. And point of correction it is a known fact in Nigeria that more Yoruba men marry Igbo women not the other way round. Perhaps you need to get some sleep and then read the post again…. RELAX GUYS IT’S JUST A JOKE!!

      • says

        Lady Gaby,

        Is it really true that more Yoruba men marry Igbo women than the other way around? I’ve always noticed that I know more Yoruba men marrying Igbo women than I know the other way around, but I thought it was just because of my circle of friends, not necessarily the norm. But wow, interesting.

        And please, don’t worry about Shola. Lol.

    • MV3 says

      SHOLA!!! You’re A-M-A-Z-I-N-G! All you did, was to spend ample time in proving Vera RIGHT! Kudos to you o baba Yoruba.

      FYI: I am a Yoruba woman with an Ibo mother-in-law :D

      Growing up, I watched my uncles & aunties go through hell in the hands of their parents for dating people from the same tribe but different villages (how much more dumb could that be?) :O

      I also have a friend whose parents went through hell in the hands of their own people because they came from the same village but different parts of the village (issue: although we speak the same language, the people on this side do not marry people on that side – okay now, THIS IS super “DUMBER” than the situation in my family – SURPRISE!!! – LOL :D

  10. says

    Dear Shola,

    You obviously do not understand the point that is being made here.

    This is a ‘SATIRE’!!!!!!!! Please see the meaning of a satire in my earlier comment.

    GEEEEEEEZZ!!!!!!

    @aeedeeaee I LOVE U!!!!!! :* :* :*

  11. says

    Obara Jesus!!! Oro yii abi emi? This matter or something else?!!! How can anyone not see the sarcasm dripping from this post?! Haba, oga Shola, I am Yoruba too and I could recognise the satirical nature of this post. Vera herself is Igbo, yet she gave reasons why they “shouldnt” be married to. Biko, let’s try to read things in context!

  12. says

    Dearest Shola,

    i’d be shocked if i learned that you passed english language. Jowo, if you don’t h-understand, h-axe! Biko. Don’t be disgracing your Nation/Race ngwulu ngwulu.

    Thank you.

    Signed,

    Concerned Igbo-Yoruba Humanoid.

    See epistle on top satire!
    Tueh!

    • says

      #dead#
      stop h-insulting h-us o! H-it h-is not h-our fault that we ave no “H” h-in h-our h-alphabet! H-and since people like you h-always bring h-it to the fore, we sometimes h-are h-under h-immense pressure, ence feel the need to h-over compensate!
      sha stop h-insulting h-us. My bros, Sholly, doesnt represent the popular majority o!

      I sure say u sabi say na joke I dey joke o! cos this atmosphere wey dey hia so, I no want virtual slap.

  13. Funmie says

    and i missed all of these drama? y?

    lol… sholly bobo… my name na Funmi…. full blooded omo yoruba and i am one of vera’s bestie….

    Pls tell me you get my point!!!

  14. eloo says

    100% spot on yorubas being extremely dirty and extremely loud!These savages cant even realise that!I shared a flat with 2 yorubas girls(moshun and ade) and one polish girl.The polish girl and me ended up leaving the flat because of the dirtiness and the noise.These yourbas never bought a washing up liquid.they would use the same soap to clean the dishes and bathroom.Every 2weeks the house owner( a nigerian!) had to hire a plumber to flush the toilets coz they had blocked it.They never bought an air spray to make the house smell nice.The only things they were good at were gossiping all days long on the phone and eating.They would leave piles and piles of dirty dishes in the kitchen for days without any respect for other flatmates.I will never eat any food coocked by a yoruba woman and I will never ever again live next to a yorubas.I am not nigerian by the way!

    • says

      Eloo, I’m really sorry that you had such an experience with your roommates. I think it was more about their personalities and upbringing than it was about their tribe. Unfortunately, there are such people in every tribe, race, nationality, and socio economic status. I hope it does not ruin your image of Yoruba people. Personally, I have Yoruba friends that are nothing like that.

  15. Busola says

    @Shola, Vera was joking o. Most of her friends r Yoruba. Please don’t take her serious. She plays a lot. I’ve known the crazy girl for 12 years. She is a comedian.

  16. eloo says

    I thin many people are living in denial!They should check up all these yorubas women living around london and make an idea for themselves.If that is the best nigeria can offer then,,,,ahahahahahaa!I dont think anybody here try to pick on an ethnic group.Any stereotype has an element of truth!Poverty and backgrounds dont excuse despicable behaviours.What is an excuse for an african woman to be dirty in usa or europe where you can afford to be clean for very little money.

    • says

      Eloo,

      I do agree with you that every stereotype has an element of truth in it. Very, very true. There’s a reason – valid or not – why people believe that Yoruba people are dirty and why Igbo people would do anything for money. However, I do hope that when we meet someone from these ethnic groups (or anyone different from us in anyway), we are able to give them the benefit of doubt.

      • Dapo says

        If u agree that “every stereotype as some element of truth in it” then we can also assert that the stereotype of blacks being monkies and violent by nature must have some element of truth, based on your premise.

  17. omotee says

    Haba Broda Shola, awada ni fa! I know Vera will eventually marry a Yoruba man.

    Now Vera, I need u to do the Hausa list. Hehehehe.

  18. Nice says

    Yoruba are my people and trust me i know them.
    The list is meant to be sarcastic because it showed the Igbo list but man!!!!

    As far as the Yoruba list is concerned ALL that is said IS TRUE!!!!

    The one that irritates the most is NUMERO UNO my people’s hygiene STILL LEAVES A LOT TO BE DESIRED.
    i WILL NOT DEFEND THEM E Jowo lets start by bathing twice a day at least kilode???

    • says

      Nice, it’s really unfortunate. Wile stereotypes are very general, the truth is that they originated from somewhere. There must be a reason why Igbos think that Yorubas are dirty, and there must be a reason why
      Yorubas think that Igbos only care about money and their in-laws are wicked.

      • Nice says

        Veraaa, Veraaa, Veraaaa

        How many times did I call you?

        I said they are my people leave out stereotype
        My people bath when they go out and dress to kill, bathing to them is not something they do automatically.

        aa even here in the UK where water idey fo inside house,
        my people still do not bath as such

        I think sango may have bewitched them
        suprising this is even more of an issue amongst girls and women than it is for the Yoruba men.

        Please jo Vera these people need serious deliverance!!!
        Even amongst your Yoruba friends ask them how many times a day they take their bath winter no winter!

        • says

          Loooool! Nice, mba oh. I shall not be asking anyone that question. I don’t want to get slapped back to Nigeria. But the friends I do have, they take showers everyday oh. I’m referring to my close friends. Can’t vouch for the rest.

  19. Nice says

    Whose in law is wicked ?
    In Yoruba culture unless you papa has these bombastic heavy titles that follow his name! my dear sister you may suffer a lot of injustice when they marry you o.

    Do you know that when you are married to these my people their youngest child could call you and order you to run an errand for them and all you have to say is yes oko mi ? it is even worse if you are Yoruba since you automatically have to comply.

    The housewife that does not comply as i say could either be from very rich or powerful family or that she is known to have mystical powers either negative or positive to counter the inlaws. It is indeed rare to find kind inlaws in Yoruba land who will sincerely like you for you, although father in laws are somehow an exception as opposed to the rest of the family members.

    I do not lie.

    Yoruba men do not lie when you discuss cultural issues with them they will atest to this,
    this is why they prefer to marry far away from their towns to protect their wives.

  20. Slaxxy says

    Vera Ezimora, You and those saying; yoruba are dirty, must be out of your minds. I believed you are a big Fool that lacks wisdom. If not, how would you have such conclusion, that the yoruba are dirty… There is no ethnic in this world that don’t have their aspect of dirtiness, it even surprise me, to see you as an Igbo girl, talking about dirtiness. I’ve lived with many Igbos and see how dirty most of them are, partaining going to their general disgusting latrine Bare footed…
    Also they are found of wearing on dirty wrappers at home…. They dress well only on sundays. Almost all my Igbo nabour’s room has a similar stinky odour, I don’t know the cause… Maybe it’s because how they walk into their latrine that’s fool of patches of shits, bare footed… If we are talking of dirtiness, the Igbos should be the dirtiest tribe in Nigeria… Yet, you’ll see an Igbo man opening his stinky mouth saying “the yoruba are dirty”… That’s funny enough
    AFTER ALL I’M NOT NIGERIAN, BUT I’VE BEEN IN NIGERIA FOR THE PAST 12 YEARS WITH THE IGBOS… And now I lived in lagos with the yorubas.

      • DeboDrorgs says

        Vera u’r a wickedin sombori!! How can you fit to say uncle Slaxxy is not right about the different ‘ethnics’ in Nigeria? What is wrong about you Vera?
        Uncle was only talking about the ‘dirtiness’ of his ‘nabours’……..hahohohohhehe.ok here’s my conclusion, this blogspot is undisputably the largest colony of clowns on the internet.
        I got here by chance but dont intend to leave anytime soon, not wit topics that evokes the clannishnes in us (nigerians)

  21. LAMBE MAYOWA says

    oh Wow….der r still ladies wiv deep true tots about relationship nd can actually xpress it in a very funny but captivative way? yeah i jst found one of does few ladies. Her name VERA….i jst stumbled on ds nd am in love wih it already.Vera…Vera….u try ooo babe. MAYOWA

    • DeboDrorgs says

      Aunty Mayowa ooo…..chai!!! So u agree with Vera ba? Isorite! ……Ehen so u mean say My sister’s(a yoruba) 22yrs old marriage to her Ibo husband na “sacrilege” ba? Make I call her nownow make she pack her bags and her three extremely intelligent children run comot for the house b4 d man eat her (ibos dey chop human na)……hehehehehehe…..thank God for books oo, atleast some of us know better. Anyway Vera u should be dinning with the likes of Apororo and I go die cos you’r good like that.

  22. Fulanigirl says

    The comments turned out to be funnier than the blog post. Maybe what we need is a sarcasm punctuation mark that would clearly indicate when sarcasm is being employed as a literary device. Some of our reading comprehension skills leave much to be desired apparently. :-) Hmmmm “Engrish as a second language”, it’s not easy oh! lol. I blame the white man for saddling us all with this wahala.

    • says

      You’re sooooo right. I think this is definitely the oyibo man’s fault. LOL. I don’t know if I should start my write-ups with “Disclaimer: Anticipate sarcasm.” And even if I do that, I would probably have to define sarcasm, too. SMH

  23. Omotobi says

    This artice was sooooooo funnny…some of it true im yoruba and my girlfriend is half yoruba half igbo. The cultures are different but at the end of the day we all Nigerian!!!

  24. STANLEY JAMES says

    lol!. there should be no dis-crimination in matters like this.. God should be the judge of whatever situation.

  25. anonymous says

    RUBBISH! THIS ARTICLE WAS OBVIOUSLY DONE BY A TRIBALIST WHO HASHATRED FOR YORUBA PPL. IGBOS ARE THE WORST WHEN IT COMES TO CRIMINAL IN NAIJA. KIDNAPPING, DRUG-TRAFFICKING, EVEN UPTO MURDERING THEIR FRIEND/FAMILY FOR MONEY$$$$.

        • says

          Yemi, stop this pretense. You’re certainly a fool. Nothing shows detest more than commenting four times on a post you detest.

          P.S. Pretense is spelled with an S, not a C.

          Once again, you’re welcome.

          • says

            Ewoooo, my girl vera have vex ooooo. All of you coming here and annoying my girl with your bad behavior, if you don’t like the post or her blog, just ‘walk on byyy’.

            Haba, how many comments have to be put on here to explain that this is a satirical post?
            {sa·tir·i·cal (s -t r -k l) or sa·tir·ic (- k). adj. Of, relating to, or characterized by satire. See Synonyms at sarcastic.

            Satire : the use of irony, sarcasm, ridicule, or the like, in exposing, denouncing, or deriding vice, folly, etc. }

            Ehn ekwa….people just like to have bad attitude and show themselves ….mtuuuuueeeewww…

            Bia vera, no mind them jare…just continue to sing “some people jealous me, because of my awesome blog (awesomeness, which ever makes you feel good jor)’

            • says

              Izzie, it’s not even that I’m vexing sef oh. It’s just that on some days, I’m not really in the mood to be nice, so I give it back as it’s given. Lol at singing some people jealous me. Hahaha. Will keep that in mind for next time cause you know there will be a next time.

  26. Sola says

    I dont believe in wot the so call vera post about igbos and yorubas. Both tribes has their own weakness and praises, so i do disagree wit her totally. I think we children of newadays should have grown wise and forget about those things our parents take very serious. I love both igbos and yorubas generally, so i see no reasons why we cant marry ourselves. In everything, love matters, even if your parents give you a reason why you shouldnt marry him/her, then you too try to give them a reason why you must marry him/her. Pls am begging both the two tribes, let us not allow our parents or friends to confuse and let us to lose our future partners. I am a yoruba guy 4rm ondo state, still very single and searching for a gud and well trained igbo girl(age:21-22) for a serious and godly relationsip. I mean sumone(igbogirl) who doesnt believe in all these rubbish post by vera. But pls, be serious and be a fearing and godly person. My contacts: phone no-08068062135, email-sola.akintan@yahoo.com, add me on 2go wit my username-bigbrado26.

    • says

      Loooooooool!! Now, this is too funny. I am now the so called Vera, ehn kwa? You know what I can do? I can post this comment to help you find a well trained Igbo girl.

    • Kiky says

      Seriously Shola, Vera has been saying that this post is meant to be sarcastic. Please check the meaning. Have you even read the other comments? And did you also see the list she made for the igbos?

  27. Sola says

    @vera, well i ave think about this over again, atleast it will make it easy for me to get one if you can help me to re-post it. Pls you are free to do that……

  28. Akara-Oogun says

    98.9% of Igbo ppl (esp. Ladies) have very STRONG BAD BODY ODOUR. Their ladies are MANNERLESS, but they are Pretty outside. They are FOOLS..

  29. Zorrat says

    Vera: you are way more educated and sophisticated than a lot of your readers.

    Shame on those who are taking her literally. She is trying to make you think.

    Lighten up!!!!!!!

    • says

      *Sigh*

      Honestly, Zorrat, it’s not usually like this. I guess this post really hit a lot of nerves (which I love), but unfortunately, some people don’t exactly understand the concept of sarcasm and satire. Let’s blame it on the Nigerian education system. Thank you so much for reading (and understanding) ;)

  30. says

    Well, they are the common arguments, but they re not necessarily so true.

    I am male, and in my late 20s. I m dating a Yoruba girl (who I will likely marry), to me, no Igbo girl is more suiting!

    Above all, thank goodness my parents are not opposing, But even if they did, who will live with the woman after wedding? me or them?

      • says

        Ehm, Vera, I like ur blog though, it is thought provoking, and am surem you didnt aim to support the view that the two tribes should not marry, but to oultline the common errounous believes .

        I enjoyed reading non the less, and You are as such a good blogger.

        How are you doing?

        • says

          Hi Goziem! Thanks a lot for reading. Glad you liked it. And no, I absolutely do not support the view that the two tribes should not marry. I just think it’s ridiculous that we (Nigerians) have reasons why they should not marry.

          Per your question, I’m doing great. Thanks for asking. You?

  31. says

    Sweetim…you forgot to mention that uncle Shola mentioned that “YORUBA IS A NATION, A RACE”…I did not know this before ooooo….

    #knowledgeIsPower #rhetorics ;)

  32. says

    I couldn’t help myself buh to laugh out loud…never knew pple can take smfin sooo serz.I think 9ja will be so boring without dis two tribe(igbo nd yoruba)…I enjoy their controversies

    • says

      You’re so right. Nigeria definitely won’t be the same without these two tribes. And I guess their dislike and distrust of one another just makes them ever more interesting. Lucky me. I’m one of them. Tehehe.

  33. says

    It’s somehow insulting 2 refer to a tribe as dirty, whether a sarcasm or what have you. Presentation of words must be handled well by intellectuals, and I doubt if vera is one.

    • says

      Yemi, it’s somehow insulting for you to think that this is about your tribe and for you to defend only your tribe. Why didn’t you complain about the insults the Igbo tribe received? And just so you know, there is nothing intellectual about you, your words, and the presentation of your mentality.

    • Dapo says

      Yemi, she meant what the two ethnic groups say about each other, not that she believes these things. Na wa for my people o. So what about the eating human beings? Dat one na ndigbo problem, since no be Yoruba she put for that one.

  34. anuli ofojekwu says

    Chai Vera, it’s so obvious that you”ve got quite a number of unsophisticated readers. Pls bear with them all, it’s just pure evidence of the kind of education they”ve been exposed to. How sad.

    • says

      Anuli, tell me about it. It’s really, really sad that some people – in spite of all their education – are not familiar with the simple concept of sarcasm.

  35. The Saint says

    You know, I did my secondary school at FGC Warri and it was there I met and appreciated people from every part of Nigeria. Before then, aside from my early years in the uk I lived in Lagos where most people around me were Yoruba. In warri though and then in university of Lagos most of my friends were eighter Igbo or from the old Bendel state and from there I gained a certain insight to different peoples such that people are a product of that which they assimilate and their environment NOT from whence they come. In church ( plugging Christ Embassy ) it was also drummed into us that we all hail from God and not a geographical location. So of course it’s of no wonder that I am married to a beautiful Igbo girl oh by the way I my parents are Yoruba whilst I hail from Zion the city of God lol. We are all the same….. That is all!

    • says

      The Saint, you are right. We are the same indeed. But unfortunately, some of us don’t know that. We will always have a reason to cause separation and segregation. You know, I have been seeing a lot of Igbo-Yoruba unions lately, or maybe I’m only noticing them now because I have been paying more attention. I don’t know.

      • The Saint says

        You are probably noticing it more now that you’re paying attention.
        Let me look for trouble now: Funny thing about your post though, no one seems to be taking offence to you umbrage of the Igbo race. Hmm; can one then infer and conclude that the Igbo people have a better sense of humour or are more educated or more patient when reading and hold their tongue before jumping into conclusions like the Yorubas or; ( before Shola and Akara curse me and my ancestors past and present let me bean equal opportunities bloke). We could also say that it just might be because the Igbo people spend all their time in spare parts shop and can’t read that’s why they havent noticed you yabbing them too! Lol. I don do am now lets go there.
        Seriously though all the people that are attacking this post need to take a chill pill and calm down. When you spew your venom and attack the lovely innocent Vero you by your comments show yourself to be bigger tribalistic people thus you become that which you portend to hate and at the same time exhibiting utter ignorance and extreme crassness.
        You become like Napoleon in animal farm overthrowing the farmers and becoming a worse despot.

        Enough said.
        Bless you my sister o jare. Carry go!

  36. eezee says

    Why so many Yoruba single-mums in uk here?Is it a cultural thing in yorubaland?I uses to bang one of them and,to my surprise ,all her friends were single-mums as well.It seemed that all their men were on business trips in Nigeria.Is that possible?

    • says

      Eezee, I don’t know anything about single Yoruba mothers in the UK. Maybe someone who lives in the UK will be in better position to respond to your question.

  37. says

    Many are unaware that the EGBA (who speak yoruba today) people of southwestern Nigeria are actually Igbos. So technically, Igbos can marry EGBA. The question is, how many people know this. The reason the EGBA (IGBO) people speak yoruba today is because they had lost a war to a yoruba queen(Remi I believe). Many are also, unaware that the EGBA/Ebo & some Ibo people were apart of the Benin empire (and know they wasn’t conquered by Benin they were apart of the Benin Empire.) It all started with the first Oba of Benin, Oba Eweka (who many are unaware was an igbo man that went to war with his igbo royal family, Eri).

  38. IGE, OLUWASEYE says

    ENOUGH OF BREAKING HOMES

    Marriage is a good thing. It is, however, not a place for the BOYS – “Bachelor of Yobs” (Yob means a rude and aggressive young man). It is ONLY meant for the MEN – “Mentoring, Educating and Nurturing” (i.e. a place where couple mentors, educates and nurtures each other).

    It is not about AGE; rather it is for the MATURE MEN who are filled with wisdom, knowledge and understanding. It is not about RICH; it is for the people who are CONTENTED. It is not about POSITION; it is for people who love REPOSITION. It is not about I but WE. It is not about POSSESSIONS but it is for the PROCESSORS. It is not about being the HEAD but being the HELP. It is not about tribe but TRINITY (God, Husband and Wife). It is not about TODAY but TOMORROW.

    In a nutshell, marriage is meant to assist each other. When you are in need, your companion should be there to satisfy you. When you are hungry; you should see someone to prepare you a delicious meal. When you are thirsty; someone should take good care of you and use her hands to rub your chest. When your heart is full of distress, someone must be there to counsel and encourage you. These and lots more are reasons for our unions. That is why it is being said “a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”

    To read more of this article – send your request to: seye4God@yahoo.com and it will be forwarded to you free of charge. There must be no more HOME BREAKING but HOME BUILDING!

    IGE, OLUWASEYE
    08030608685

  39. IGE, OLUWASEYE says

    ENOUGH OF BREAKING HOMES

    Marriage is a good thing. It is, however, not a place for the BOYS – “Bachelor of Yobs” (Yob means a rude and aggressive young man). It is ONLY meant for the MEN – “Mentoring, Educating and Nurturing” (i.e. a place where couple mentors, educates and nurtures each other).

    It is not about AGE; rather it is for the MATURE MEN who are filled with wisdom, knowledge and understanding. It is not about RICH; it is for the people who are CONTENTED. It is not about POSITION; it is for people who love REPOSITION. It is not about I but WE. It is not about POSSESSIONS but it is for the PROCESSORS. It is not about being the HEAD but being the HELP. It is not about tribe but “TRINITY” (i.e. the combination of God, Husband and Wife – which means in the beginning it was only the couple and God). It is not about TODAY but TOMORROW.

    In a nutshell, marriage is meant to assist each other. When you are in need, your companion should be there to satisfy you. When you are hungry; you should see someone to prepare you a delicious meal. When you are thirsty; someone should take good care of you and use her hands to rub your chest. When your heart is full of distress, someone must be there to counsel and encourage you. These and lots more are reasons for our unions. That is why it is being said “a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”

    To read more of this article – send your request to: seye4God@yahoo.com and it will be forwarded to you free of charge. There must be no more HOME BREAKING but HOME BUILDING!

    IGE, OLUWASEYE
    08030608685

  40. Hussler says

    Choi Vera…ths made an interesting read..
    the post, an the comments….Popcorn n coke na wetin i use finish am.

    Its amazing how sad people really are…to find out things that nerve them…
    U are an amazing, and interesting writer joor!
    keep doing your thing!

    • says

      Hussler, thank you soooooooooooooo much. It’s always refreshing to read comments like yours. Lol at the popcorn and coke. My dear, na so I see am oh! It’s like, people just read the part they want to read and then jump to conclusions, not even taking a second to ponder about what they just read. Thank you anyway. Appreciate the comment.

  41. CALEB ADISA says

    You are not creative at all; your point can not even convince primary six pupil talk-less of an adult. You need to enroll into creative school so as to be able to convince pple. Imagine “they are dirty”

  42. unmaskd says

    this is preposterous, this article lacks all the rudiments of a highly thought out piece….im sure it was written by a yoruba girl….I am practically pulling my hair out at the banality of it all……hopefully this post hasn’t gotten to the public…..I think the author should bury his head in shame……omg igbo gals are dirty and the yoruba ones love money, how can you come to such vain conclusions….in fact I know what to do……I am going to ask you this simple question (culled from the last jamb that so many people failed)…..vera where have u been all my life?….I need to make a proposal now (on my knees now)….vera will u be my best blogger? Will most likely throw in a marriage proposal when I get a big enough land to do the ROTF thingy…..answer quick my knees are beginning to hurt

  43. says

    I’m really impressed with your writing skills and
    also with the layout on your weblog. Is this
    a paid theme or did you modify it yourself? Either way keep up
    the excellent quality writing, it’s rare to see a great blog like this one nowadays.

  44. Jennifer says

    Nigerian women are beautiful but you wear too much false hair, which makes you not as beautiful as you could be. Ditch the wigs and go with your own hair no matter how short.

  45. says

    Vera, I would ve loved 2 ignore u coz I c u suffer 4rm ‘megalomania’ , an incurable disease, bt 4 d sake of ‘what must be’ I chose to reply. It ll be gud 4 u 2 kn, as it must be u’re not vast at lexicon, dat ‘expence’ is British, while ‘expense’ is Ame. Anyway, u’re welcome

    • hometruth says

      @Yemi, ‘expence’ isn’t British spelling as you claim. Either side of the Atlantic, the spelling is ‘expense’.

  46. daniel says

    All i can say about your ignorance is that you’re just a racist, accept it and live with it. We are all one nation without discrimination.

  47. Obi says

    Thank you Vera for making me laugh. The weather is so blah where I am; I appreciate the pick me up.
    My favorite was your comment about the increase from 98.8 to 98.9%. A sister is still laughing…. :-)

  48. cyan says

    It has been some weeks now since the Dr Eziza bring back my husband back. Our reunion happened ‘suddenly.’ There is no secret what Dr Eziza can do! I thank you again for the the spell that were cast for us as well to bring back my lover.email him via:ezizaoguntemple@gmail.com or +2348058176289

  49. Amh says

    Just stumbled on your blog. From you writtings. It shows a desperate igbo girl that wants to be like all her posh yoruba girls. I knew you would like to date a yoruba man hence all the jargons you wrote. There are lots of igbo guys marrying youruba girls. There are 3 in my family . Even though we thot they married down. But they love each other and we have come to accept them. Why dont you date an igbo guy vera ? You want to appear posh and wadh yourself away from the igbo stench. Yoruba tribe, are wealthy, educated sophisticated and highly learned and cultured. U understand the attractio. If other tribes. P,ls do me a favor get yourself a spare part dealer from alaba. I can see you are jealous of your yoruba friends you want to be like them. Yoruba guys will rather marry their girls. Igbo girls are too manly with masculine features, smelly bleached skin and too hairy.

  50. Loveth says

    hmm with all dis anger nd agressiveness 4rm yoruba pple,it shows dat dey are nt wise despite all d skul dy attended.As 4 it jst funny 2 say igbos lack manner or eat human beings cos it all a big lie nd does saying d yorubas are nt dirty,sori cos d truth hurts

  51. Loveth says

    hmm with all dis anger nd agressiveness 4rm yoruba pple,it shows dat dey are nt wise despite all d skul dy attended.As 4 me it jst funny 2 say igbos lack manner or eat human beings cos it all a big lie nd those saying d yorubas are nt dirty,sori cos d truth hurts.

  52. idris says

    i would have love to comment on this issue thereby defending my tribe but since its all satires there is no big deal about it, but pls take note * all men are not equal*
    When using satires u should understand that not every educated person. really understand it . For instance i didn’t understand until i checked my dictionary and u will agree with me that most Nigerians are tribalist irrespective of their level of exposure or education.
    In reality some of your reason are not far from the truth about this two leading tribes.

  53. Dhbltz says

    Wow! It’s a year and 6months and your post is still as relevant and intriguing as fine wine…..I must say your blog is top notch and this thread really connects with loads of people………I laughed so hard reading the comments….anyway its the first of October (our nations anniversary) let’s all sheave our vocal swords and spread love…..well I’m Yoruba, in love with a wonderful masterpiece from the Igbo land and I’m glad to see “oga sola” putting up an ad for a bride from the east………

  54. says

    Dhbltz,

    Hahaha. Thank you very much! Frankly, I am very, very surprised that people are still reading and responding to this post. I am humbled and grateful. Happy Independence Day to you, too. I’m happy for you and your Igbo masterpiece. My masterpiece is Yoruba. There’s definitely something in the water for the Igbo + Yoruba union. To God be the glory.

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