In this week’s episode of Verastic Life, we are seriously preparing for Ada Verastic’s party, and coincidently, my friends (except Uju) are all in my house (Solachi, Funmie, and Ibukun). Funmie and I also get into a heated conversation about the other room. Igwe’s mom takes her first trip to the mall and gets a new cell phone.
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I’d to pause to comment. I needed that choir ministratioin this morning. I woke up to the devastating news of the election, and let me just say hearing that God is greater than any other; hearing that if God is for us, who could ever stop us? Yeah, that was exactly what I needed to hear now. So, thanks for sharing that, Vera. God bless you
From an outsider looking in I think grandma should be encouraged to call Ada Verastic whatever name y’all call have been calling her at home judging by her non response to the name Fisayo that grandma keeps calling her. I know it is the name you said she gave her and all but she can reserve it for “praise” sessions when she is singing out all of Ada Verastic’s names like grandma’s usually do when soothing their grandkids. Because she will soon get confused by all the different names she is being called I saw it almost happen to my niece but thankfully my cousin put her foot down and respectfully asked all parties (from both sides) to refer to her by her given name which they eventually did and reserved all other names they had given her and felt she ought to be called for “praise” sessions when she did something good and they were praising her or when she was crying and they were trying to sooth her. For all other times her given name prevailed. As for the Mommy Fisayo thing you spoke about in a previous post I think that is something that her son can handle with her as in he can talk to her the way a son talks to his mama and explain to her that it is ok to call you Vera or whatever it is you prefer to be called and she doesn’t need to keep calling you Ma or Mama Fisayo. Obviously two cultures are currently at play here the Yoruba culture and the “western culture” but that is something that she will gradually adjust and adapt to with time the longer she stays in the States and learn how to blend both cultures to suit her without losing her “Yorubaness” so to speak.
Mehn Funmie na real bush gal hahahaha see her arguing about the “kishen” and other room lol made my day. So Funmie you agree that roles have evolved and women are also providing and not just the men right ok then let the men also belong in the kitchen too based on your point let us all evolve together. Either that or let them provide 100% if they want women to stay in the kitchen 100% of the time.
I see where Pendo is coming from, but the truth of the matter is thay in the grand scheme of things, that’s not a big deal. Vera, please choose your battles carefully, some things are just not worth expending energy on. Whether it’s Fisayo or Ada, it’s all her name and with time she will get used to both. Trust me, some of these things are no biggies.
: From an outsider looking in I think grandma should be encouraged to call Ada Verastic whatever name y’all call have been calling her at home judging by her non response to the name Fisayo that grandma keeps calling her. I know it is the name you said she gave her and all but she can reserve it for “praise” sessions when she is singing out all of Ada Verastic’s names like grandma’s usually do when soothing their grandkids. Because she will soon get confused by all the different names she is being called I saw it almost happen to my niece but thankfully my cousin put her foot down and respectfully asked all parties (from both sides) to refer to her by her given name which they eventually did and reserved all other names they had given her and felt she ought to be called for “praise” sessions when she did something good and they were praising her or when she was crying and they were trying to sooth her. For all other times her given name prevailed. As for the Mommy Fisayo thing you spoke about in a previous post I think that is something that her son can handle with her as in he can talk to her the way a son talks to his mama and explain to her that it is ok to call you Vera or whatever it is you prefer to be called and she doesn’t need to keep calling you Ma or Mama Fisayo. Obviously two cultures are currently at play here the Yoruba culture and the “western culture” but that is something that she will gradually adjust and adapt to with time the longer she stays in the States and learn how to blend both cultures to suit her without losing her “Yorubaness” so to speak.
Mehn Funmie na real bush gal hahahaha see her arguing about the “kishen” and other room lol made my day. So Funmie you agree that roles have evolved and women are also providing and not just the men right ok then let the men also belong in the kitchen too based on your point let us all evolve together. Either that or let them provide 100% if they want women to stay in the kitchen 100% of the time.
I cann’t help it, I LOVE FUNMI. She is the type of friend every girl needs. My prayer for her: Irorun lo ma a ba de la gbara Olorun, ameen!