Divorce.
This is a good topic. There’s a reason why divorce rates in Nigeria are not as high as they are in westernized countries like America. Actually, there are several reasons. Of course, I’ll be more than happy to share them with you!
1. Nigerian women generally do not understand that men can be good, that a bad-acting man should be punished and not let to live under the “men will be men” cloak.
2. Nigerians – both men and women – generally do not understand that there is a difference between being married and being MARRIED. One stands for being legally married, maybe sharing the same last name, living under the same roof, maybe on the same bed, and also hating each other’s guts. The other one stands for all of the above, minus the hating part, plus the love, understanding, mutual trust, loyalty, etc. You get?
3. Nigerians would rather separate for decades and go and marry new people than tell anyone that they are divorced. Divorced? No!! What, because they’re now married to other people and now have kids with said other people? No, that doesn’t mean they’ve divorced their former partners. In fact, what former partners do you speak of?
4. Nigerians have taken the till death do us part of their vows literally. I may be wrong, of course, but I think that part of the vows is referring to natural death – not death by spouse.
There are more reasons, but I feel the spirit of an article coming on. On that note, when a person does decide to divorce, dealing with it can be agonizing, to say the least. In Dealing With It, Mo exposes life after divorce, and she delves into the stigma, the difficulties, and the pain, as she interviews people dealing with the strains of divorce. Segun Arinze shares the experience of his divorce, and starting over again.
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| Segun Arinze discusses his divorce with Mo |
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| Mo and guests discuss the stigma and difficulties of divorce |
Going through the process? Don’t drown in guilt, don’t live in the past. Tune in, and deal with it!
P.S. For those that asked, there is currently no way to subscribe to MNET if you’re living in the States or U.K. However, each episode of the Moments With Mo show will soon be available for purchase.
Watch this episode of Moments With Mo tomorrow, Tuesday, November 16th 2010 on Mnet West Africa at 9:30pm. If you miss it tomorrow, you can watch a repeat episode on Wednesday, November 17th 2010 at 2:00pm, and on Saturday, November 20th 2010 (all on Mnet West Africa). Happy viewing
J
And for all you current and future fans of The Debaters, here’s an update:
This week, the talkmates aruged for and against the motion, “Western incursion has greatly eroded African culture and traditions.” Izin, Olumide and Rachael were placed on probation by the judges for their inability to satisfy/impress them with their points.
Who is this russian? Anyway I agree with the write-up on Divorce, nice one…
Myne: LOL. Nne, I don't know oh (about the Russian). Anyway, I've deleted the comment. Yeah, I'll work on the write-up … once I get the time :sigh:
This woman´s shoe game is sick…..having said that, if nigerian woman were filing for divorce on the same grounds that most western women do…cheating, domestic abuse, trust the divorce rate will be off da hook.
Most (Naija) women in bad marriages either tolerate, forgive or are in denial most of the time.
I agree with your write up 100%
@ joicee, i concur.DENIAL is a major factor
Errrr….it can't be just that. What about the positive things that Naija marriages bring to the table?
Joicee: In fact ehn, you have hit the nail on the head. I couldn't have said it better myself.
Chic Therapy: Thanks for the support! Will work on it asap.
Oops: The positive things exist, of course, but this post is about divorce, and I hope that the positive things are not contributing factors to the divorce.
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