Remember when being gay was the biggest taboo of all times? Me, too. But things have been changing. From little things like a gay club to a gay celebrity to a gay athlete .. and it goes on. But the church – no matter the denomination – has probably been the most difficult place to turn around.
I, for one, will tell you honestly that my strong belief against homosexuality has softened. I still do not believe that it is a virtuous lifestyle, but although I am not gay, by my standards, I am not virtuous either. I have never been attracted to or slept with women, but I have done many other things that are wrong.
My views are all screwed up, and I’ll be the first to admit it. I don’t like the idea of gay marriages, but I won’t swear to keep it from happening. I also completely support gay couples having and/or adopting children. If it came down to it, and I had the breaking vote to decide if gay people should or should not marry, I would vote that they do. This is because I feel like I don’t have a right to decide what level of commitment people want to give to each other. Yes, my views are screwed up. I already said that.
So, when Pope Francis said, “If someone is gay and he searches for the Lord and has good will, who am I to judge?” I was pleasantly surprised. I was born and raised Catholic, so I am aware of how strict the Catholics can be. For example, divorce is still not an option. The way things are going, I think homosexuality might be a non issue soon. It’ll just be one of those things.
Does God like homosexuality? I’m guessing not. But it isn’t my battle to fight. It’s God’s battle. I don’t know if gay people are merely victims of biology or if it is their conscious choice to be gay. I don’t know. And I don’t think there’s anyway for me to even know. But God knows. And I’m pretty sure He can fix it, if He desires.
ife says
This gay ish. tsk tsk. I’ve always said that people should not hate or judge homosexuals, if at all, it’s the act in them that should be hated. I’ve also always tried to see it as just a sin, like fornication and lying and stealing. But frankly speaking, I always pray against it in my family or even generations to come. It really just feels absurd, but hey, what do I know?
Vera Ezimora says
I’m with you, Ife. It feels unnatural. But who even determines natural these days? I’ve taken my hands off the issue. Let God be the judge.