I Am African Podcast Archives - Page 2 of 6

October 5, 2020

What About Sex During Divorce?

Before I filed for divorce - in fact, before I even walked away from my marriage - I had never given a moment's thought to sex (or lack of it) during divorce. I also did not know that the legal laws for sexing while divorcing varied from State to State. In my State, Maryland, for example, it is illegal to have sex with someone who is not your spouse, until your divorce is final. It does not matter if you are legally separated. It was only when I separated from The Boy that I started receiving Read More

July 27, 2020

Can Women Be Divorced And Happy?

Can women actually be divorced and happy? For some reason, being divorced and happy, especially for a woman, seems like it's mutually exclusive. I will not make the claim that all women are divorced and happy, but I can confidently say that any woman who gets divorced for the right reasons can be - and most likely is - divorced and happy. Our culture abhors divorce. Our culture also abhors a free-thinking, independent woman because she is seen as rebellious and unsubmissive. You already know my Read More

July 13, 2020

Emotional Resilience: How To Deal With Not Being Included

"Vera, you're so strong!" I've practically heard this for as long as I can remember. I heard it most when I left my marriage. People congratulated me for being so strong, for having the audacity to walk out of a marriage that was trampling me and robbing me of my peace. I did not understand why I was being congratulated. Should one not always leave a situation that is bad for them? But that's by the way. To be strong, one has to be emotionally resilient. Some people are strong because Read More

July 6, 2020

A Conversation With An Openly-Gay Nigerian Man

I fantasized about my podcast for months. Technically, years. Ever since my live show, The Verastic Show stopped airing, I started thinking of other ways to have those conversations again, but it was the past several months that I really saw my podcast clearly. I knew what I wanted: I wanted to have authentic conversations --- like the one I had with this openly-gay Nigerian man. "I believe in asking the difficult questions, starting the uncomfortable conversations, proposing outside-the-box Read More

June 29, 2020

How Not To Say Yes When You Really Mean No

Even now, I'm wondering if How Not To Say Yes When You Really Mean No is the appropriate title for this. But it's too late to change it. The podcast has been recorded, edited, and published. Perhaps, what I really should have named it is How Not To Spend Your Energy On Things You Really Don't Want. Either way, I suppose there's still an element of saying yes or no to something. Listen and tell me your thoughts! You can also listen at any and all of the following Read More

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