I am very much aware of the things going on in Nigeria. I know that there are over 200 girls missing, and I know that Boko Haram is still going ham on us, and I know that our leaders have not gotten better, and it is exactly for these reasons and more that I don't blog about Nigeria much. Every time I think about the problems we have in Nigeria, a deep anger resonates within me. A few years ago, the plan was to move back to Nigeria. I knew I'd experience culture shock in my own country, Read More
Being Nigerian: The No-Light Edition
This actually happened a while ago, but I forgot to blog about it. So I jejely woke up in the morning to take a shower and go to work, only to realize that we had no light. It had been raining heavily the night before. I knew as soon as I woke up that there was no light because the cable box wasn't showing its orange time-telling digits as usual and the digital clock on Igwe's side of the bed wasn't showing time either. So I thought to myself, I'm a Nigerian girl nah ... I will not be fazed Read More
What I Wore On Easter Sunday
First of all, Happy Easter. Yes, I realize that it's Friday, but see, what had had happened was that I didn't go to bed early on Saturday before Easter. I was up till about 2:00 AM and I typed up a Happy Easter post, and I thought I clicked publish. But apparently I didn't publish it. Why is this important now? Because (1) I just realized that the post never came up and it's still draft and (2) In the post, I mentioned that I don't get new dresses for Easter anymore, but that I would endeavor to Read More
Lupita Nyong’o Is People’s Most Beautiful Person And What It Should Mean For Africans Everywhere
When I looked at my phone yesterday morning and saw that Lupita Nyong'o was named People Magazine's Most Beautiful Person of 2014, I was in awe. I was happy. Too happy. I immediately put it up on Instagram and spent the rest of my day thinking about the irony of Lupita's win. How is it that a Black girl - a black-skinned Black girl - from Kenya, with an accent, and with a last name that has an apostrophe in it - is the most beautiful girl in America? She's the current Hollywood it girl Read More
Dear Vera, I’m Married, But I’m Still In Love With My Ex-Husband
Dear Verastic, I'm new to your page but thought maybe some advice from you could help me. I'm still very much in love with my ex-husband and I know that he wants me back too. However I'm married to someone else, I love and care about him and wish only good things for him but since a few weeks after we married I just didn't love him the same. I came from a big family and always wanted children, we talked about it before marriage and he said yes. Now all I get is no or he evades the question. Read More