{"id":8808,"date":"2014-03-06T02:45:51","date_gmt":"2014-03-06T07:45:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/verastic.com\/?p=8808"},"modified":"2014-03-05T23:23:29","modified_gmt":"2014-03-06T04:23:29","slug":"re-ray-rice-okay-man-hit-woman","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/verastic.com\/site\/social\/re-ray-rice-okay-man-hit-woman.html","title":{"rendered":"RE Ray Rice: When Is It Okay For A Man To Hit A Woman?"},"content":{"rendered":"

I have been following this story for a while and hesitated to blog about it, but now I think I should. Ray Rice, a Baltimore Ravens running back has been in the news recently for knocking his fiancee out cold and then dragging her and dropping her. It almost sounds like I’m talking about dragging and dropping a picture\/document, but no, I’m talking about a person. Before I show you this “incriminating” video, let me first give you a summary of the situation as I have come to understand it.<\/p>\n

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Ray Rice & Fiancee, Janay Palmer<\/p><\/div>\n

Ray Rice and his fiancee, Janay Palmer were at a casino in Atlantic City, New Jersey when some kind of altercation erupted between them and Janay spat on him. In return, he punched her. There are two stories after this. First story is that he punched her so hard that she passed out, and this isn’t hard to believe because look at the guns on Ray Rice. Second story is that she didn’t pass out from the punch, but from being drunk. Whatever the reason for her passing out was, there is a video of him dragging her out of the elevator.<\/p>\n

Since neither Ray nor Janay has bothered to call me and give me \u00a0the full low down, I am forced to make my own conclusions. I conclude that I don’t really know why she passed out. But what has been concluded is that she spat on him, and that he hit her after that. People are torn on how they feel about Ray Rice hitting a woman. Some feel it’s absolutely wrong, and as a man and a professional football player, he should have known better. Others feel that she should not have spat on him in the first place. I am one of the others<\/em>.<\/p>\n

I do not condone violence against women under any circumstance, but I also do not condone violence by women under any circumstance either. As my mommy would say, you cannot take the woman and take the money, too – a statement that should not be taken literally. There is also a proverb that says, “You cannot beat a child and tell him not to cry.”<\/em> A person who starts a fight must stay to fight the fight and cannot complain when his\/her favor is returned. This applies to men, women, children, and animals. If you are big enough to give it, then you should be big enough to take it.<\/p>\n

For those who say that Ray Rice is an athlete and a role model and should therefore have known better, please take several seats. In fact, take the whole couch and even the sofa \\___ Yes, Ray Rice is an athlete, but when someone spits on you (which is an assault by the way), you most likely will have a knee jerk reaction and do whatever your brain first processes to do. Expecting Ray Rice to have first stopped and said to himself, “Don’t do it, Ray. You’re a Raven baller. People are looking up to you … blah, blah, blah”<\/em> is simply unrealistic. When we feel threatened, our bodies naturally decide to fight or flight, and in this case, Ray Rice decided to fight. It would have been great if Ray Rice had controlled himself, but he should not be penalized for not doing so.<\/p>\n

Needless to say, both Ray Rice and Janay were arrested and detained that night, and they both went home together. In other words, this is probably not a new thing to them. For those who want to fix this relationship and come up with all kinds of theory about what happened and why it did, allow me to leave you with yet another proverb: A house can never be repaired when the owner is destroying it<\/em>. I am on a roll today!<\/p>\n

Now, the video – thanks to TMZ<\/p>\n