{"id":7231,"date":"2013-07-10T02:45:45","date_gmt":"2013-07-10T06:45:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/verastic.com\/?p=7231"},"modified":"2013-07-09T22:43:02","modified_gmt":"2013-07-10T02:43:02","slug":"polygamous-marriages-in-america","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/verastic.com\/site\/social\/polygamous-marriages-in-america.html","title":{"rendered":"Polygamous Marriages In America"},"content":{"rendered":"

Igwe discovered a show, Polygamy, USA<\/em><\/strong> on National Geographic, and it had both of us shocked. This show is about a community of Mormons who live in Centennial Park, Utah. They split from the Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (FLDS Church, also known as Mormon Fundamentalists). There is a bigger story to this FLDS stuff, but I don’t feel like researching that much into.<\/p>\n

\"Family<\/a>

Family of The Thomsons: Isaiah and his two wives, Marlene and Becka, and their five children<\/p><\/div>\n

This show is a reality TV and documentary type show. The short part of the story is that this is a polygamist community where the men have at least two wives. The interesting part is how this polygamy works. I’ll give you some examples:<\/p>\n

1.<\/strong> \u00a0The men don’t choose wives; wives choose them. So basically, a single woman decides who she wants to marry.<\/p>\n

2.<\/strong> \u00a0But technically, she doesn’t decide. She waits until God puts an impression on her heart and tells her that Tom, Dick, or Harry is her husband.<\/p>\n

3.<\/strong> \u00a0Tom, Dick, or Harry could be of any marital status: single or married<\/p>\n

4.<\/strong> \u00a0Tom, Dick, or Harry could also be of any age. He could be a grand father for all she knows.<\/p>\n

5.<\/strong> \u00a0Single men are not allowed to date or have sex.<\/p>\n

6.<\/strong> \u00a0The single women pray to God for an impression of their future husband. If they get an impression before they are 18, they have to wait till they are 18 to get married.<\/p>\n

7.<\/strong> \u00a0One of the founding fathers, Arthur, 64 spends time with over 30 young and unmarried men. The boys do a lot of physical labor, and this is all done to make them stronger, tougher, and more ready for the future.<\/p>\n

8.<\/strong> \u00a0Obviously, some people choose not to stay in Centennial Park, and they choose to live their own lives where they date, have relationships, etc.<\/p>\n

9.<\/strong> \u00a0These people practice polygamy in the name of God, and they also pray in the name of God (and Jesus).<\/p>\n

10.<\/strong> \u00a0There is a group of men called “The Brethren,”<\/em> and they are like the Elders and Lawmakers of the community. For example, when a girl gets an impression from God, she goes to “The Brethren”<\/p>\n

I find it very interesting that women do the choosing here. However, the irony is that in spite of her choosing her husband, this marital arrangement and way of life does not at all favor the woman. I mean, she chooses the husband, they get married, she bears as many children as her body can push out, and she remains his only wife until another woman gets an impression from God to marry him. She dresses only in long skirts and long sleeve blouses, which an outsider immediately notices. The man, however, is dressed like a regular man.<\/p>\n

If a woman does not get an impression and she begins to get worried, she can seek help. She’ll just have to go see The Brethren because they have a direct line to God. That’s the belief. This community believes that being in a plural marriage is God’s will and our<\/del> their way to say thank You to God.<\/p>\n

I find it interesting that they believe that one of the beauties of a polygamous marriage is that if one of the wives cannot have a baby, then it wouldn’t be too bad because her sister wife will have a baby and she can take care of him\/her. Excuse me??? I’m thinking that the only thing worse than not having a baby is having a sister wife who has a baby. Screw that. I’ll kill them both … and the husband who even dares to make me a sister wife. Tufia kwa. God forbid bad thing.<\/p>\n

I do find it interesting though that it is illegal to have a polygamous marriage in America, so because of this, only the first wife is legally married to the man. The rest are basically baby mamas in the eyes of the law. Yet, there are fights and protests to make homosexual marriages legal. Is that because there aren’t enough polygamous families to make a big stand like the LGBT community? Or is that because gay love is less of a taboo than polygamous love? Oh, the irony.<\/p>\n

There are many reasons why this kind of polygamous marriage cannot and will not work in Nigeria, but this post has become too long, so watch out for Part II.<\/p>\n

P.S.<\/strong> Please understand that I am, by no means, a supporter of polygamous marriage. To each his own, but I am not interested.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Igwe discovered a show, Polygamy, USA on National Geographic, and it had both of us shocked. This show is about a community of Mormons who live in Centennial Park, Utah. They split from the Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (FLDS Church, also known as Mormon Fundamentalists). 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