{"id":17733,"date":"2023-02-13T13:08:16","date_gmt":"2023-02-13T18:08:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/verastic.com\/?p=17733"},"modified":"2023-02-13T13:08:24","modified_gmt":"2023-02-13T18:08:24","slug":"conversations-with-god-about-my-dating-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/verastic.com\/site\/personal\/conversations-with-god-about-my-dating-life.html","title":{"rendered":"Conversations With God About My Dating Life"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Dating can be one kind. Sometimes, it feels like a cool breeze on a hot summer day, and sometimes, it feels like learning the anatomy of a dinosaur in Mandarin.<br><br>As it came to pass, I was actively trying and failing to learn the anatomy of a dinosaur in Mandarin. The harder I tried, the harder I failed. When complaining and crying myself to sleep made no difference, I resorted to talking to God, and He actually talked back.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-17740\" src=\"https:\/\/verastic.com\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/20221105_235538.jpeg\" alt=\"Dating after divorce\" width=\"900\" height=\"1200\" srcset=\"https:\/\/verastic.com\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/20221105_235538.jpeg 900w, https:\/\/verastic.com\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/20221105_235538-225x300.jpeg 225w, https:\/\/verastic.com\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/20221105_235538-768x1024.jpeg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 900px) 100vw, 900px\" \/><br><br><em>&#8220;Dear God,&#8221;<\/em> I cried, <em>&#8220;I just want love. I want a man of integrity. I want to love a man I can trust enough to marry. I want a man who has reverential fear for you. I want a man whose words convict him. I want a man who will be my best friend in every way, a man I can live with and build with. This is the man I have been praying for and this is the man I am still praying for.&#8221;<\/em><br><br><em>&#8220;My child,&#8221;<\/em> God said, <em>&#8220;You already have a boyfriend.&#8221;<\/em><br><br><em>&#8220;Yes, I do,&#8221;<\/em> I acknowledged.<br><br><em>&#8220;But you&#8217;re still praying for a husband.&#8221;<\/em><br><br><em>&#8220;I am,&#8221;<\/em> I acknowledged again.<br><br><em>&#8220;So, it seems to me that you are not satisfied with the boyfriend that you have now and you do not believe he will make a great husband.&#8221;<\/em><br><br><em>&#8220;You&#8217;re right again,&#8221;<\/em> I wondered where He was going with this.<br><br><em>&#8220;Why don&#8217;t you let him go then and trust Me to give you the man you keep praying for?&#8221;<\/em><br><br><em>&#8220;Well, Lord, I can see how You came to that reasoning and conclusion, and I know that You&#8217;re the all-knowing God and everything, but may I indulge You for a second with my alternative solution. And I know Your ways are not my ways, and my wisdom pales in comparison to Yours, but if You could just hear me out, please?&#8221;<\/em><br><br><em>&#8220;Go on. Speak, My child.&#8221;<\/em><br><br><em>&#8220;Thank you, Sir. So, I was thinking, instead of me letting go of this guy who is clearly not what I prayed for and who is frustrating me more and more every day, why don&#8217;t You first send me the man that I prayed for &#8212; and then, I can let go of this guy.&#8221;<\/em><br><br>He leaned back, frowned, and tried to counter my request, <em>&#8220;But &#8212;&#8220;<\/em><br><br><em>&#8220;Alternatively, Lord, if You don&#8217;t like that idea, why don&#8217;t You just turn this Mr. Wrong into Mr. Right? This will even save You the time &#8212;&#8220;<\/em><br><br><em>&#8220;I own time. I do not need My time to be saved, especially by you.&#8221;<\/em><br><br><em>&#8220;Valid point. But You can see how both of my ideas are great, right?&#8221;<\/em><br><br><em>&#8220;No.&#8221;<\/em><br><br><em>&#8220;So, You&#8217;ll think about it then?&#8221;<\/em><br><br><em>&#8220;Absolutely not. When you are tired of complaining about a boyfriend you can leave and you are ready for a husband, you&#8217;ll do the needful, so I can come in and do what I am famous for.&#8221;<\/em> He left the room before I had the chance to retort.<\/p>\n<p>I did not understand why He was being so difficult. It was not as if I asked Him for something He was incapable of doing. By His own admission, He was able to give me the man I had been praying for, so why did He not give me that one to start with? Why send a counterfeit? Was He trying to test my patience? My wisdom? My resolve? What was the point of making me go through this pointless exercise. I decided that I would continue doing what I was already doing since it was getting His attention. I will continue crying myself to bed, complaining about a situation I can change, and then, praying to Him about it.<\/p>\n<p>In the next room, I could hear Him discussing me with Angel Gabriel, which by the way, was completely tactless and unprofessional. They could have at least kept their voices down.<\/p>\n<p><em>&#8220;Are we going to just let her keep doing this, Lord?&#8221;<\/em> Angel Gabriel asked.<\/p>\n<p><em>&#8220;She&#8217;ll learn eventually.&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>&#8220;But maybe she needs a sign, Lord.&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>&#8220;How many have we given her?&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>&#8220;Perhaps, she needs something stronger?&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>&#8220;She has all the signs she needs; she&#8217;ll turn around when she&#8217;s ready.&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>&#8220;But look at her, Lord. She&#8217;s with him again.&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n<p>I stormed off because I was angry at God. 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