{"id":15414,"date":"2020-10-05T07:45:00","date_gmt":"2020-10-05T11:45:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/verastic.com\/?p=15414"},"modified":"2020-10-05T02:27:49","modified_gmt":"2020-10-05T06:27:49","slug":"what-about-sex-during-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/verastic.com\/site\/i-am-african-podcast\/what-about-sex-during-divorce.html","title":{"rendered":"What About Sex During Divorce?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Before I filed for divorce – in fact, before <a href=\"http:\/\/verastic.com\/personal\/how-my-marriage-ended.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>I even walked away from my marriage<\/strong><\/a> – I had never given a moment’s thought to sex (or lack of it) during divorce. I also did not know that the legal laws for sexing while divorcing varied from State to State. In my State, Maryland, for example, it is illegal to have sex with someone who is not your spouse, until your divorce is final. It does not matter if you are legally separated.<\/p>\n<p>It was only when I separated from The Boy that I started receiving questions about my sex life. People wanted to know <del>what<\/del> <em><strong>who<\/strong><\/em> I was doing and how I was coping [without sex] and when last I had sex, etc. And then it dawned on me that I had never thought about the quality of my sex life while I was divorcing. But then again, the quality of my sex life while I was married was not memorable either.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-15427\" src=\"https:\/\/verastic.com\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/Sex-during-divorce-I-Am-African-Podcast-Verastic-Berry-Dakara.png\" alt=\"sex during divorce\" width=\"900\" height=\"900\" srcset=\"https:\/\/verastic.com\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/Sex-during-divorce-I-Am-African-Podcast-Verastic-Berry-Dakara.png 900w, https:\/\/verastic.com\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/Sex-during-divorce-I-Am-African-Podcast-Verastic-Berry-Dakara-300x300.png 300w, https:\/\/verastic.com\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/Sex-during-divorce-I-Am-African-Podcast-Verastic-Berry-Dakara-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/verastic.com\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/Sex-during-divorce-I-Am-African-Podcast-Verastic-Berry-Dakara-768x768.png 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 900px) 100vw, 900px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>In this week’s episode, I have our very own Berry Dakara! Berry Dakara is currently going through divorce, and recently, she mentioned publicly on her Instagram that she had not had sex in a while. So, I thought to myself, well, why stop there? Let’s go on the podcast and have an even more intimate conversation about sex. So, here we are.<\/p>\n<p>Berry Dakara is a single-mother of one very beautiful daughter, Coco. She has worn a few hats as a Content Creator, starting with her first blog, the Aje-Butter’s Guide to NYSC, and then her personal blog also named <a href=\"http:\/\/berrydakara.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Berry Dakara<\/strong><\/a>. She has a Youtube channel that she hopes to resurrect one day, but her focus right now is on her podcast – <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mommyoyoyo.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Mommy Oyoyo<\/strong><\/a> – which she started in 2019 as a platform to talk about anything and everything motherhood from the modern African woman’s perspective. <\/p>\n<p>Berry is Nigerian (half Ogoni-half Igbo) and has lived in the US for over 20 years. She enjoys spending time with her family, friends, but also treasures time alone to herself. Berry is a chronic oversharer (just check her <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/berrydakara\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Instagram posts<\/strong><\/a>) but does not plan to promote this episode on Facebook so her daddy will not scold her. Yes, of course, she’s a punk. You can connect with Berry Dakara on <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/BerryDakara\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Twitter<\/strong><\/a>, and you can connect with the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mommyoyoyo.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Mommy Oyoyo Podcast<\/strong><\/a> on <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/mommyoyoyo\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Instagram<\/strong><\/a> too.<\/p>\n<p> <\/p>\n<div id=\"buzzsprout-player-5742829\"> <\/div>\n<p><script src=\"https:\/\/www.buzzsprout.com\/894760\/5742829-ep-20-what-about-sex-during-divorce-ft-berry-dakara.js?container_id=buzzsprout-player-5742829&player=small\" type=\"text\/javascript\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>You can also listen at any and all of the following places: <a href=\"https:\/\/iamafrican.buzzsprout.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>online<\/strong><\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/i-am-african-by-verastic\/id1500826309\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Apple Podcasts<\/strong><\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.google.com\/?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5idXp6c3Byb3V0LmNvbS84OTQ3NjAucnNz\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Google Podcast<\/strong><\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/4ES2d1DIqg9V4TItH9IWS4\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Spotify<\/strong><\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/ihr.fm\/2WxpERH\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>iHeart Radio<\/strong><\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.stitcher.com\/podcast\/i-am-african-by-verastic\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Sticher<\/strong><\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/play.google.com\/music\/listen?u=0#\/ps\/Iymbxjiihk4g2gkq2sq75gxbzyq\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Google Play Music,<\/strong><\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/tunein.com\/podcasts\/Arts--Culture-Podcasts\/I-Am-African-by-Verastic-p1299132\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Tunein,<\/strong><\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.spreaker.com\/show\/i-am-african-by-verastic\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Spreaker<\/strong><\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/blubrry.com\/iamafrican\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Blubrry<\/strong><\/a>, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.digitalpodcast.com\/feeds\/96543-i-am-african-by-verastic\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Digital Podcast<\/strong><\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.deezer.com\/us\/show\/923462\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Deezer<\/strong><\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.podchaser.com\/podcasts\/i-am-african-by-verastic-1026608\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Podchaser<\/strong><\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/afrotivity.com\/podcast\/i-am-african\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Afrotivity<\/strong><\/a> and the Sono App (no link). If there\u2019s a podcast player you prefer that isn\u2019t listed here, let me know and I\u2019ll see if I can submit my podcast there. But that\u2019s not all! You can also find updates about the I Am African Podcast right here on Verastic. <a href=\"http:\/\/verastic.com\/iamafricanpodcast\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>See for yourself<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019d love to connect with you on social media: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/iamafricanpodcast\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Instagram<\/strong><\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/iamafricanpod\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Twitter<\/strong><\/a>, and <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/facebook.com\/groups\/iamafricanpodcast\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Facebook<\/a>. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Please, please, please rate and review the I Am African podcast on <a href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/i-am-african-by-verastic\/id1500826309\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Apple Podcasts<\/strong><\/a>. Help a girl out, please. Rate and Review. Rate and Review. Rate and Review. Thank you!!!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Before I filed for divorce – in fact, before I even walked away from my marriage – I had never given a moment’s thought to sex (or lack of it) during divorce. I also did not know that the legal laws for sexing while divorcing varied from State to State. 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