{"id":15154,"date":"2020-05-04T07:12:00","date_gmt":"2020-05-04T11:12:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/verastic.com\/?p=15154"},"modified":"2020-05-04T03:13:24","modified_gmt":"2020-05-04T07:13:24","slug":"but-our-african-men-know-better-i-am-african-podcast-9","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/verastic.com\/site\/i-am-african-podcast\/but-our-african-men-know-better-i-am-african-podcast-9.html","title":{"rendered":"But Our African Men Know Better (I Am African Podcast #9)"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Before we go any further, let&#8217;s just agree that our African men know better. That being said, last month, I wrote a post on this blog, titled, <a href=\"http:\/\/verastic.com\/social\/20-things-african-women-are-not-doing-in-2020.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>&#8220;20 Things Women Are Not Doing in 2020<\/strong><\/a>,&#8221; and while it was so much fun to write, I was once again surprised by how many women related to it. A woman sent me an email to say how she related to so many of these points, but the one that pained her most was number 7, quoted below:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><em><strong>Accepting less because our African men don\u2019t know better:<\/strong> We now know that this is a lie from the pit of hell, and we rebuke it accordingly. We see you, African men. We see you when you buy flowers for your Oyibo&nbsp;girlfriends. We see you when you take them on vacation to exotic islands. And we see you when you give them your credit cards to go shopping. Henceforth, we are no longer accepting your stuffed animals from Walmart. And we are no longer accepting your zero point five ounce fragrance from Burlington. You know better, so you should do better. We are women too. We were not gotten from firewood.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-15157\" src=\"https:\/\/verastic.com\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/I-Am-African-Our-African-Men-Know-Better-Verastic.png\" alt=\"I Am African Podcast - African Men Know Better - Verastic \" width=\"900\" height=\"900\" srcset=\"https:\/\/verastic.com\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/I-Am-African-Our-African-Men-Know-Better-Verastic.png 900w, https:\/\/verastic.com\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/I-Am-African-Our-African-Men-Know-Better-Verastic-300x300.png 300w, https:\/\/verastic.com\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/I-Am-African-Our-African-Men-Know-Better-Verastic-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/verastic.com\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/I-Am-African-Our-African-Men-Know-Better-Verastic-768x768.png 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 900px) 100vw, 900px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>So, this week&#8217;s episode is to remind (or inform) us that our African men know better. But in order for us to get better out of them, we have to first demand better. Also, to give you some context as to why I feel the way I feel, you can <a href=\"http:\/\/verastic.com\/personal\/how-my-marriage-ended.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>read my marriage and divorce story here<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n<h4><strong>But Our African Men Know Better<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div id=\"buzzsprout-player-3610921\">&nbsp;<\/div>\n<p><script src=\"https:\/\/www.buzzsprout.com\/894760\/3610921-ep-9-but-our-african-men-know-better.js?container_id=buzzsprout-player-3610921&amp;player=small\" type=\"text\/javascript\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>You can also listen at any and all of the following places:&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/iamafrican.buzzsprout.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>online<\/strong><\/a>,&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/i-am-african-by-verastic\/id1500826309\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Apple Podcast<\/strong><\/a>,&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.google.com\/?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5idXp6c3Byb3V0LmNvbS84OTQ3NjAucnNz\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Google Podcasts<\/strong><\/a>,&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/4ES2d1DIqg9V4TItH9IWS4\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Spotify<\/strong><\/a>,&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/ihr.fm\/2WxpERH\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>iHeart Radio<\/strong><\/a>,&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.stitcher.com\/podcast\/i-am-african-by-verastic\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Sticher<\/strong><\/a>,&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/play.google.com\/music\/listen?u=0#\/ps\/Iymbxjiihk4g2gkq2sq75gxbzyq\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Google Play Music,<\/strong><\/a>&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/tunein.com\/podcasts\/Arts--Culture-Podcasts\/I-Am-African-by-Verastic-p1299132\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Tunein,<\/strong><\/a>&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.spreaker.com\/show\/i-am-african-by-verastic\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Spreaker<\/strong><\/a>,&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/blubrry.com\/iamafrican\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Blubrry<\/strong><\/a>,&nbsp;<a href=\"http:\/\/www.digitalpodcast.com\/feeds\/96543-i-am-african-by-verastic\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Digital Podcast<\/strong><\/a>,&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.deezer.com\/us\/show\/923462\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Deezer<\/strong><\/a>,&nbsp;&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.podchaser.com\/podcasts\/i-am-african-by-verastic-1026608\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Podchaser<\/strong><\/a>, and the Sono App (no link).&nbsp; If there\u2019s a podcast player you prefer that isn\u2019t listed here, let me know and I\u2019ll see if I can submit my podcast there. But that\u2019s not all! I have also finally finished creating the home for the I Am African Podcast, here on Verastic.&nbsp;<a href=\"http:\/\/verastic.com\/iamafricanpodcast\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>See for yourself<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019d love to connect with you on social media:&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/iamafricanpodcast\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Instagram<\/strong><\/a>,&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/iamafricanpod\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Twitter<\/strong><\/a>, and&nbsp;<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/facebook.com\/groups\/iamafricanpodcast\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Facebook<\/a>.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Please, please, please share and rate the I Am African podcast. Apple Podcast lets you leave reviews. Help a girl out, please. Rate and Share. Rate and Share. Rate and Share. Thank you!!!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Before we go any further, let&#8217;s just agree that our African men know better. 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