{"id":13630,"date":"2017-07-19T03:56:07","date_gmt":"2017-07-19T07:56:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/verastic.com\/?p=13630"},"modified":"2017-07-18T21:17:40","modified_gmt":"2017-07-19T01:17:40","slug":"dear-vera-leave-husband-ex-husband","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/verastic.com\/site\/social\/dear-vera-leave-husband-ex-husband.html","title":{"rendered":"Dear Vera, Should I Leave My Husband For My Ex-Husband?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><em>My husband left me in 1975. Told me he needed space. What did I do I find if with a 14 and he left me for her. I got upset applied for divorce married another person day after my divorce. It has been 41 years to this person but i still want my first husband back. Am I crazy. I dream about him. I love him so much and I dream about him all the time. Should I tell him this?<\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-13632\" src=\"https:\/\/verastic.com\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/DEAR-VERA.jpg\" alt=\"Dear Vera - Should I Leave My Husband - Verastoc\" width=\"750\" height=\"392\" srcset=\"https:\/\/verastic.com\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/DEAR-VERA.jpg 750w, https:\/\/verastic.com\/site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/DEAR-VERA-300x157.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 750px) 100vw, 750px\" \/><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">My dear,<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">I&#8217;m not completely understanding your email. It sounds like you&#8217;re saying that your husband left you for a 14-year old in 1975. Or did you mean to say 24-year old? Possible pedophilia aside, I have to answer this honestly as if you are my best friend. My response, therefore, is yes, I definitely think you are crazy. A man who marries you and then abandons you and his commitment to you is not a man of noble character. In my opinion, he is not a man I would want to be married to or associated with. And if he&#8217;s been gone for 41 years while another man has &#8211; presumably &#8211; loved you and been there for you, then it&#8217;s even crazier to go back to him.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Not that it should matter, but you made no mention of how this ex-husband feels about you. Does he feel the same way about you? Is he apologetic (and repentant) of his previous major ball-dropping? People change, and 41 years is a long time for him to change (and I don&#8217;t anticipate that he&#8217;s the same man &#8211; hopefully), but has he changed? &nbsp;Search within yourself and ask yourself what it is that is pulling you back to him. Could this be a case of unfinished business\/lack of closure? Are you wanting him now because you cannot have him? Are you bored in your marriage and just needing a new, exciting adventure? What is it that really compels this longing you have for him?<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">As your virtual friend, my answer is NO. Stay away from him. But ultimately, the decision is yours to make. Goodluck!<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sweet Potatoes, please sound off in the comments.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>My husband left me in 1975. Told me he needed space. What did I do I find if with a 14 and he left me for her. I got upset applied for divorce married another person day after my divorce. 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