The real question is when and how to post. So thank you to everyone who has contacted me through many, many ways (e-mails, phone calls, bbms, texts, tweets, FB messages, etc) to encourage me to post the story – even the international ones. I throway yansh for all of you. I assure you, I’m working on it. I did not know how much people loved gist till my last post. It almost makes me want to do this again. Okay, maybe not.
The post will go up next week. It’s taking time because (a) It’s not just a regular blog post. It’s actually a write-up; (b) I have to fix my personal e-mail address which is associated with my writing. It’s currently not receiving any mails, so if you’ve e-mailed me via vera [at] verastic dot com, that e-mail did not come through. Something is eating/hiding my mails (c) I gave married man an ultimatum, more like a condition: apologize or the post goes up. Married man did not apologize. And (d) Well, I don’t remember what D was supposed to be, but I’m almost completely sure that it exists.
I spoke to him, the married man. He called. The first thing he asked was, “Vera, what is going on?” Of course, he does not know what is going on. This is all news to him. Naturally. For the fun of it, I recorded the conversation. It’s been my comic relief for the past two days. Unfortunately, there’s no show for America’s Funniest Audios. I’ll have to do with this for now.
It’s quite unfortunate that infidelity within marriage is an age-old issue that has never gone, and will clearly never go away. I don’t know if everyone is as afraid as I am of being cheated on, or if I’m just panicking beyond reason. I don’t comprehend why I should get married and still have to look over my shoulders.
I’ve heard it all: As long as you’re dealing with human beings, never expect perfection. Or the people you love most are the ones who hurt you most. Or just as God forgives, you have to forgive. Yes, yes, and yes. Still, that does not explain why I must look over my shoulders. Beyond the betrayal, the person being cheated on is humiliated and possibly homicidal. Maybe I’m just taking Tylenol for someone else’s headache. I am not married.
I digress. The issue here is, the write-up is coming.
Vera!!!! Bring it on!
Will do! 🙂
Be sure to post the audio too….j/k…lmao
Ah! Ray, you make me worried oh. This your love for gossip is doing me somehow inside my body.
Ghen ghen
Yes ke! Ghen, ghen!!!
Waiting with bated breath…..
Me too 😀
You said the wife also wrote to you? Nne, be careful o..
Myne, adi’m careful. Na jeje I siddon.
Vera, why do you often blame married men..You must realise such cases more of consenting adults and not the married man is totally at fault. Ladies this period have taken over, they no longer wait for Mr Right, they go out and get their own.. Nothing to be ashame of as far as am concern, at least we preached you want something go out and get it.. So sis I think we both share the blame and not solely married men..
Issue on getting married, people in successful marriage will tell you, the day you start to understand that you cannot worry about your husband’s runs is the day you have blissful married life.. Thinking of it is the equvalent of pushing them out.. Best practice is to ignore and not be paranoid..
I am not supporting such affair, am just saying both parties should take the blame, and lastly remember who did Beyonce sang about “rules the world”????
Funsho, I tend to believe otherwise. Why should a woman not worry about her man’s runs if he’s giving her reasons to be worried? How about he not give her reasons to be worried? As per sharing the blame, yes, there are “two consenting adults” but only one of them had pledged fidelity, and that is why I am holding the man more accountable, not merely because he is a man. If the case were reversed and the wife were the one cheating, then the same thing would apply to her.
Forget about Beyonce’s song jare. That’s what she uses to deceive impressionable girls.
Ah, Vera, this one I must read with gusto! I am kinda glad he did not meet condition (c) *grinning mischeviously*
I eagerly await this write up (*rubbing hands together in glee*)
LOL @ being glad that he did not meet the condition. *point finger* Evil you!! iLike it! LOL. As soon as I’m done responding to all my comments, I will work on the write up some more. Keep rubbing your palms 😉
Seriously anticipating! Abeg quick post am.
At your service! I go do my best to post am shap shap! I no wan waste more of your time
Stop teasing us ooooooohhh. Chei! I am seriously salivating. Evidence ke? Abeg post it jo!!!
Okay now!!!!!!! I shall not make you salivate anymore. The post will go up shap, shap. Patience!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am so glad I can read your posts again!
I am so glad I can read your comments again! *dancing* It’s been so long since we lost contact. I lost my blog roll, and then, I moved to WordPress, which meant that everyone who had me on Blogroll couldn’t see me anymore 🙁
Little by little, I’m getting all my fave blogs/bloggers back.
I was going to send you ube but since yu are so slow, I shall simply luo and eat them all myself! LOL
Yeye woman. How do I know you were really going to send it? Maybe you’re just tryna pull my throat. It will not work for you ooo!
This gist everyone is eager to hear … maybe you should make an ebook of it and sell it for loads of cash. The clamour is enough proof that it will make good sales! I hope some people will not “kill” me for this comment. 🙂
On a more serious note … pls think it through before you publish the story. Remember that at the end of the day, it is the wife that will suffer as a result. Our people don’t even see infidelity on the part of the man as sin so it’s not like you’ll be exposing a heinous crime. Also, you don’t want to be the one putting asunder … let the wife find out the true colours of the hubby herself.
And no, the married man did not bribe me … 🙂
Nne, I am seriously thinking about it oh (I mean about telling people to pay). Per the wife, she already knows. She knows that she knows that she knows. She can deny it all she wants. But as far as I’m concerned, Denial is a river. QED!
I have and will not put asunder. Omoba has done it all by himself.
Okay, this is getting ridiculous! How long does it take to write a story? 10 days ago, you gave us pre-synopsis. 5 days ago you gave another synopsis… total of 10 days and still no story. If you dont have any story, please stop beating your drums all over.
On another note, you used to update you blog every 3 days now its like once in 2 weeks. Ogini Meri? Abi no inspiration again??
Marigold: Chei!!!!!!!!! I was hoping no one would notice the decrease in updates oooo! LOL. Anyway, I apologize in the delay of the post. It was on the high sea. I don’t know if you have seen it yet, but it is now live and direct. Because you have complained, I will try to increase my blog posts. And no, I haven’t lost inspiration. It’s time that eludes me. Nwanyi oma, biko gbaghalu’m.
LOL you people actually believed she would post it up?! Na wa o! Of course she won’t post it. I’m certain she’ll have a long gist about why its no longer right to post. I suspected from day one that the “urge” to post was just an act.
Get real. Some people just like to act tough but really aren’t.
Bia LadyDi,
I hope you’ll come back to retract this your statement. You thought I’d just come and make noise on my blog – twice for that matter! – and not post? Haba. Even if I am not tough, I am not that “untough”
Give a chic some credit.
O buzi akpiri tokonto ka i na-eme anyi?
Okay o. moving to the next post.
Wait, I take back my words, I just saw 118 comment son the next post. Babe! sigh long read ahead 🙂