There is a reason why men say women do not know what they want. I like to think that I know what I want. In fact, I’m pretty sure I know what I want.
On Sunday, I was walking from the parking lot and going up the steps, ascending into my church compound. In front of me was a Nigerian couple. I don’t know if they were Igbo or Yoruba. The woman had a Yoruba face. The man, on the other hand, had an Igbo head. The woman was carrying the baby, and she was walking ahead of her husband. The husband was slowly following his wife’s lead as he clutched the bible in his left hand and her brown hand bag in his right hand. I thought it was so sweet that he was holding her hand bag.
So why was I positively smiling as I went up the steps?
The way he held the purse, he just seemed a little too comfortable with it. The way his tummy led the way for his little portable body, it was cute. The way a smile sat on his face in spite of the skin-coloring sun, it was inspiring and amusing all at once. The way his pants sat on his abdomen, it was kind of comforting – yet bewildering. The brown hand bag knew it was safe in those hands. I was not too comfortable with the safe hands belonging to a man. So what is that I was saying again about it being sweet that he was holding his wife’s purse?
Maybe I don’t know what the heck I’m talking about. Maybe I’d rather my husband hold the baby while I clutch my very feminine hang bag, lest I begin to see him as less of a man. Maybe I’d rather he be so loving, caring, and confident that the thought of carrying my bag does not faze him. Maybe if he must carry it, I’d rather that he does not look so happy-go-lucky while doing it.
Or maybe I just need to shut up and leave the couple alone! Yeap, that’s probably it.
Yep.. the right option is shut up and let them be… LOL…
Nothing do u.. I am so first.. I think…
lol,lol,lol….the pic of "d search for a push-up bra" just monkely caught my attn,i'm 2nd mennn. Vera u need to pay Canada a visit, if u see how chinkos carry deir girlfriends bag wit confident and pride and happiness and oh i cld go know, infact dey carry d bag more dan us self. i think its kinda cute in dis case sha, but diff strokes for diff folks…ve a blessed day
Vera what does an Igbo head look like???Educate the Zimbabwean in the house…LOL!!
I know, I know, I know! But let them oh jare! I know some peeps that will let you carry the kid AND the bag and walk on ahead to the car, then proceed to tell you to hurry up! LOL!
now, can you see somebody drinking paracetamol for another persons headache…Vero, go church wey consine you, leave woman bag alone…LOL
lol..werrin cum be yah own ooo madam!!!
Ha-an!!! Chei!!!…lolllol
hahahahahahaahaha…na only ibo head..you go see anambra ear now…lmao!
ibo head? vera. u sef. i think i'd rather he carry the baby too jare. lol. we women nd our wahala
Ah lol…i actually think you should shut up and leave the couple alone! hehehehe..how you doing?
I'd rather he carried the baby but if he really has to carry the purse, i beg him to look very uncomfortable.
Don't let them be jo (me trying to be different lol)
Vera,
mind ur own biz!
If the man wan carry the bag pass his wife, let him!
whatever rubs his belly! lol
My bf carries my bag and looks comfortable doing it. Goofy as hell he is when he does it, but comfy nonetheless.
I suppose as long as he's doesn't look better than I do with the bag, I'm all for it. Less stuff for me to carry 🙂
how do we Yoruba people look like?
As for the bag carrying- i see nothing wrong with it. I wouldnt consider a man less of a man becos he does such. Personally i'll prefer carrying my own bag.
hahaha! Say na "Igbo head"!!! Vera, ur a trip! I think a man who can hold his wife's handbag is comfortable in his skin, I don't see anything wrong with that picture. Now if he was holding the bag with the wife no where in sight, that's when there's a problem!
I see ur point jo! Why was he over enjoying being sooo feminine? Ur right.
Then again maybe u should just leave dem alone. I mean na wetin concern u? Lwkmd1
LOL@igbo head! Vera, do you have an igbo head??? I know there's something like an igbo head though, because I can easily tell one (on males, not females.)
Its sweet for a guy to help his lady with her purse but I guess its the way the lady carries herself that makes all the difference. The Lady can make him look like a sweet houseboy or a wonderful loving companion!
Vera! Yoruba face and Igbo head? Abeg leave the couple in peace oh…
My hubby carries my hand bag sometimes, n doesn't mind at all…I like to see him carry it as well…lol.
I like when my husband carries my purse or takes my shopping bags. Sometimes he looks like a kid who's been put in time out(squirmy!)… but he does it and that's all that matters:)As for women not knowing what they want…hmmm…I know what I want most of the time but sometimes I have to debate over it in my head for the better alternative. It does not necessarily make one indecisive, does it?:)
JS12: LOL! I no ask you to concur oo. Y must you concur? Hehe.
Big Heart: Nne, honestly, it's not as if to say I think it's such a bad thing. But for some reason, I just found it so funny. Which one is my own sef? Both the husband and the hand bag belong to the woman.
Shona: I wish I could describe it, but I can't. Not all Igbo men have the Igbo head, but when you see the Igbo head, you know that the body that lies beneath it is Igbo.
CaramelD: Oh, yes… I have seen that too! The woman carries the baby in the car seat, plus her hang bag and the diaper bag, while the man just steps on forward – swagger and all.
Baroque: Hahahahaha. U should see me laughing here. My dear, I no know which one consine me and the bag oo. In short, you're right. I need 2 chill.
Sassy Trends: LOL. Babe, some people have Igbo heads now! When you see the head like this ehn, you'll know immediately that it's Igbo.
Rayo: You'd rather he carry the baby, huh? I don't what I'd rather he do. I think I don't mind him carrying my hang bag for me (I really do think it's sweet), but I'd like for him to NOT look feminine while doing it. Hahaha. I know, I know. Women and their wahala. And yes, I said Igbo head.
WriteFreak, Did I ask you to agree with me that I should shut up? Na who send you message? *HISS* lol
Tunrayo: LOL! Exactly how I feel. I don't mind him carrying the bag, but I don't want him to look so comfy while doing it. Sheesh. We have too much wahala oo.
Chayoma: LOL @ carrying the bag pass him wife. Nne, na so the thing happen oo. Hehehe. The bag just come fit the man tooo much.
Au Naptural: That's nice, but see, he's being goofy, so that's cool. Imagine a man dressed in a suit and clutching a brown hand bag in all seriousness and comfort.
Rosie: Yes, I now realize that I think too much – most times, about things I have no business thinking about sef. That said, thanks 4 listening 2 the show! I hope it was doing you jiggy jiggy in your body? LOL.
Tigeress: Ah, Yoruba people have their own head too. I usually spot them also, but I'm way better @ spotting the Igbo head. It's not carrying the bag that made him look weird. It's the way he carried it with such seriousness and dedication. LOL.
Kemberly: Hahaha @ holding the bag when the wife is nowhere in sight. See ehn, I totally agree with you (that a man who holds his wife's bag is comfortable in his own skin), but it's not holding the bag that made the whole thing funny. It was the entire picture: the way he held it, the way his pants were sitting on his abdomen, the way he followed his wife's lead with his eyes on the ground most of the time. Funny.
Sheddy: LOL @ over enjoying being so feminine. Hahahahahahaha. Walahi, I have issues. I no know which one consine me with the man and his bag holding skills o
Ms. Dufa: LOL @ the sweet houseboy. That's exactly what it looked like. Hehehehehehe. I don't think I have an Igbo head. Most people never guess I'm Igbo. But as you rightly said, the head is more easily spotted on men than women.
Anoda Phase: You and your hubby are just naughty people. LOL. This your own liking sounds like you're getting turned on seeing him do that. But then again, I see how that can happen. Hehehehe.
Maxine: LOL @ him looking like a kid put in timeout. That's more like the natural look! Haha. Something is wrong with me, I know. As for being indecisive, if you ask the men, they'll swear we are [indecisive].
Lord knows I don't have an igbo head. This girl kpachara anya gi oo! ihukwam eshishi.
Vera–this one whey you wan enter church and your thoughts no holy……..hmmmmmm
whatever works for every couple
but i think its sweet when he carries the baby………
Dude was only showing off how much he loved his woman and honestly i see nothin wrong with that.I would do anythin for my woman and i mean anythin so long as it goes both ways..Leave the guy head abeg!..LOL..
He feels comfortable with it ..so what?..woman and their wahala ..kai!
lol. i think its cute and kind and caring. Upon meeting me, ppl always think i'm igbo. i try to tell them that i'm a Rivers (now Bayelsa babe) they never believe me. they instead start asking me questions about my lineage…where's you grandmother from…bla bla bla…lol
And Vera, we have a SERIOUS fight to fight…
lol…i actually think it was cute cos some men will let u carry the baby and the bag..its prolly just his way of helping.
Lool this analysis sounds like somn I would do but prolly in the opp direction cos I'd be thinking of how that man came to be that sweet!
Personally, I'd rather he carry our child – not cos I wanna carry my own purse – but because seeing him with our child would make me more happy than seeing him with the purse
VERAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA…
dont mind me I just like to shout ur name.lol
Nice Anon: Biko! Ka mmadu nulu gi ife! You're here now boasting of not having an Igbo head. Send me a picture lemme see 4 myself *wink*
Ibiluv: Bia, how did you come up with my thoughts being unholy? So person no fit laugh again because she dey enter church? Warn yourself ooo. If you had seen what I saw, you woulda been laughing your head off too.
Trybes: LOL @ women and their wahala. It's not women and their wahala. It's Vera and her wahala. You'll do anything 4 your babe ehn? Lucky babe she is then.
Diane: What is the fight about now? Wetin I do? Whatever it is, I didn't do it. Trust me. It's because you're light skinned they think you're Igbo. Did you ever walk the streets of Naija and get called names like Chichi and Nkem?
Leggy: Those men that would let their wives carry both the baby the her bag deserve 28 lashes of koboko.
48: The man's gesture was very sweet & kind, no doubt. It was also very funny the way he looked while doing it.
Gee: I know. I'd prefer you screen my name like this when you're praying to God for me.
awww cute! but who knows if the woman forced him to hold and guard the bag with his life?
ive missed ur blog my twitfriend!
awww cute! but who knows if the woman forced him to hold and guard the bag with his life?
ive missed ur blog my twitfriend!
Mbok, 'hallow' the man to luff his wife o! Haba!
lol
this is funny
lol Vera yes! i got called Chichi all the time. lol and, i'm not on your blogroll….(angryface) fix this or i'm coming to wait for you at your p.o box…
Lol Vee..
i see nor be only me like good thing!
how u be?
Vera!!!HOW DOes an ibo head look like???? but he had to carry the bag now his wife has only 2 hands!
Please ask vera oh! Igbo head??? LOL. But there's nothing wrong with that. It means the poor guy needs to learn t make that bag look good in his hands because he'll be carrying it for a while!!! LOL
x!
Funms: LOL @ the woman forcing him to hold the bag. That'd be something. The poor man just looked so helpless sha…
No Long Thing: Hahaha. I don hallow am oh. Let him love his wife all her wants. Wetin consign me with pesis husband & bag? LOL.
Diane: AKA Chichi… hehe. I used to get that a lot too (being called Chichi). Oh, well. My dear, I added you already to my blog roll. Wouldn't want you waiting 4 me @ my P. O. BOX. You know I had your name on it before but I lost my blogroll and I've been tryna get it back since then, slowly but surely putting the list back.
Gee: No be only uou oh my sister. Me sef, I tooooo love good thing. So make sure you scream my name when you're speaking to Baba God.
Tinu: I don't know how to describe the head to you oh. Well, whether she has two hands or not, that one is their own oo. All I know is that he looked funny carrying that bag. LOL.
Bob-IJ: So you don't know the Igbo head? Aah! Babe, we have to teach you oh. There's just this shape of head that you know is definitely Igbo. *sigh* You won't understand. Haha. And yes, obviously, he will be carrying that bag 4 a while.
lol…I dunno about having my man holding my purse neither..at least not proudly!
Blowing Blessings: LOL. I know, right? I want him to grumble [just a little bit] while he's holding it. Hehehehe