Dear Vera, I Imagine My Ex When I’m Having Sex With My Husband

Dear Vera

I received this e-mail on Thursday last week, and I have been sleeping on it since then. Our Verastic reader - let's call her Ann - is having a sexual issue that isn't half as uncommon as she may think. Read it with care, and please, tender your opinion(s) without judgment. I'm going to respond to this letter differently by also including Igwe's thoughts. When you are done reading this post, please respond, and then share it via Twitter, Facebook, and e-mail. Let it spread as wide as possible. Continue Reading

Why I’m Shocked That Kris And Bruce Jenner Have Split

Bruce & Kris Jenner

When I tweeted about being shocked by the split between Kris [Kardashian] Jenner and Bruce Jenner, a lot of people wondered why I was shocked. I'll explain. First of all, I should issue a disclaimer here: I don't watch any Kardashian show. I don't know how many they have, but I watch none of it. That said, I have an idea of what the relationship between Kris and his wife, Bruce is like. Yes, I deliberately said Kris and his wife. The reason I am shocked is that Kris and Bruce seem to me like Continue Reading

Throwback Thursday: These Are A Few Of My Favorite Love-Needs


This week's Throwback Thursday post is from January 2010. I wrote the post because I was going to discuss life lists on The Verastic Show with Just Joxy. However, I included part of my "love list" in the post. I wrote my list after watching an episode of Oprah where she and her guest talked about the importance of writing things down. I have always written things down anyway, but I didn't have a love list - a list of things I wanted in my partner. So I went ahead and created one after Continue Reading

Polygamous Marriages In America

Family of The Thomsons: Isaiah and his two wives, Marlene, Becka, and their five children

Igwe discovered a show, Polygamy, USA on National Geographic, and it had both of us shocked. This show is about a community of Mormons who live in Centennial Park, Utah. They split from the Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (FLDS Church, also known as Mormon Fundamentalists). There is a bigger story to this FLDS stuff, but I don't feel like researching that much into. This show is a reality TV and documentary type show. The short part of the story is that this is Continue Reading

Another Divorce Story

Wedding photo of Porsha and Kordell Stewart

This time, it's the divorce of Kordell Stewart and Porsha Stewart, star of Real Housewives of Atlanta. I know, I know. Since I started watching this show like yesterday, I won't stop yapping about it. Bear with me. So, those that watch the show know that Kordell Stewart is controlling - although he says that he isn't controlling, but is in control (yeah, okay). And we also know that Porsha has been talking about wanting to have a baby and Kordell doesn't seem to think that she can handle Continue Reading

10 Types Of Men Who Won’t Marry You

Group of men

Usually, when a relationship is over, that's when you look back objectively and face reality. But most times, we can know these things before the relationship even starts. I culled this from Huffington Post, and I think it's spot on! It's a list of 10 men who will NOT marry you (and who, in my opinion, you we should not want to marry anyway). It was written by Samantha Daniels, a professional match maker and relationship Continue Reading

Give Me A Spouse Or I Die!

Church program: Give me a spouse or I die

My regret is that I did not blog of this event sooner. I knew of it a while ago, but I completely forgot to share it here so that people who are now on the brink of death caused by spouselessness can go to this event. The funny part is that there are people who actually feel this way. And there are people who attended this event ... AND these people said this prayer to God. I can just see it happening. The pastor will say, "Now, say, FATHER!!! GIVE ME A SPOUSE OR I DIE! DON'T ALLOW MY ENEMIES Continue Reading

Remember That Bastard Married Guy I Blogged About?


If you have no idea what bastard married guy I'm talking about, it's okay. Rest easy, I've got this covered. The post is about Omoba, a married man with a standard bastard behavior who had the balls to say he dreamt of me and wanted to know what I thought about it. Read it HERE. The post was written in 2011. So why am I bringing this up now? Because sometime last week, I received an e-mail from a girl called, Seun. I've never met her before, but somehow, she stumbled on my blog, and her Continue Reading

So What Does The Bible Actually Say About Divorce?


Honestly, I think God wants me to blog about this. The other day, I picked up my Teen Bible - which I love and have missed using since I stopped being a teenager (two years ago, of course), and I opened it to a random page - The book of Mark, Chapter 10. It was talking about divorce. I read Verses 1 to 12, which were the verses that discussed divorce. After reading it, I started studying my bookshelf in admiration. It was the last part of the house that I needed to organize, so since doing that, Continue Reading

VIDEO: Igwe Proposed … And This Is How He Did It

Sitting outside church. It was cold!

So I am soooo excited! Igwe and I were over at Olu and Uzo's house yesterday and he handed us our DVD. Soon as we got home, we popped it in. The entire video itself is about 45 minutes long, but the montage - which is absolutely beautiful - is less than five minutes. If you missed Igwe's proposal, please read it here, complete with the story and pictures. Meanwhile, before we went to dinner, we took a few pictures outside of church. Just to be clear, I still had no idea at this time what Continue Reading