Honestly, I think God wants me to blog about this. The other day, I picked up my Teen Bible – which I love and have missed using since I stopped being a teenager (two years ago, of course), and I opened it to a random page – The book of Mark, Chapter 10. It was talking about divorce. I read Verses 1 to 12, which were the verses that discussed divorce. After reading it, I started studying my bookshelf in admiration. It was the last part of the house that I needed to organize, so since doing that, I have had a strange affection toward it.
Shelf by shelf, I did a mental calculation of the books I have read and the ones I haven’t. Then I got to the book, “60 Things God Said About Sex,” (by Lester Sumrall), and I picked it up and flipped it open. And what would you know, it opened on page 68: “God’s word on divorce.” So I said, okay, God, I’ll read it. I know it’s a funny story, and I know that skeptics, cynics, doubters, disbelievers – whatever they call themselves these days – will say that it is mere coincidence. But I don’t believe in coincidence.
According to the book of Mark, when the Pharisees asked Jesus if it is lawful for a man to divorce his wife, Jesus told them that it was because their hearts were hard that Moses gave them the law to divorce their wives if they found any “uncleanness” in her. In reality – according to my boo, Jesus (in verses six to nine) – “…At the beginning of creation, God made them male and female. For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”
Jesus also went on to say that “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. And if she divorces her husband and married another man, she commits adultery.” When Moses said people could divorce their wives if they find uncleanness in her, he was referring to infidelity, not today’s “irreconcilable differences” approach.
On remarriage after divorce, the book of Deuteronomy Chapter 24, verse 2 to 4 says, “And if after she leaves his house (first husband’s house), she becomes the wife of another man, and her second husband dislikes her and writes her a certificate of of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, or if he dies, then her first husband who divorced her is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled.”
See, I’m just a learner in this issue, and I myself do not completely understand what the bible is talking about. I have some questions:
1. We have all heard that what God has joined together, let no man put asunder. But when I read this passage, I could not help but wonder about the “man” Jesus was referring to. Was he talking about the man who causes wahala in the marriage – like friends, family, neighbors? Or was he referring to the person who officiates the divorce – like the judge, clerk, etc? Or both maybe?
2. The bible talks about infidelity as being a valid reason for divorce – although not necessarily one that God likes – but what about other issues? Like would physical abuse be reason enough to God for divorce?
3. I don’t understand what Jesus is saying about divorced people remarrying and committing adultery. Does that mean that every divorced person who has gone on to get married again to someone else is committing adultery?
4. About remarrying, does that mean that once you have divorced and remarried, you cannot reconcile with your first spouse?
Tell me, what do you think? What are your thoughts on divorce?
Supporting Scripture for this post: Mark 10:1-12; Deut 24: 2-4.