Plus Sized Bride Finds Love, And Lucifer Emerges

I saw this picture so many times on social media yesterday that it was honestly eating me up. This picture of the plus sized bride and her handsome man. People are viewing their love like it’s an oxymoron, like plus sized, love, and handsome man just don’t belong in the same sentence.

Abena is a plus sized bride who is obviously confusing people and shattering all the rules and expectations and limitations they made up for her in their minds. Her fiance, Kojo could not care less.  There are two annoying classes of people who have shared these pre-wedding photos, and the first group has three teams:

Group 1: The Miserables Who Are Looking For Company

1.  Team She’s Too Fat To Find Love (And He Looks Too Good For Her): These people don’t understand how a plus sized bride, especially one of her size could possibly find a man to marry her. And not just any man, but one that actually looks good. How did she do it? Men like him don’t go for women like her.

2.  Team I Didn’t Go To Med School, But I Know She’s Unhealthy: These are the people who ignore everything else and focus on her weight and the decline of her health because they know everything. They know she’s unhealthy. They know she needs to lose weight. They know the weight is bothering her. And they even know that the weight is bothering Kojo, too. From their phone and computer screens, they have performed x-rays and CT scans, and they have checked her blood, too, so they know she’s unhealthy. And out of the kindness of their hearts, they have taken the time to leave comments on social media because she needs to know — just in case she did not have reception when her doctor called to give her the news.

3.  Team Prophets & Prophetesses Who Know The Entire Future: These are the people who do not know the couple individually or collectively, and have no true affiliation to God or to science, but who have consulted with the oracle and know that this marriage will not last – strictly because of her weight – and that he will cheat on her – also strictly because of her weight. They have set a timer on the marriage because they see everything. They cannot find happiness for themselves, but they can see where and when and how she will lose hers.

Group 2: The Ignorants Who Are One Social Media Comment Away From Becoming The Miserables

1.  Team This Is True Love (And She Is So Lucky!): These are the people who view this union as a never before seen occurrence. They do not insult Abena, nor do they predict doom and gloom for their marriage, but they do dish out backhanded compliments without even knowing it. They awe at her and when they share the photos, they add captions like, “This is true love,” … “And if God can do it for her, then He can do it for me,” … and “I am so happy for her,” … and “Wow! He must really love her oh…”

If you left a comment about this couple online, then you must know what group you fall under. Hopefully, you fall under the group I did not write about: the ones who saw these pictures and only saw a beautiful and in-love couple.

For those in the first group: You think that a plus sized bride is too big to find love? You think that a plus sized bride is not beautiful? You do not know beauty. What is beautiful depends solely on the eyes of the one who sees the beauty. You may not find her beautiful, and that is okay, but to think that no one else would find her beautiful is the reason why you’re so bitter. How do I know you’re bitter? Because no happy person would seek ugliness in someone else. Happy people are too happy to be bothered by who is doing what and with whom.

You’re bitter and angry, but please, let’s talk about this plus sized bride…

But you, you’re miserable and unhappy and ugly on the inside, so you seek any opportunity to bring someone else down. No candle has ever shone brighter by blowing out the next candle. And if you have the time to criticize Abena online because of her body, then it must be safe to assume that you have a smaller body which has men knocking your door down with proposals and promises of eternal love and happiness. Tell us, how many proposals do you have? How many men have said that they want to spend the rest of their lives with you? Even if you’re married, how many happy days do you have in that marriage? Will ten fingers be too many to count? It’s always the depressingly and desperately single people who have the most to say about other people’s love.

And for the men who are in this group, please present us with your own beautiful wife or girlfriend, so we can compare and contrast. Does your woman look at you the way Abena looks at Kojo? Does she even want to be pictured with you? When was the last time you were truly, truly happy? Wait, where is your own body sef? Let us see what you look like.

For the men and women in the second group, the people who are talking about how lucky Abena is … what about how lucky Kojo is? Why do you assume that a woman like her being married to a man like him means that she is lucky? Why can’t he be the lucky one? Why is it true love, just because she is a plus sized bride? God does many things for us, but saying that if God did it for her, He can do it for you is an insult to God. He created her, and you have just told God that His creation is better than you. That’s a fail.

One of my favorite proverbs says that the lion does not concern itself with the opinion of the sheep. Abena is the lion. You all are the sheep. You are also all Lucifer and need to return to the pit of hell from whence you came. To Abena and Kojo, I wish you both all the love and happiness in the world.

P.S. I do not actually like the term plus sized. To me, it implies that there is something unusual about a woman’s size. Until they start calling size zero women minus-sized, plus-sized will never be an okay term to me.

P.P.S. As for me and my blog, I will continue to champion the cause of women. Like I did when Chimamanda was pregnant. And like I did most recently when Tiwa Savage’s husband wanted to commit suicide.

P.P.P.S. Images by One Click Photos