That’s an expensive question, and I don’t really know the answer. In my experience, I though I knew more about motherhood before I became a mother. That’s because before I became a mom, I thought I knew so much and understood so much. The reality, however, is that until you actually become a mom, you just cannot know what it feels like or what challenges you may face. Sure, you may say (like me) that you took care of or spent a lot of time with [insert random baby relative here]. In my case, it was my little cousin, Toby. It’s not that I thought that taking care of Toby meant that I knew everything, but it certainly gave me false hope and made me think I knew more than I did.
I already mentioned quite a few times about how my libido died while I was pregnant. That was not something I ever anticipated because I had never heard about that side of the story. Everyone who talked about libido and pregnancy always said that sex was better while pregnant. No one came out and said that it was also possible for sex to die while pregnant. I had to find that out for myself.
But that’s not the end of the story. After the baby arrives, it takes a while to get back to being your old self again. This is not the case for everyone, of course, but if you find yourself not feeling like yourself BB (Before Baby), then know that you are not alone.
Ada Verastic is 8 months old, and if I’m being completely honest, I have yet to feel like myself. When you say things like this, people often think you’re talking about either weight gain or postpartum depression. While these are also realities, they are not what I’m talking about. Eight months is a long time, but it’s not that long when you have just become a mom. In fact, I cannot believe it has been 8 months since I became a mom. Every single thing is still new to me, and sometimes, even my body feels new.
Taking care of Ada Verastic is new to both Igwe and me. I don’t know if it becomes easier with baby number 2, but we won’t know until we get there. Although not as frequently as before, I still have days where I’m emotional and I cry. They’re not sad tears or tears of frustration, they are actually happy tears. I stare at Ada Verastic and her little body and all her little body parts, and I am truly in awe of her. And I wonder if she knows that she is a little person.
Emotionally, sometimes I feel drained. For example, over the past weekend, I had a bad cold. I was home alone with Ada Verastic and I had no help because Igwe is out of the country. I just wanted to stay in bed and sleep. And even when it comes to [sexual] intimacy, I am not yet back to Vera BB [Before Baby]. But I am in a much better place than I was before.
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