Yesterday, Nigerian social media was on fire because TeeBillz, Tiwa Savage’s husband posted some condemning posts on Instagram, alleging a number of things: (1) That Tiwa was a horrible wife, (2) That Tiwa only cared about her singles and her brand (3) That for three years, Tiwa had not asked him if he had eaten, (4) That her mother mounted something – juju – on the roof of their house, and that that was what made her shine, and most damning of them all, (5) That she slept with Tuface, Don Jazzy, and Dr. Sid. And then he tried to commit suicide by jumping off the bridge. He later claimed that his account was hacked, but no one was buying it.
Nigerian Twitter was ablaze. There were so many jokes. Even Igwe got in on the joke when he called me from work to ask me when was the last time I asked him if he had eaten. And not to be outdone, I cooked dinner at night and told him that I was only doing that because I did not want him to commit suicide. I did not partake in the Twitter banter, nor did I blog about it, but I was itching to do so. I chose not to because I don’t usually write about celebrity feuds. I assumed that this was just wahala between husband and wife, and that, they would work it out. But today, the story don climb level.
Tiwa Savage released a video, and if you have not seen it, it’s below. When you’re done watching, let’s discuss at the bottom.
Summary of the video: (1) TeeBillz has been cheating on Tiwa, (2) Tiwa Savage never slept with anyone, (3) She had a miscarriage and TeeBillz never checked up on her because he was busy sleeping with some woman in the hotel (4) Since their son was born, he has not spent one naira on him (5) TeeBillz has no job and no income (6) TeeBillz spends his time keeping up appearances (7) TeeBillz has been borrowing money up-an-dan, spending it on himself, (8) TeeBillz saved the number of his mistress as Edible Catering, and (9) TeeBillz borrowed 45 million naira (that’s about $150,000 at the current exchange rate) and he is yet to pay it back. He did not tell his wife he was borrowing the money, nor does she know what he did with it, and (10) TeeBillz smokes crack/cocaine.
A man cheated on his wife several times, stole his wife’s money, squandered their money, accused his mother in-law of doing diabolical things, fathered a child with another woman, endangered the life of his wife and son, has been verbally abusive to his wife, has accused her of being an adulterer, and has gone on social media to tarnish her name. But please, let’s talk about the last time his wife asked him if he has eaten.
Tiwa Savage’s personal life has been displayed for all to see online without her permission, she has been the breadwinner of her home for years, she has been running from pillar to post to hide her husband’s shame, she has been verbally abused, she has miscarried a child for a man who was busy shining congo with someone else, she has lost money because her husband is a reckless spender, and her name has been dragged through the mud. But please, let’s ask her why she defended herself too quickly? Why did she not wait until it was more convenient for her accuser and abuser? Why did she not do it gently and privately – you know, like the way he did?
Tiwa’s story just goes to show again what a patriarchal society Nigeria is. It’s always a lose-lose situation for women. Damned if you do, and damned if you don’t. Tiwa is blamed for her husband’s decision to be an asshole and blamed for her decision to defend herself and clear her name because she did it at a time that was presumably not convenient for TeeBillz. It’s him, not her, who needs time to heal from the ordeal that he caused. Did TeeBillz ask her if yesterday was a convenient time for him to rubbish the name she has worked so hard to build – the name that puts food on their table?
Quick Lessons For Nigerian Women:
1. A woman should not have to dim her light to make her husband shine. It’s actually possible for them to both shine. It is also possible for a woman to shine without having a husband.
2. Marriage is not by force.
3. Tiwa saw the signs before she married TeeBillz, and by her own admission, people even warned her about him, but she ignored all the signs and warnings.
4. When someone shows you who they are, believe them. Na Maya Angelou talk am. You cannot love or polish a man into being what he’s not. A cheating man will be a cheating man. A stealing man will be a stealing man.
5. Pretending to be happily married when you’re really dying inside is an exercise in futility. It won’t transform the marriage into what you want people to believe it is.
6. No matter how much you love him, you must love yourself first.
7. The wedding is just the party. After the wedding, that’s when the real marriage starts. Tiwa was an absolutely beautiful bride, but how that one take consign price of fish for market?
8. There is no difference between Tiwa Savage and a single mother. Actually, I take it back. Single mothers are better because no one is putting them in debt.
9. Stay away from men that have dubious stories. I.E. Married men, separated men, men in some sort of relationship, men with children from different women, men who have children they don’t take care of, men who are willing to date you while they have someone else, etc. You get the point.
10. Like my OG, Zebudaya said, “A mistake that you are make in marriage are a mistake that you are make forever.”
So for those who are wondering why Tiwa Savage had to respond so soon and/or why she had to respond at all, here are 5 reasons:
(1) The narrative of her life should not be told by someone else, especially by a man who does not care if she lives or dies.
(2) TeeBillz threw the first punch by taking their business online; she was only responding in kind.
(3) She has spent years covering his yansh, paying people off, and carrying a heavy load on her shoulders. She can sleep well now. No one can intimidate her anymore.
(4) Her name/brand is her source of income. If she does not clear her name, her business might die, and who will take care of her when the money goes? TeeBillz?
(5) The average human attention span is 8 seconds. If she does not strike while the iron is hot, she will never be able to reverse his damage. Even now, he has already done some irreparable damage. Some people will always believe him.
Moral of the story: don’t marry an asshole. If you do, don’t feel the need to die there. And if you are the asshole in question, don’t borrow money you cannot pay back and try to escape your debt collectors by committing suicide and dragging your wife down while at it. That’s a punk move.
P.S. I don’t think TeeBillz really wanted to die. If he did, there are many, many ways he could have done so without bringing so much attention on himself and begging for pity while inciting hate against others like TuFace, Don Jazzy, and Dr. Sid.
P.P.S. In his Instagram rant, TeeBillz also compared Tiwa Savage to Omawumi, saying that unlike Tiwa, Omawumi cooks for her husband. Well, maybe that’s because Omawumi’s husband does not sleep around and put his family in jeopardy.
P.P.P.S. I don’t know who the interviewer is, but even by Nigeria’s piss-poor standards of journalism, she did a shitty job. Very unprofessional. Did they force her to do the interview?
Vera ur verdict on this issue is terribly biased, and its obvious cos you are bound to side with the women folk. Although i wouldn’t exonerate TJ of being culpable but it is just absurd to paint Tiwa as the patron saint of innocents. I agree with you that a woman should not dim her light/star cos of her husband, but u will agree with me that she also shouldn’t allow that to rob her of that intimacy a couple shares in every marriage. And when a man losses that intimacy with his wife then he z bound to get jealous, which could be catastrophic. At least from what i read in this your blog, you obviously haven’t lost that intimacy with your hubby Igwe, not minding your busy schedule. He even mentioned Omawumi who also makes out time from her busy schedule to be with her husband, that is obviously what TJ wanted, that intimacy!
Am just saying it is too early to judge, too early to take sides. More will be made open as time rolls on. After all ndi igbo will say ‘ikuku kuo, afu ike okuko’….lol
Ps: The interview interview was conducted by Azuka Ogujiuba of This Day Newspaper.
PPS: Verastic all the way!!!
Eskiss Sir which intimacy are you talking about?
A man that was cheating, doing drugs and doing all sorts of things and you’re talking about intimacy. How? Where? Please explain..
Tj STARTED IT!!! I agree that we shouldn’t paint Tiwa as “patron saint of innocents” which Vera didn’t do in this post but that nigga deserves whatever happens to him from now on. So she was supposed to keep quiet after dragging her in public like that? You people should fear God.
“but u will agree with me that she also shouldn’t allow that to rob her of that intimacy a couple shares in every marriage. And when a man losses that intimacy with his wife then he z bound to get jealous”
Chinonso this doesn’t even make sense.
He’s referring to food intimacy. A hungry man is an angry man….lol
Food intimacy is very key oh, you’ve not heard that a hungry man is a suicidal man?…lmao
So Funmi what do you do when you need intimacy and you are not getting it? Do you go about ranting on Twitter insulting your parents, calling your mother inlaw a witch, putting the marriage of your other close friends at risk by accusing them of having affair with your spouse, stealing from your spouse to live a flashy lifestyle and to spend on extramarital affairs, borrowing large sums of money and getting the family into debt, pretend to commit sucide, binge of drugs and alcohol, call your spouse whom you’ve got a child with a bitch on social media? Is this how to ask for intimacy??? If he is saying this publicly what do you think he has said to her privately, probably worse things. So he wants her to cook, clean and scrub yet he expects her to go out and make money for him to spend? Monkey dey work Baboon dey chop. If Tee Bliz want the traditional African family then he should be a man, go out and make money and let Tiwa stay at home to bear children and pound yam for him. Afterall this traditional method has worked for the likes of Shade Okoya. But he cannot have his cake and eat it.
Well said @ bamboo my thoughts exactly.
Hello if she was not intimate with him how do you explain the second pregnancy Abu she drink am? Let’s be real, she was working her ass out to put food on his table, she PAID money into his account so his creditors won’t know she was the one paying it. This is the reality of many Nigerian women.
To all those saying she staged the interview cos she was wearing a scarf, abeg what we she supposed to do? She was woken up to the news and her phones taken away that only would heighten her anxiety, she said she had been praying for him what were people expecting? A full face of makeup ?
Kai forgive the typos
if she had make up on they will complain even louder! damned if you do damnjed if you don’t
You have a personality issue
Hmmmmm…. I don’t see any bias in this and even if there is… oh yes I’m so #TeamTiwa not because she female but because we all know silence is admittance. Talking about Omawunmi as a perfect wife….. what is wrong with him being with her in d studio, supporting her since that’s basically where the family income is coming from.. and there be no time for either party to cheat. Like she said… He just made it easy for her to walk away..lol
Excellent post. You stated everything well.
Really? Separated men should be stayed away from? U r a disgrace.. U were makin minimal sense till then
I didn’t want to respond but yes shouldn’t we thread carefully and be watchful of separated men? Something must have happened to make them seperated. A Yoruba adage says, the cain that was used to flog the first wife has been kept at the roof of the house for the second wife too. I will even add, be wary of men or women that are quite advanced in age and yet to marry. Something might be making people avoid them.
Mr Tunde Oni,
Some people that are advanced in age are single because they have standards. I am happy you got married early, but you shouldn’t judge because she didn’t marry “early” by your own standards. Have you ever heard of “times and seasons”? We all have different timing in life, clearly, you know nothing about that. I assume by your statement that, because you married your wife before being “advanced in age” your marriage is fail-proof?
Like I said I used the word might. I didn’t say that applies to all scenarios but it is a strong possibility so be sure you are checking well that he or she has no character trait people are avoiding. That is not judging, that is saying be extra watchful. By the way, i am a woman so i didnt marry any wife early. Every marriage has its own challenges, let’s not add to it
The fact that you met your ideal candidate for a spouse early, doesn’t mean women or men that marry “late” have character flaws. Then you added “divorced” individuals should be avoided. You are part of the pressure that makes a woman ignore the warning signs and marry the “first” man that proposes. Now, why won’t the divorce rate increase exponentially? So with your judgemental words, what do you advise?
My dear I disagree with you on early because truly most lady that are over age for marriage might have been selective to the extent they are now subject of being selected due to character they have exhibited when age was still on there side
Mr Tunde Oni,
Why did you have to run your mouth and bring in advanced age women into this? Let me guess, because you married your wife before she was advanced in age means your marriage is fail-proof? Clearly, per your statement, there is nothing wrong with men advanced in age? These are the double standards Vera mentioned. *hiss*
Pls read to see that I mentioned but men and women seeing as I am a woman myself. Making extra findings and doing due diligence hurts no one. So your guesses are wrong on all counts. Marriage is hard enough as it is. Be careful y’all… if he has been married before, or seperated, be sure to ask why the first one ended from different parties not just the person involved cos they won’t paint themselves bad
That is not a fair comment. I will go as far as saying it is not an intelligent one either. If the right person does not cross your path would you expect your child to marry just anyone to avoid being 30 and unmarried (age by the way is a social construct). Some people find their soulmate early in life some do not. That is just a fact of life. However, l know many happy couples that got married in after the age of 35 and are still happily together. While on the other hand l know many couple who got married “early” and are separated and or divorced. Judge not Mr. oni, judge not.
I understand and agree with you totally but I still believe that if you see a 40 yr old man or woman unmarried, be extra sure there is nothing wrong before you go ahead. If you have found out very well and its just that they haven’t met the right person then that’s fine just be sure thatsball there is to it.I don’t particularly think 30 is too old to be unmarried actually.
I think there’s a difference between separated men and divorced men. What do we have against asking a writer for clarification if we do not understand before tearing them with insults. Haba! Diaris God o!
You deserve some champagne for this post oo
If the foundation is destroyed, what can the righteous do? A marriage without the foundation of Christ will never, I mean NEVER go far. Ask your mum and dad. Marriage is not wedding, wedding is not marriage. A lot of people spend so much time, days, weeks, months even years planning their so called dream wedding. All radio, online platform or social media must trend about their wedding. Invitation cards are sent out, people are invited and the atmosphere seemed to be joyful. The wedding ends and the marriage starts and then reality sets in. Wedding is just a ceremony. Whether you spend 50Million or 20,000 Naira for wedding does not determine the longevity of your marriage. Common Sense or perhaps wisdom does determine that. A lot of us are busy medialising our so called ‘perfect’ marriage but deep down they are just not happy. Common Sense will not tell us that there are private things that do not need or require public attention but NO WAY. Some of the menace of social media though.
Moving on, I definitely saw the marriage between Tiwa and TeeBillz as a facade. I remember saying it some years back. First and foremost, there are questions to be asked whether rhetorical or otherwise,
1. What did she expect from a man that left his first legally married wife to legally marry her?
2. Did she really expect a long lasting relationship?
3. TeeBillz alleged that Tiwa cheated on him, please is he not cheating on his former wife too?
4. Isn’t karma nasty?
5. Everyone is calling Tiwa a Whore or an “Olosho”. I’m confused. Please what will TeeBillz be called?
6. Let us assume Tiwa cheated on him, can he genuinely say he never also cheated on her? You know it baffles me when people hurl insults at her but the man goes free. I’m really lost. If you pinch yourself and it hurts you, will you pinch your neighbour? If men can cheat on their wives, they should be mature enough when they claim their wives are cheating on them. We all reap what we sow. It’s simple.
No matter how good you are, you are not good enough if God is not the head of your home. Most celebrities lack common sense and it saddens me that a lot of people want to emulate them. If TeeBillz had common sense, social media rants wouldn’t have been his last resort. Finally, their case simply shows they lack common sense, maturity and basic communication skills required in marriage. All I can say is marriage is beautiful when God is the Chief Pilot of your home. There are no perfect marriages but there are beautiful marriages on Christ’s Solid Rock. Yes there will be ups, downs, sides, center and awkward moments, always take it to the Lord in prayers. Never allow the Devil steal your Joy. God instituted marriage so always fall at His feet in difficult times.
Meanwhile I was waiting for the the part where you will advice young single to trust God and lean not on their understanding.
Well said.
I like the line ” no perfect marriage but beautiful marriages…”
Right words
If the foundation is destroyed, what can the righteous do? A marriage without the foundation of Christ will never, I mean NEVER go far. Ask your mum and dad. Marriage is not wedding, wedding is not marriage. A lot of people spend so much time, days, weeks, months even years planning their so called dream wedding. All radio, online platform or social media must trend about their wedding. Invitation cards are sent out, people are invited and the atmosphere seemed to be joyful. The wedding ends and the marriage starts and then reality sets in. Wedding is just a ceremony. Whether you spend 50Million or 20,000 Naira for wedding does not determine the longevity of your marriage. Common Sense or perhaps wisdom does determine that. A lot of us are busy medialising our so called ‘perfect’ marriage but deep down they are just not happy. Common Sense will not tell us that there are private things that do not need or require public attention but NO WAY. Some of the menace of social media though.
Moving on, I definitely saw the marriage between Tiwa and TeeBillz as a facade. I remember saying it some years back. First and foremost, there are questions to be asked whether rhetorical or otherwise,
1. What did she expect from a man that left his first legally married wife to legally marry her?
2. Did she really expect a long lasting relationship?
3. TeeBillz alleged that Tiwa cheated on him, please is he not cheating on his former wife too?
4. Isn’t karma nasty?
5. Everyone is calling Tiwa a Whore or an “Olosho”. I’m confused. Please what will TeeBillz be called?
6. Let us assume Tiwa cheated on him, can he genuinely say he never also cheated on her? You know it baffles me when people hurl insults at her but the man goes free. I’m really lost. If you pinch yourself and it hurts you, will you pinch your neighbour? If men can cheat on their wives, they should be mature enough when they claim their wives are cheating on them. We all reap what we sow. It’s simple.
No matter how good you are, you are not good enough if God is not the head of your home. Most celebrities lack common sense and it saddens me that a lot of people want to emulate them. If TeeBillz had common sense, social media rants wouldn’t have been his last rest. Finally, their case simply shows they lack common sense, maturity and basic communication skills required in marriage. All I can say is marriage is beautiful when God is the Chief Pilot of your home. There are no perfect marriages but there are beautiful marriages on Christ’s Solid Rock. Yes there will be ups, downs, sides, center and awkward moments, always take it to the Lord in prayers. Never allow the Devil steal your Joy. God instituted marriage so always fall at His feet in difficult times.
Meanwhile, I was waiting for the part you will tell young singles to trust God and lean not on their understanding.
double standards upandan
Such a biased write-up.
I cant get over this interviewer. She is shockingly bad at her job. even for naija mediocrity standard, this is really bad.
You nailed it dear!
Are you on Twitter? I want to follow you, refreshing writing style!
Tiwa is a strong, young, and beautiful woman. She deserves success and happiness, she need not be apologetic for that.
Let her move on, in support and peace.
As a young Zambian female, I can attest to a new place and time for African women, a time and place where they can choose to put themselves, their needs, and their wellbeing first.
So really all I have to say is: GOOOOO TIWA!! STAY WINNING SISTAH! STAY WINNING!
That’s the best peice I have read so far. An encouragement for Tiwa Savage. Her career would go for the leap now that this broke is off her back for good.
FANTASTIC WRITE UP!!!!
Most Nigerian men are selfish, insecure cowards and for the sake of marriage a lot of Nigerian women put themselves and their kids in terrible situations.
Well done Tiwa!!
Nice write up. Both of them should have stayed together or divorced in private. All this show of shame only strengthens the fact that they are both immature. Wash your dirty linen indoors and spare us the filth.
The writer is obviously unprofessional cum biased. How can you conclude that Tiwa is innocent of Teebillz allegations of infidelity & treating him as a houseboy simply because she is the bread winner and then agree with her own allegations that Teebillz sniffs cocaine, womanises, does not take care of his son, puts her in debt, was with a woman when she had miscarriage/hospitalised??? You did not even consider the allegation that she has not cooked for her husband in the past 3 years. You simply concluded that she is busy and puts food on their table. There are millions of women globally who are more busy than Tiwa and puts food on the table yet they try to make out time to cook for their hubby. These are allegations from the couples, each trying to creat a picture of being the victim in this obviously incompatible union. Your write -up did not caution women on consequencies of infidelity/ living up to their roles as wives, you only pointed out that they should be wary of men like Teebillz even though you have no proves of the allegations. there was no advise that a man/woman can have a busy schedule/work and yet make out time to cook/treat their spouse as a queen/king. Even where Teebliz used Omawumi as example, u quickly concluded “that is because Omawumi’s husband does not sleep around”. How did u know Teebliz does?? You also concluded that he was inciting hate against others like TuFace, Don Jazzy, and Dr. Sid. Do u know if there is truth in it??? I personally consider it that both of them might have skeletons in their cupboard but the way they handled it is irresponsible and immature especially Teebillz that first made it public on social media. It is cowardice and a disgrace to manhood that he would attempt suicide because of a woman, he could have simply walked out of the marriage if he felt it was irreparable, why die for a cheating wife as he alleged when you have a better option of marrying another woman or remaining seperated?? Tiwa was so fake in the interview and did not accept any wrong doings in a marriage that has gone terribly bad over years. She often used the word “in my house” rather than “our” which no real man can bear, Was Tiwa sleeping with Teebillz during his former marriage??? It is clear that their marriage was over long ago!!!!!
Aunty/Uncle,
The writer stated her opinion which she is very much entitled too. Just like you are stating yours! Geez…. what is wrong with people? Judging everyone once they have not said your mind! My friend grow up! Its her POV….. deal with it. This is what is wrong with the world….. zero tolerance for other people’s opinion once it differs from yours. Nobody kuku begged you to read so you could have waka passed.
Remove the speck from your judgy ass before trying to remove the plank from that of the rest of the world. Cos all you did was accuse Tiwa in your own post. You are just as biased. Were you their in her home? Did you go through whatever they went through as a couple?
Please take several seats too! Sheesh!
So of all the things Tees whatever his name is did, all you could pick on was the fact Tiwa has allegedly not cooked for him in 3 years. Please don’t be pathetic. In my opinion they both cheated and I have proof that tee nkita can sleep with anything with a vagina. If I may ask, why was he scared of naming and shaming the main Man that is sleeping with his wife? He should have tried it now coward. This is what a lot of Nigerian women go through everyday. They pay for everything in the house while the men spend their money on their mistresses neglecting their children and wife. Yet they come back and expect to see food on the table. Sorry for the typos and lack of punctuation in advance.
You are also biased in your response. If you want your wife to go out and work to feed you then make sure her food is warm when she gets home.
His rant shows how irresponsible he is. He only talked about himself and blamed everyone else for his issues. Tiwa is a strong woman who owned up to her mistakes.
Your wife feeds you with brand endorsements she receives and you drag her and her parents good name through the mud. He is an immature baby who should stop having children because what can he teach them?
You don’t feed me, you don’t respect me, me, me, me..
agbaya.
A real man earns his respect. They don’t cry they don’t have it, the essence of their character commands it.
Thank you Vera for sharing wisdom in the midst of a lot of ignorance.
Well said. Respect is EARNED, nt a birthright of any man/woman. Esp an irresponsible asshole of a husband.
Biko tell uncle/ Anty, Tiwa said she hired a cook because she needed one, and she also said whenever she cooks she also cooks for TJ. So where is the problem? Abi she should leave the rork that puts food on the table to cook?
Why didn’t you address the allegations that he doesn’t take care of his son?
And please Tiwa employed a cook because of the nature of her job. She didn’t just ignore the kitchen. Abi make she kill herself
Abi o
excellent post vera.. but slight correction for what you wrote in the first part of the post. in the interview she didn’t actually say “i’ve never slept with anyone”. she said “i never cheated”
small but significant distinction
Junk writing. First off she meant 4.5 million not 45 million. Use your brain
If he borrowed it, knowing he ain’t got it and expected her to cover, it could well be 45 or 4.5 billion. Don’t get lost in the sauce.
To the poster above this comment: congratulations. You just took stupid to a whole new level.
Please has fuel stopped being scarce/expensive in Naija. That is an immediate issue facing us if i recall well.
Well written and points are exactly as it should be . Some of Our Nigerian men are just threatened by successful women and also treat women as maids instead of wives ( for married ones) . Tiwa’s husband’s ego was bruised that was why he cooked up stories because of the divorce . I noticed that a few people are calling this article ” bias”. Truth is , it is not biased in anyway as anyone who sees it that way is the type who feels threatened by a successful woman . Most Nigerian men can only offer financial stability to their wives and nothing more so the moment they can’t do that or the moment their wives start having good income , they suddenly feel threatened and in most cases term the woman as ” disrespectful ” and so on … Wake up my fellow men, treat your wives the same way you expect to be treated .. #Myopinion
Can everyone pls stop talking about this matter already. This is their problem their marriage and everything else is their business not ours. Tiwa force on yourself your child and your career. Tiwa pls stop trying to explain anything to anybody it’s your life (private life) not theirs. Nobody deserves your explanations @ all. Tiwa also stay far far away from social media.
Royal. Thank you. She owes nobody no frigging explanation biko! When Toke had her own issues she left everyone to think and say what they wanted. Eventually it died down. I’m sure those who were close to her that needed to know heard it from her. She didn’t have to suck up to her fans. Teebillz might not be guilty all the way. We don’t know them. We don’t live in their house. But I wonder why he had to start that whole stupid instagram post. That was very stupid and immature. Such an attention seeker. But why da hell did Tiwa join him in that fight? Sometimes let people need hungry for gist and refuse to feed them. In the end she will still make up her mind and decide what to do. Who that interview don epp nah? I respect her struggle and I feel for her but that interview wasn’t necessary and my perspective isn’t based on the sanctity of marriage alone. It’s simply not the business of the people you spilled your guts to
Toke Makinwa’s husband did not slander his wife on social media. Plixxxxxxxxxx
It’s amazing how a typical Nigerian man’s mind works. See them all over this comment crying Wolf. Some hammering on the fact she doesn’t cook. Didn’t she clearly state that she hired a chef? I blame your mother’s for not raising you well rather they concentrated on teaching the girls how to endure abuse in silence. I can’t even deal. This is what women go through these days. At least 70% of Nigerian women now carry the financial burden of the home and yet endure abuse (physical verbal emotional) from our men to top it all they still sleep with anything on skirt and cry Wolf when the woman dares to defend herself. You can imagine borrowing 45 million when you don’t have a means of income, how the hell was he planning to pay back the money. Buying Mercedes on credit lol, so typical. Yet it’s all Tiwa’s fault abi? Mchew
Tiwa am for you sweetie a man should Love his wife this is what the bible states and no woman should remain in a marriage where the man is beating her or wants to kill her the bible allows us to move to a safe place BUT NOT divroce am .( you should use this time to pray for his yeye ass!)
You shouldnt have done this interview looking so wretched tho . As for you paying the bills – YOU ARE FULFILLING your end of the marriage vows after all you said (if you said it that is ) that all your earthly goods he can use. So before God you pass, he is failing. We pray that he flies right tho.
i take my comments back..she even stole someone else’s husband. shiooor
She didn’t steal TJ… hw does a woman steal a man pls? he’s nt a baby, she didn’t tk him by force. He was devorced b4 she got into d picture. It sickens me wen I hear words like a woman stealing a man. My opinion tho
With married couples you can’t really say who is wrong because you don’t live with them nor go out with them. Marriage is first and foremost a private institution between 2 people and when you include a third party the two individuals are automatically wrong because two wrongs don’t make a right. Also with marriage one doesn’t ask who is wrong but looks for solutions together to overcome mutual challenges. So all these rantings between TB and TS is pointless and only ends with both exposing their dirty undies for the whole world to see.
I’m so pissed off at the interviewer, where she from come! Ahn ahn what arant nonsense,why I’m I angry seef,she cannot go far in this job.
The success or failure of a marriage depends on the two persons involved. If one person is working hard at it and the other is doing nothing the marriage will fail. May they both find the strength to forgive each other and move on, clearly the marriage is done. I do feel sad for both of them but this isn’t meant to be
Tiwa u are an AWESOME WOMAN. u only did what a typical human being would do, responding to Accusations. I Love u for ur Bravery and am PROUD of u my Gal I wished u go married to a MAN and not a child. dat teebroke is an immature Fool dat needs to be thought a lesson he will never forget in a Hurry.
PRECIOUSNESS OF SILENCE
When you do not defend yourself against offenses;
When you do not claim your rights;
When you let God defend you;
The Silence is Meekness.
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When you do not reveal the faults of your brothers to others;
When you readily forgive without inquiring into the past;
When you do not judge,
but pray in your heart;
The Silence is Mercy.
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When you accept suffering not with grumbling but joyfully;
When you do not look for human consolations;
When you do not become too anxious,
but wait in patience for the seed to germinate;
The Silence is Patience.
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When there is no competition;
When you consider the other person to be better than yourself;
When you let your brothers emerge, grow and mature;
When you joyfully abandon all to the Lord;
When your actions may be misinterpreted;
When you leave to others the glory of the enterprise;
The Silence is Humility.
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When you keep quiet because you know that the Lord will act;
When you renounce the voice of the world to remain in the presence of the Lord;
When you do not labor yourself to be understood;
because it is enough for you to know that the Lord understands you;
The Silence is Faith.
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When you embrace the cross without asking Why?
The Silence is Adoration.
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they were both wrong…..
two wrongs don’t make a right…….
Marriage is for better or worse……..
Once upon a time he was good enough to snatch from the mother of his two children………..
I think all married women supporting Tiwa blindly need to ask themselves if my husband became tee billz will I stay……..
If you can’t then your love for your husband is contional on him being responsible…..
You all need to go read the story of how alcohlics anaonymous started
I recommend the movie When Love Is Not Enough: The Lois Wilson Story
Tiwa didn’t experience half of what this woman did but her pain birthed what you all know as alcoholics anonymous today….
My sis nice post.
i totally agree that there exist some male individuals which are not worthy to be called men. its evident the Teebillz is one of such.
secondly i will appreciate if you can advise single women to pls look clearly before they jump. you kno he has 2 kid already and you went ahead to marry him …. pls what do you expect from a sporaddic shooter.
i dont see how you should marry a man out of sympathy; he paid for your first video doesn not mean you should give him your entire life… i believed she married coz she felt she is indebted to him… what i see is a woman who doesnt value herself.
Lastly everyone has monster they deal with.. this is just one of those monsters unleashed. i dont really see a big deal in what is going on. I will advise they take it to GOD(assuming they believe in him), with him all things is possible.
CIAO
To be honest the interviewer is horrible, no skills of engagement , acting like she is just having a tete a tete with a friend.
Hmmmmm speechless
Nigerians are just aproko people. See how everyone is just pouncing on this gist like hungry piranhas and hyenas feasting on a juicy prey. Everyone is suddenly a counsellor or philosopher. Many are displaying their chauvinism and feminism with this. I actually blame this immature celebrity couple who have decided to air filthy laundry in public. This isn’t even news because quite a number of marriages and relationships have this attribute but u hardly see it go public and viral. Everyone’s being so venomous and sensitive with their opinions with sarcastic, insultive and uncivilized remarks and replies. This shouldn’t be the way a discuss should follow. The writer on the other hand should actually have been diplomatic and neutral cos when anchoring a platform like this your point of view should be open as this is also a gender sensitive topic. let your readers take to opinion poles that’s the more professional way. Lastly I don’t have any takes on this as the matter in itself is too messy and quite frankly based on he said, she said. Let’s learn to leave people to sort out their personal issues than fuel the fire with our opinions. No one has the standard or best answers except God rather we can pray for them. Cheers. *drops Mic*
I wonder why anyone with his/her right senses would read this and still have a different opinion about it if he is not a replica of Tj or if she is not a home toy. If you are a woman and you feel she isn’t right with what she did then we need to check u up. Women are the only problems and enemies women have not the men. Culture and tradition have made women believe they have no life but christianity tells me that a man gives his life for her……..complete it my christian men in the house. Hhhhm, food for thought. How comes some men chose to trade their birth right for a plate of porridge and still wants to keep that “right”. My bible tells me that the lazy boy that did it lost his birth right. My men folk you want to remain the man then be the man. Resposibilities go with rights, you dont give out the first and want to retain the second. “She has never asked me if i have eaten” what a boy. if u choose to switch roles then swith it COMPLETELY! and stop COMPLAINING!
I dont believe Tiwa’s story at all. how on earth will you say that ur husband has not spent even a kobo on ur child since he was born? this cant be true. do u mean to tell me that he has never bought even diapers, toy or even baby milk for one day? how possible is that.
Again, dont forget he made you and even had to stop working just for you to reach the fame u have reached now, so even if he doesnt have any kobo to get things for ur baby, the money u use to get those things belongs to the two of u.
however, if TJ is spending recklessly, i strongly condem him but pls dont paint him as a devil and u as a saint. u also have your weakness and flaws which you dint mention in the interview.
Please did someone say that reporter works for ThisDay?(If you want to be a journalist make sure to make yourself a damn good one).I shouldn’t have been watching BMJ when I saw this interview. If not that the interviewee had a lot on her mind to say, I’m very sure she would have snapped a time or two….
Kelly Rowland’s dirty laundry kept playing in my head
I like the fact that she spoke up. However, I think she’ll definitely regret being as open as she was. Her mission was to KO the guy and she might have succeeded. She would have talked about the debt and a drug habit but the world didn’t need to know the specifics. Let’s assume he does indeed have a depressio problem or even a drug problem, I think rehab might be harder now that the whole world knows. Ok, forget rehab, would her children and her child forgive her for that much detail about their dad that thousands of people now know?
My 2 cents on this issue
1. Do not judge too quickly
2. Keep away from feminism
3. Men are mandated to live their wives and provide for their family ( Bible Standard)
4. Do not contribute or advise anybody to divorce , what God has joined together.
5. Remember it’s a marriage it’s a sacred institution, if you are not anointed or called to handle situations like this you must keep away from saying the wrong stuff.
6. I would implore every single person including myself that wants to contribute to this matter on whatever social media to mirror themselves first before they talk and blame anybody.
My reason: I know there are some guys that made comments on Facebook and other media that are not as even as good as the guy and they know it and ladies as well that beat and abuse their husbands all because there is a movement going on that women are equal as men, in marriage they are not when you read Col1:18 it is stated explicitly as Jesus is the Head, so husband is the head, the bible never said Jesus is equal as the church.
When we die we will see God, do not go to hell because you have a wrong advise on an issue., it’s not worth it.
Love to all
NB… Everything I said I am included, I am not above anybody except my wife.
Well all said and done , i guess the biggest lesson is … we should keep our marriages and homes off the social media……… Femi Babatunde
VERA,,
Stumbled on this article by accident. EXCELLENT ON POINT in MANY Aspects!!
I am so tired of this crap of giving him time to heal!… What happened to Tiwa who feeds herself AND family (Including him ) with the proceeds of her brand??
Can he feed himself or anyone else?
If he was so pissed or soooooo Angry, does he not have a pastor?. friend ? he can talk to ?… as opposed to the WHOLE GLOBAL INTERNET World…. for his imagined issues?
Nigeria is a TERRIBLY patrichial society… and women continued to be abused and disenfranchised at every opportunity……….
like she you said she is even worse off than a single mother…….. at least does ones have no-one bleeding them dry in EVERY way!!
how do I stop these message from koming to me via email??
This is my take both of them are seriously messed up… just my random thought and observations, TJ gave said all that ou o sucidal was tiwa sucidal too when she gave that interview. That interview was less than 48hrs all the for her brand, why and why will u carry your family matter to social media platforms biko everybody will have their opinion, yes TJ started it but two wrong can’t make it write, many many women are the breadwinner of there home for well over two years, she only did it for two yrs, that interview was very wrong, many Nigerian marriage going through the hardest during first 5 yrs of marriage… TJ messed up big time too, he even messed up more, but tiwa respond was not that of a wife, a mum and a woman … she gave so much information we don’t even need to know abt her miscarriage etc really… Let’s just pray for both of them not going to judge they are both human
Vera I agree with you totally…. good lessons there for singles…and yes that interviewer sha! Chai real shitty job she did.
This article was written in such bad taste: the language was vulgar and basically an assault to one’s senses.
Phrases like “covering his yansh” and ” how does that consign the price of fish in the market” are unrefined.
The writer needs to learn some etiquette.
No matter what happens, I will always love my super star Tiwa Savage. may you find peace and happiness after this cheap budget action film directed by uncle wayward a.k.a Tunji currently referred to as broke ass nigga!
Tiwatope, don’t mind people jare
settle with your husband
one love …
This is the most biased write-up written in the day time, i have ever set my eyes on.
Is this what this blog is all about? Let me remind the write as i am a professional media practitioner with Degrees and several professional trainings.
Ethics of the media:
1, The media should not be biased.
2, The media should not conclude of judge. Say both sides and leave judgement for the audiende
3, The media should be objective
4, Media should expunge traits of personal interests
5, The media aims should be to bring peace at the end, and not to cuase more conflits.
6, The media should be truthful.
7, The media should not assume.
Okeke Vincent Chidozie (apra)
I’m not even going to say ANYTHING. A Conman dies another conman buries him and jollof with minerals shall be free for strangers who watch while the cunning women weep and mourn the conman. We don’t care if you married a taxi driver or a hairdresser but not everyone wants to hear you say you were warned by several people not to steal another wom(e)n’s man into marriage with you but you shunned them with your “optimism”.
I’m not even going to say ANYTHING. A Conman dies another conman buries him and jollof with minerals shall be free for the strangers who watch while cunning women weep and mourn the conman. We don’t care if you married a taxi driver or a hairdresser but not everyone wants to hear you say you were warned by several people not to steal another wom(e)n’s man into marriage with you but you shunned them with your “optimism”.
That talk about Tiwa not cooking for him is giving a dog a bad name inorder to hang it. Let him provide the food first, then we can now berate Tiwa for not cooking it. There is always an excuse for infidelity amongst most of our Nigerian men. There are women who kneel to present food they have personally prepared to their husbands, yet they are abused and battered at the slightest excuse. A typical African thinks marriage is all about the man and whatever makes him happy. The feelings of the woman is so irrelevant. The only *fault * of a woman is not only about not cooking. There is no perfect wife. Omawumi definitely will have her own weak points. It’s how the husband handles it that makes the difference. Marriage is give and take. If Tiwa has been absorbing the fact that the husband does not provide for them, is it too much for the husband to tolerate her own inadequacies?
Anuty Tiwa this is Junior Kennedy who is speaking to you and I live in France, Anuty Tiwa whoever people are saying about you I believe that all those are lies, none of those things are true and I believe it that it’s not true so Anuty Tiwa don’t bonder yourself, remain unshakable and unmovable because I don’t believe any of those things and I know you can’t do such a thing, please Anuty Tiwa I want you to receive my friend request on Facebook that I sent to you?