Remember when I was wondering if I should parry or not? Or more like I had decided not to parry and I was looking for validation from you? Well, one of the things I was thinking about was my guest list. I had already made a list of people I was going to invite, and the list was longer than I wanted it to be, but I wasn’t going to cut anyone off. However, for some of the people on my list, I was not planning on inviting their significant other – not because I did not know them, but because I do not like them. Is this bad?
What I was thinking was:
1. The space for this get together is small (my apartment) and I already have too many people coming
2. I don’t like these people.
Number 2 was my primary reason, I won’t lie. For me, I felt like it would be crazy to invite someone to your house that you don’t even like. This is my philosophy a lot of times. It’s so hard for me to pretend to care or pretend to like someone —- unless there’s something in it for me. Example: pretending to like my teacher, or employer, etc.
So I was not going to invite these people to my house AND I was going to include in the invitation that I didn’t want people bringing their guests, unless their guests were also invited. Regardless or who I liked or didn’t like, I really did not want extra people in the house because like I said, it’s a cozy little apartment. We wouldn’t even have had enough chairs for those that we did invite.
Funmie thought it wasn’t very nice to not invite my guest’s plus one, but I felt differently because (1) This isn’t a big event like a wedding; it’s my birthday, and (2) It’s in my house. If my friend, John, is dating Sally, and I don’t like her, I don’t see why I should invite her to my house (and vice versa). I really, really do suck at pretending to care. It’ll be written all over my face, and wouldn’t that be mean?
If you were in my shoes, what would you do?
P.S. The party is canceled anyway. I decided to spend my money on myself. New clothes, shoes, bags … fun stuff.