Shaved Legs Save Lives!


Well, not literally. I have mentioned on this blog before how when I started shaving my legs, my mom (who is practically hairless) and my aunt (who is nothing close to being hairless) both told me that I was ruining my natural beauty by shaving my legs. I thanked them for their unsolicited opinion, and I kept on shaving those legs. Back then, however, I did it mostly when I was going to be wearing a skirt and pretty constantly during the summer because I wanted people [READ: BOYS] to see and Continue Reading

I Need A Social Media Intern


The smart people have figured out that in order for a problem to be fixed, it has to first be identified. I realized a long time ago that I cannot keep up with social media. I've tried, and I just cannot. If I was not a blogger, I wouldn't even be active at all. I'd probably still have the accounts, just so I can go on and entertain myself, but I'd be rarely active. Because I'm a blogger, however, I'm trying (and failing most times) to be active. I see people - bloggers and non bloggers alike - Continue Reading

Ladies, Would You Use The Garnier Miracle Sleeping Cream?

Garnier Ultra-Lift Miracle Sleeping Cream

Or maybe I should start by first generally asking if you use sleeping creams. It feels like not too long ago, I was 19 and did not give two cents about skin care. Sure, I was learning to make myself up, but I had absolutely no beauty regime. Most times, I didn't even wash the makeup off my face at night, and nothing happened. Where did that time go? I wouldn't dare pull that stunt now. These days, my time of the month inspires a pimple or two to make an appearance - something that never, ever Continue Reading

How Nigerians & Africans Should Deal With The Baltimore Riots For Freddie Gray

Baltimore Riots Freddie Gray

I have watched many protests and marches on television, but they're always somewhere else: Florida. Ferguson. New York. But never Baltimore. Not my Baltimore. My Baltimore has a lot of problems, but this isn't one of them. Turns out I was wrong. Thank you to everyone who has checked up on me. I'm doing great, thank you. Yes, I live in Baltimore, but I don't live or work anywhere close to the scenes of the riots. If you had asked me about a decade ago what I thought about the Baltimore riots, Continue Reading

Courtship Is Actually For Courting

Dating, Relationships

Whatever name you decide to call it - courtship, dating, relationship, chilling, hanging out, whatever - it is a period when you're supposed to spend time with your "romantically-affiliated partner" and get to know what makes him/her tick. Or not tick. You're supposed to get to know each other, fight and make up, discuss your dreams, discover things you love and hate about them, compare them to what you want and ultimately need in a partner, and ask yourself truly if they could possibly be the Continue Reading

Buhari Does Not Promise To Bring Back Our Girls — And I Respect Him For That


I know what you’re thinking: two back to back posts about Nigeria? Well, even if you’re not thinking it, I definitely am. I don’t usually like blogging about anything back to back, but I read Buhari’s op-ed on New York Times yesterday, and I just had to mention it here. I am not into politics at all, and I am even less into Nigerian politics. When GEJ was President (yes, I am deliberately referring to his administration as past tense), I used to get boiling mad whenever I read something from Continue Reading

We Are Not One Nigeria


In America, we are dealing with racial tensions. It's never over really, but sometimes, it dies down a little bit, and temporarily, people sleep with both eyes closed. And then cases like Walter Scott unfortunately happen, and we have to wonder yet again why another Black man has been murdered, and will we be next? In Nigeria, we deal with tribal tensions and discord. I might be wrong, but I tend to think that our tribal discord is worse than the racial discord in America because in America, Continue Reading

Giveaway: $50 Gift Card To AMI Club Wear!

AMI Club Wear Giveaway

I promised that there would be more giveaways, and voila! There's one today. It's a $50 gift card to AMI Club Wear, and show of hands if you don't like shopping. Now, show of hands if you don't like shopping for free. Yeah, I thought as much. AMI Club Wear is an online retail store that sells fashionable shoes, clothes, and accessories at very affordable prices - not that you'd have to pay with your own money, if you win this giveaway anyway. Goodluck! Entering is very, very simple. Continue Reading

Book Review: Soul Sessions by Carson Gage

Soul Sessions by Carson Gage

I sincerely miss the days of reading books like reading was going out of style. When I was younger, had no bills, and nothing but time, all I did was read. I'd go to the library and come home with 20 books, and during the summer, I'd take my favorite position under the dining or coffee table, and I would devour them. These days, I'm lucky to read a tweet. That said, I'm so happy that I got to read this book. It's called Soul Sessions by Carson Gage, and I bought it off Amazon so that was Continue Reading

Dear Vera, I’m Unhappily Married


Dear Vera, I have been divorced for 7 years and remarried for 6 years. I have 2 teenage children with my ex and 1 grown child from a prior relationship. We married when I was 24 and my child was 4. After 15 years of marriage I divorced him solely for his inability to control his alcohol. There was never any violence, just emotionally unavailable. I felt I was putting our children first when I left. Our relationship for 3 years after divorce was cold and very bitter! I noticed he slowly began Continue Reading