Courtship Is Actually For Courting

Dating, Relationships

Whatever name you decide to call it - courtship, dating, relationship, chilling, hanging out, whatever - it is a period when you're supposed to spend time with your "romantically-affiliated partner" and get to know what makes him/her tick. Or not tick. You're supposed to get to know each other, fight and make up, discuss your dreams, discover things you love and hate about them, compare them to what you want and ultimately need in a partner, and ask yourself truly if they could possibly be the Continue Reading

Buhari Does Not Promise To Bring Back Our Girls — And I Respect Him For That


I know what you’re thinking: two back to back posts about Nigeria? Well, even if you’re not thinking it, I definitely am. I don’t usually like blogging about anything back to back, but I read Buhari’s op-ed on New York Times yesterday, and I just had to mention it here. I am not into politics at all, and I am even less into Nigerian politics. When GEJ was President (yes, I am deliberately referring to his administration as past tense), I used to get boiling mad whenever I read something from Continue Reading

We Are Not One Nigeria


In America, we are dealing with racial tensions. It's never over really, but sometimes, it dies down a little bit, and temporarily, people sleep with both eyes closed. And then cases like Walter Scott unfortunately happen, and we have to wonder yet again why another Black man has been murdered, and will we be next? In Nigeria, we deal with tribal tensions and discord. I might be wrong, but I tend to think that our tribal discord is worse than the racial discord in America because in America, Continue Reading

Giveaway: $50 Gift Card To AMI Club Wear!

AMI Club Wear Giveaway

I promised that there would be more giveaways, and voila! There's one today. It's a $50 gift card to AMI Club Wear, and show of hands if you don't like shopping. Now, show of hands if you don't like shopping for free. Yeah, I thought as much. AMI Club Wear is an online retail store that sells fashionable shoes, clothes, and accessories at very affordable prices - not that you'd have to pay with your own money, if you win this giveaway anyway. Goodluck! Entering is very, very simple. Continue Reading

Book Review: Soul Sessions by Carson Gage

Soul Sessions by Carson Gage

I sincerely miss the days of reading books like reading was going out of style. When I was younger, had no bills, and nothing but time, all I did was read. I'd go to the library and come home with 20 books, and during the summer, I'd take my favorite position under the dining or coffee table, and I would devour them. These days, I'm lucky to read a tweet. That said, I'm so happy that I got to read this book. It's called Soul Sessions by Carson Gage, and I bought it off Amazon so that was Continue Reading

Dear Vera, I’m Unhappily Married


Dear Vera, I have been divorced for 7 years and remarried for 6 years. I have 2 teenage children with my ex and 1 grown child from a prior relationship. We married when I was 24 and my child was 4. After 15 years of marriage I divorced him solely for his inability to control his alcohol. There was never any violence, just emotionally unavailable. I felt I was putting our children first when I left. Our relationship for 3 years after divorce was cold and very bitter! I noticed he slowly began Continue Reading

Curves Need Love, A Plus Size Tankini Shows Your Assets

Plus Size Swimmingsuit

Shopping for plus-size swimwear at your local department stores can be extremely frustrating. There’s a limited amount of styles for anyone who isn't exactly a size four and the salespeople are often clueless about how to dress a plus size figure. Add that to the fact that swimwear is only available in the peak summer months, and you might as well stay home. If you've ever found yourself sad and discouraged while wrestling with an ugly outdated swimsuit in a department store changeroom, there Continue Reading

Do You Kiss With Your Morning Breath?

Morning Breath

Something I have noticed on television is how couples wake up in the morning and start kissing. I'm not talking about just a little peck on the lips, but like full blown kissing, tongue and all. I know that on television, they don't actually have bad breath cause they're just acting. But it makes me wonder, are there people who wake up and swap spit with their spouse? Yuck. I wish you could see my face as I type this post. As you may have guessed already, I do not kiss in the morning! I Continue Reading

Suffering From Writer’s Block

Writer's Block

I feel bad that I didn't put up a post yesterday, and I feel worse because yesterday was Monday. I am so unmotivated right now. All I want to do is stay in bed and stare at the ceiling. I don't want to write. I don't want to read. My to-do list has been getting longer because I have not been scratching anything off.   This past Saturday, I woke up at about 11:00 AM, ate a mango, spoke to Solachi on the phone for a while, and then slept till almost 5:00 PM. I didn't eat dinner till Continue Reading

Ladies & Gentlemen, Igwe And I Are Now God Parents!

Baby Amaka Ezimora

I am so freaking excited right now. Well, I've been excited for the past week since Solachi had a baby and we became god parents. I couldn't mention the pregnancy on the blog because Solachi warned me to never, ever mention on the blog or on social media that she's pregnant. Our baby finally came on Wednesday, March 11th 2015, weighing a little over six pounds, and two days ago (March 18th), we celebrated my baby's naming. I won't even bother telling you her official names because what matters Continue Reading