Why Men Can Never Find Things. Does Anyone Know?


I remember my mom always complaining about my dad not finding things. She would accompany her complaints with a solid tufia kwa, which would be followed by a dramatic rise and drop of her shoulders. I didn't get it then, but now, I do. Igwe and I have been living together since 2011, and I'm finally starting to share my mom's sentiments. Igwe would go into a closet to pick up the biggest, brightest, most strategically placed item, and he would come back and say he did not find it. And I would Continue Reading

My Neighbor, Tatiana Won’t Leave My Window!

Tatiana's Car

Remember my neighbor, Tatiana? I blogged about her here. I thought she was mad before, but now I'm convinced that she is really, really mad. First of all, our apartment has a front and a back section. We live in the front section, overlooking the parking lot, while Tatiana lives in the back section, overlooking nature. Everyone parks in front, as does Tatiana. Her car barely ever leaves its spot. At first, I thought I just happened to notice the car only after it had been driven (and Continue Reading

“You Look Like American…” What Does That Mean These Days?

Sitting outside church. It was cold!

I was at Walmart the other day staring too long at the travel mugs, trying to decide which one to get for Igwe. There was a Walmart employee next to me, arranging water bottles and mason jars .  I had not paid too much attention to her until she started singing a familiar gospel tune. That was when I looked at her. It was one of those old praise and worship songs that we grew up listening to in Nigeria. She looked to be in her late thirties, but she was probably older. She had a youthful glow Continue Reading

She Asked Me If Nigeria Was On Another Planet

Questions About Nigeria

At the closeout party at the BlogHer Conference, Rev Run was on the 1s and 2s, and it was just wonderful. Did I ever think the day would come when "Tricky" would be booming through the speakers and Rev Run would be rapping along, right in front of me? No, but it happened anyway, and I enjoyed every bit of it. After he left, we still had about 45 minutes to network and chat among each other. I was sitting and chatting with a blogger with whom I had made an acquaintance the day before. And Continue Reading

10 Lessons I Learned From Arianna Huffington At The BlogHer Conference

Arianna Huffington signing my book at BlogHer

Before I knew anything about who would be at BlogHer, I had already made the decision to attend it. But when I found out that Arianna Huffington would be there, I couldn't wait to attend. On stage, she was interviewed by Guy Kawasaki who is very popular. I didn't know him then, but I certainly know him now. Arianna was unexpectedly funny. I don't know what I expected, but I know I did not expect that. Like Guy had already warned us, when you ask Arianna a question, she tells you what she Continue Reading

About Last Weekend: My Complete BlogHer Conference Recap


The title of this post is slightly misleading because this post is in fact not my complete BlogHer Conference recap. My recap is entirely too long to put in one post, and because I imagine that you are like me, I do not burden you with extremely long posts because when I open a post with 100 paragraphs, I freak out and close the page. This one, therefore, will only have 99 paragraphs. As I mentioned in my previous post, this BlogHer conference was my first blogging conference of any kind, and Continue Reading

Vera Goes To San Jose, California (For The BlogHer Conference)

Verastic Media Kit

Today is D-Day! As you're reading this, I might already be in San Jose. I typed the post last night and scheduled it to come up today. It has been so hectic. I took off from my 9-5 job today so I could spend a couple hours getting ready for traveling. I ended up spending the entire day getting ready. Before I tell you about my day, I wanna show you my media kit. Woooot! I made it myself. It's two pages, and yes, I am giving it out in the slashed pocket folder. All na packaging abi? And can you Continue Reading

Rest In Peace To My Samsung Galaxy S3

We started with the left, and now we're on the right.

It was on Thursday, July 17th that my phone went into vegetative state. I woke up in the morning, stretched, did my morning prayers, and started scrolling through Instagram. I used to have a habit of waking up and reaching for my phone immediately to read emails, texts, tweets, and of course Instagram. But I have consciously stopped reaching for my phone first thing in the morning. Anyway .... I was scrolling through Instagram when my phone suddenly went off, came back on, went off, and came Continue Reading

Do The Wars Scare You?

Violence in the Gaza Strip. Image source: NY Daily News

I'm not one to say that the world has changed, or that crazy things are now happening, or that all the problems of the world are a sign of the end times. I don't believe that the problems now are suddenly a sign of the end time. I believe that they have always been signs. Basically, there's nothing new under the sun. The things that are happening now have always happened. They're just now more pronounced and they happen differently. For example, nations have always fought each other. At one Continue Reading

Shoe Crush: Aminah Abdul Jillil Bow Pump

Aminah Abdul Jillil Bow Pump - Black & Blue

My Sweet Potatoes, these shoes have been chasing me in my dreams. I dream of owning them. I dream of wearing them. I have a pair of black panty hose that in my head will go perfectly with a short skater dress or skirt ... and of course these pumps. I want them in black and in blue. Oh, my good Lord, I want them BADLY. But they cost $215. Each. If you are reading this post right now, please know that this is a sign from the good God Almighty that you should buy me one (or both) of these shoes. Continue Reading