Let Me Tell You About The Nigerian Girl I Met On The Empty Chair

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Four days ago, NY Magazine published a post with a powerful picture: a picture of 35 women, all Bill Cosby's accusers and an empty chair. Depending on who is looking at it, the empty chair could mean so many things. It could stand for the woman who is afraid to speak --- or the woman who cannot even speak --- or the woman who is yet to come out with her story. Or something else. First of all, I'm one of the people who was doubtful about the women who accused Bill Cosby of rape. I did not Continue Reading

BlogHer15 Recap: My Best Blog Conference Yet


Considering that this is only my second conference, I know it's hard to explain, but let me try to explain. First, let me tell you about last year's conference. Let me tell you the difference between Vera circa 2014 and Vera circa 2015: Circa 2014: When I went to the BlogHer14 conference last year, it was my first time and I did not know what to expect. At all. I did not have any friends or acquaintances, and I did not know if I would even make any friends. I went there with a ton of business Continue Reading

iCook: Epic Chin Chin Fail

Nigerian Chin Chin

It's been a while I did one of these food posts. I was craving chin chin the other day and I decided to make some (my very first time ever). Let me rewind: Igwe and I attended a Nigerian-Cameroonian wedding on Thursday, July 2nd in Columbia, Maryland. I did not eat any food there, but I did eat the chin chin like it was going out of style. It was sweet and soft but crunchy, just the way I like it. It was not the kind of crunchy that would give you a surprise root canal. So I ate and ate with Continue Reading

Vera Goes To New York, New York (For The BlogHer Conference)

What to pack for a blog conference

It's that time again!!! As you read this, I might already be in New York for the BlogHer (BlogHer15) Blog Conference. Last year was my first time, and I'm going again this year. This year, though, is already different from last year. For starters, I'm not as clueless as I was last year. Secondly, this feels like I'm going on a vacation where I get to work at the same time. Honestly, I regret that I don't have a close blogger friend to tag along for these things. Solachi, Uju, and Funmie have Continue Reading

Journal #6: June 2015


Welcome to July. I almost forgot to type a journal for June. The end of June just came too fast, but it's all good. My June consisted of some very hot days. Literally hot! I live on the third floor, and heat does not go well with third floors in the summer. For reasons beyond the heat, I am desperately and eagerly looking forward to Fall. Nice weather, burnt orange and ruby red trees, among many other things. I spent a lot of time thinking about Verastic in June. I have been blogging Continue Reading

Top 9 Reasons Why Nigerians Should Detest Homosexuality

Top 9 Reasons Why Nigerians Should Detest Homosexuality

Long before America made gay marriage legal across the country, Nigerians have always detested the entire concept of same-sex marriage and sex, and have always looked at America suspiciously for allowing it. It's not as if America is the only country where gay people exist, and even within Nigeria itself, there are gay people, but Nigerians do not wear it like a badge of honor because it is in fact a detestable thing. How can a man be attracted to a fellow man? But there are many valid reasons Continue Reading

Igwe Got Into A Verbal Fight For Being Yoruba

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This all happened because of goat meat. Let me explain. Usually, Funmie is the one who helps me get goat meat whenever she goes to D.C. This time, however, Igwe went (not to D.C, but to Pennsylvania).  I know, I know, the distance we'll travel for goat meat.  He had been planning on going for months with his friend, but something always came up. This time, up until the morning they actually went, he did not know whether they would make it there or not. He left the house early, like maybe Continue Reading

Recap Of Baltimore Blogalicious Pop Up Event

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Last week Wednesday, I had the pleasure of attending a pop of event hosted by the Blogalicious, and it was beyond amazing. But before it became amazing, there was me crying in the car, frustrated. Let me rewind. First of all, this is the first time I have ever attended a blog-related event in Baltimore. I don't know if they never have them, or if I just never hear of them. There are usually cool events in cities like Chicago, New York, Dallas, L.A, etc --- but never Baltimore. So when I heard Continue Reading

Being Female In Nigeria Is Not For The Faint At Heart

Being female in Nigeria

Yesterday I woke up from a nap and visited Twitter where I saw a hash tag that awoke the beast in me. Well, that's what I'm calling it. It could just be that I had a lot of say. It was a hash tag that discussed the uncomfortable truth of what it means to be female in Nigeria and all the indignation you will face, just for being female. While the hash tag says female IN Nigeria, you don't actually have to be in Nigeria to experience this brand of sexism. Being a Nigerian female and dealing with Continue Reading

Church Just Isn’t What It Used To Be


I know it probably sounds a bit crazy, considering there's nothing new under the sun, and there isn't anything happening now that has never happened before. But for my short life on earth and for the experiences such life has given me the opportunity to have, church, for me, isn't what it used to be. Church used to be a safe haven. When you're in church, you felt like you were hidden under God's big wings - or at least that's how I felt anyway. The Charleston shooting happened last week Continue Reading